Date made snide comments about me being a trust fund baby

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Anonymous wrote:I ended up unblocking him and sending a text that basically echoed what was said in the 19:13 post—so thanks for that perspective. I have two dates lined up this weekend. One guy comes from an upper-class background and the other middle class , but either way I’m not bringing up my trust fund, and honestly might want to focus on just dating other wealthy guys around me from now. And, I did need a break after a tough four years doing a rigorous curriculum at a top school.

Who do you think you're talking to here? Do you know how many of us on DCUM also graduated from Ivy League schools? And then either went on to work or go to grad school at another top-tier school? You are insufferable.

That’s very nice but considering the fact that you were aiming for a career (aka more money), which I do not need, we have different perspectives.

I think that's true, OP. Unfortunately you're going to have a difference in perspectives from many, if not most people, on these issues. It's not a qualitative judgement of you, but important information for you to absorb as you're looking for a partner. Many people have to work to support themselves, even more so when they're young. My personal feeling is that it's very difficult to develop "drive" if you don't have to. Without the necessity of paying bills, it's easy live permanently in third gear and just coast. Nothing wrong with that, unless it isolates you further from others. That's a recipe for loneliness. If working as a necessity isn't in your future, it would be useful for you to identify something you're passionate about and lean into it. This is what you'll talk to potential dates about. "I manage a bird sanctuary three days a week" is a cool topic...remember how you do or don't pay the bills is your business. But this gives people a topic about which to ask, rather than filling in the blanks of how you spend your time.

Agreed. I would love to never have to work so enjoy that for me, but I would need to be doing SOMETHING, like what gets you up out of bed every day, and what will you talk to people about, how do you make friends and such if you are idle rich?

I do have things I’m committed to and do and plan to go to grad school. My friends live similar lives to me, and there’s never not enough to do, going out with friends, partying, hanging out with parents, our many hobbies, we have a lot to talk about.

That's great OP. What's hard for you to know at your age is that by mid-life, if you haven't devoted yourself to something meaningful, many people hit a "what does it all mean" phase. And honestly being busy helps get you through that. Doesn't mean you have to be busy working retail or chained to a desk, but without a greater purpose, it all becomes a bit of a void. I'm seeing this among some of the Dads of our school families; guys that made a ton of money early and retired in their late 40's, now they're mid 50's and pretty aimless. They never really parented so they have no real role at home, and many are sort of lost. Lots of TV, too much drinking. A few affairs which I think developed out of sheer boredom. You're truly fortunate to have the range of options your wealth affords you. Remember that infinite options can sometimes be harder than just a few choices. Grad school is probably a great idea.

The vast majority of people aren't devoting themselves to something meaningful. You sound jealous.

DP but I disagree. Most people do find some way to infuse their life with meaning, whether it's through work or parenthood or relationships or their community or a hobby or something.

OP's behavior on this date isn't that different than someone who is in kind of a boring, dead-end job and, when asked what they do, just says "oh I'm in this boring dead-end job" and nothing else. That would also be a turn off for most people. When you are dating, it is so much more interesting to talk to someone who seems to care about something, whether it's their job or something else. I had a really boring job I was not passionate about in my 20s, but I also had interests and hobbies I did care about, and would have mostly talked about that on a date. I think it's particularly sad OP doesn't have that when she doesn't even have the burden of spending 40 hours a week at a job just to pay rent. She sounds directionless.

Most people have meaning in their lives.

OP can find joy and meaning in whatever she wants. She mentions multiple hobbies and interests. It's not really your place to tell others what counts as meaningful to them.

When it comes down to it, obviously her date did not think she was doing anything meaningful. Presumably after spending an hour with her, he picked up on the fact that she's a boring dud who lacks self awareness.

If she'd waxed on about her weekends scooping shit at the humane society and spending 3 hours a day 7 days a week at her great grandma's memory care facility, he probably wouldn't have accused her of being a lazy trust fund kid.

Or her date was a big AH who can't handle a woman with her own money. Insecure man children don't tend to make good partners anyways, so the trash essentially took itself out.

It’s not her own money

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Being 24 or 25 and saying you have a trust fund could also be code for you're 24 or 25 and can't find a normal job because you're a head case (irrespective of if you have a trust fund (or not)).

Some people will make all sorts of excuses about why they aren't working. In DC which is a working town, the starting assumption is going to be that if you don't work, you're a head case.

Now if you are in Newport, RI or Miami, the situation could be different.

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Anonymous wrote:I ended up unblocking him and sending a text that basically echoed what was said in the 19:13 post—so thanks for that perspective. I have two dates lined up this weekend. One guy comes from an upper-class background and the other middle class , but either way I’m not bringing up my trust fund, and honestly might want to focus on just dating other wealthy guys around me from now. And, I did need a break after a tough four years doing a rigorous curriculum at a top school.

Who do you think you're talking to here? Do you know how many of us on DCUM also graduated from Ivy League schools? And then either went on to work or go to grad school at another top-tier school? You are insufferable.

That’s very nice but considering the fact that you were aiming for a career (aka more money), which I do not need, we have different perspectives.

I think that's true, OP. Unfortunately you're going to have a difference in perspectives from many, if not most people, on these issues. It's not a qualitative judgement of you, but important information for you to absorb as you're looking for a partner. Many people have to work to support themselves, even more so when they're young. My personal feeling is that it's very difficult to develop "drive" if you don't have to. Without the necessity of paying bills, it's easy live permanently in third gear and just coast. Nothing wrong with that, unless it isolates you further from others. That's a recipe for loneliness. If working as a necessity isn't in your future, it would be useful for you to identify something you're passionate about and lean into it. This is what you'll talk to potential dates about. "I manage a bird sanctuary three days a week" is a cool topic...remember how you do or don't pay the bills is your business. But this gives people a topic about which to ask, rather than filling in the blanks of how you spend your time.

Agreed. I would love to never have to work so enjoy that for me, but I would need to be doing SOMETHING, like what gets you up out of bed every day, and what will you talk to people about, how do you make friends and such if you are idle rich?

I do have things I’m committed to and do and plan to go to grad school. My friends live similar lives to me, and there’s never not enough to do, going out with friends, partying, hanging out with parents, our many hobbies, we have a lot to talk about.

That's great OP. What's hard for you to know at your age is that by mid-life, if you haven't devoted yourself to something meaningful, many people hit a "what does it all mean" phase. And honestly being busy helps get you through that. Doesn't mean you have to be busy working retail or chained to a desk, but without a greater purpose, it all becomes a bit of a void. I'm seeing this among some of the Dads of our school families; guys that made a ton of money early and retired in their late 40's, now they're mid 50's and pretty aimless. They never really parented so they have no real role at home, and many are sort of lost. Lots of TV, too much drinking. A few affairs which I think developed out of sheer boredom. You're truly fortunate to have the range of options your wealth affords you. Remember that infinite options can sometimes be harder than just a few choices. Grad school is probably a great idea.

The vast majority of people aren't devoting themselves to something meaningful. You sound jealous.

Normal people are devoted to surviving and getting by in life. They work hard to keep everyone alive, pay the bills, and make sure nobody starves. OP is just an empty vessel of nothingness.

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Anonymous wrote:I ended up unblocking him and sending a text that basically echoed what was said in the 19:13 post—so thanks for that perspective. I have two dates lined up this weekend. One guy comes from an upper-class background and the other middle class , but either way I’m not bringing up my trust fund, and honestly might want to focus on just dating other wealthy guys around me from now. And, I did need a break after a tough four years doing a rigorous curriculum at a top school.

Who do you think you're talking to here? Do you know how many of us on DCUM also graduated from Ivy League schools? And then either went on to work or go to grad school at another top-tier school? You are insufferable.

That’s very nice but considering the fact that you were aiming for a career (aka more money), which I do not need, we have different perspectives.

I think that's true, OP. Unfortunately you're going to have a difference in perspectives from many, if not most people, on these issues. It's not a qualitative judgement of you, but important information for you to absorb as you're looking for a partner. Many people have to work to support themselves, even more so when they're young. My personal feeling is that it's very difficult to develop "drive" if you don't have to. Without the necessity of paying bills, it's easy live permanently in third gear and just coast. Nothing wrong with that, unless it isolates you further from others. That's a recipe for loneliness. If working as a necessity isn't in your future, it would be useful for you to identify something you're passionate about and lean into it. This is what you'll talk to potential dates about. "I manage a bird sanctuary three days a week" is a cool topic...remember how you do or don't pay the bills is your business. But this gives people a topic about which to ask, rather than filling in the blanks of how you spend your time.

Agreed. I would love to never have to work so enjoy that for me, but I would need to be doing SOMETHING, like what gets you up out of bed every day, and what will you talk to people about, how do you make friends and such if you are idle rich?

I do have things I’m committed to and do and plan to go to grad school. My friends live similar lives to me, and there’s never not enough to do, going out with friends, partying, hanging out with parents, our many hobbies, we have a lot to talk about.

That's great OP. What's hard for you to know at your age is that by mid-life, if you haven't devoted yourself to something meaningful, many people hit a "what does it all mean" phase. And honestly being busy helps get you through that. Doesn't mean you have to be busy working retail or chained to a desk, but without a greater purpose, it all becomes a bit of a void. I'm seeing this among some of the Dads of our school families; guys that made a ton of money early and retired in their late 40's, now they're mid 50's and pretty aimless. They never really parented so they have no real role at home, and many are sort of lost. Lots of TV, too much drinking. A few affairs which I think developed out of sheer boredom. You're truly fortunate to have the range of options your wealth affords you. Remember that infinite options can sometimes be harder than just a few choices. Grad school is probably a great idea.

The vast majority of people aren't devoting themselves to something meaningful. You sound jealous.

DP but I disagree. Most people do find some way to infuse their life with meaning, whether it's through work or parenthood or relationships or their community or a hobby or something.

OP's behavior on this date isn't that different than someone who is in kind of a boring, dead-end job and, when asked what they do, just says "oh I'm in this boring dead-end job" and nothing else. That would also be a turn off for most people. When you are dating, it is so much more interesting to talk to someone who seems to care about something, whether it's their job or something else. I had a really boring job I was not passionate about in my 20s, but I also had interests and hobbies I did care about, and would have mostly talked about that on a date. I think it's particularly sad OP doesn't have that when she doesn't even have the burden of spending 40 hours a week at a job just to pay rent. She sounds directionless.

Most people have meaning in their lives.

OP can find joy and meaning in whatever she wants. She mentions multiple hobbies and interests. It's not really your place to tell others what counts as meaningful to them.

When it comes down to it, obviously her date did not think she was doing anything meaningful. Presumably after spending an hour with her, he picked up on the fact that she's a boring dud who lacks self awareness.

If she'd waxed on about her weekends scooping shit at the humane society and spending 3 hours a day 7 days a week at her great grandma's memory care facility, he probably wouldn't have accused her of being a lazy trust fund kid.

Or her date was a big AH who can't handle a woman with her own money. Insecure man children don't tend to make good partners anyways, so the trash essentially took itself out.

It’s not her own money

It 100% is. Is it in her bank account? Can she spend it? Does she own it? Yes. It's hers.

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Anonymous wrote:I ended up unblocking him and sending a text that basically echoed what was said in the 19:13 post—so thanks for that perspective. I have two dates lined up this weekend. One guy comes from an upper-class background and the other middle class , but either way I’m not bringing up my trust fund, and honestly might want to focus on just dating other wealthy guys around me from now. And, I did need a break after a tough four years doing a rigorous curriculum at a top school.

Who do you think you're talking to here? Do you know how many of us on DCUM also graduated from Ivy League schools? And then either went on to work or go to grad school at another top-tier school? You are insufferable.

That’s very nice but considering the fact that you were aiming for a career (aka more money), which I do not need, we have different perspectives.

I think that's true, OP. Unfortunately you're going to have a difference in perspectives from many, if not most people, on these issues. It's not a qualitative judgement of you, but important information for you to absorb as you're looking for a partner. Many people have to work to support themselves, even more so when they're young. My personal feeling is that it's very difficult to develop "drive" if you don't have to. Without the necessity of paying bills, it's easy live permanently in third gear and just coast. Nothing wrong with that, unless it isolates you further from others. That's a recipe for loneliness. If working as a necessity isn't in your future, it would be useful for you to identify something you're passionate about and lean into it. This is what you'll talk to potential dates about. "I manage a bird sanctuary three days a week" is a cool topic...remember how you do or don't pay the bills is your business. But this gives people a topic about which to ask, rather than filling in the blanks of how you spend your time.

Agreed. I would love to never have to work so enjoy that for me, but I would need to be doing SOMETHING, like what gets you up out of bed every day, and what will you talk to people about, how do you make friends and such if you are idle rich?

I do have things I’m committed to and do and plan to go to grad school. My friends live similar lives to me, and there’s never not enough to do, going out with friends, partying, hanging out with parents, our many hobbies, we have a lot to talk about.

That's great OP. What's hard for you to know at your age is that by mid-life, if you haven't devoted yourself to something meaningful, many people hit a "what does it all mean" phase. And honestly being busy helps get you through that. Doesn't mean you have to be busy working retail or chained to a desk, but without a greater purpose, it all becomes a bit of a void. I'm seeing this among some of the Dads of our school families; guys that made a ton of money early and retired in their late 40's, now they're mid 50's and pretty aimless. They never really parented so they have no real role at home, and many are sort of lost. Lots of TV, too much drinking. A few affairs which I think developed out of sheer boredom. You're truly fortunate to have the range of options your wealth affords you. Remember that infinite options can sometimes be harder than just a few choices. Grad school is probably a great idea.

The vast majority of people aren't devoting themselves to something meaningful. You sound jealous.

Normal people are devoted to surviving and getting by in life. They work hard to keep everyone alive, pay the bills, and make sure nobody starves. OP is just an empty vessel of nothingness.

Living the life everyone dreams of, instead of having to just "survive", is now "nothingness".

Jealousy is so ugly!

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t listen to these losers . They wish they were you. A lot of them didn’t come from money and had to grind to make it, which is hard as a woman, and they ended up getting married to lackluster men and are now unhappy with their lives in middle age. They’re very envious of a hot rich 24yo woman.

Lol if op were hot, I suspect the guy she went on a date with wouldn’t have had a problem with her layabout life. Her problem is she’s not hot.

I don’t think he has a problem with the way she lives her life moreso, is jealous about how easy she has it. Why would he go on a date with her and continue contacting her if he didn’t like her?

I mean he was still trying to bang

Yeah, the date going poorly is more a reflection on this dude than OP. He was clearly still interested, he just wanted to tear her down a bit first.

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Anonymous wrote:I ended up unblocking him and sending a text that basically echoed what was said in the 19:13 post—so thanks for that perspective. I have two dates lined up this weekend. One guy comes from an upper-class background and the other middle class , but either way I’m not bringing up my trust fund, and honestly might want to focus on just dating other wealthy guys around me from now. And, I did need a break after a tough four years doing a rigorous curriculum at a top school.

Who do you think you're talking to here? Do you know how many of us on DCUM also graduated from Ivy League schools? And then either went on to work or go to grad school at another top-tier school? You are insufferable.

That’s very nice but considering the fact that you were aiming for a career (aka more money), which I do not need, we have different perspectives.

I think that's true, OP. Unfortunately you're going to have a difference in perspectives from many, if not most people, on these issues. It's not a qualitative judgement of you, but important information for you to absorb as you're looking for a partner. Many people have to work to support themselves, even more so when they're young. My personal feeling is that it's very difficult to develop "drive" if you don't have to. Without the necessity of paying bills, it's easy live permanently in third gear and just coast. Nothing wrong with that, unless it isolates you further from others. That's a recipe for loneliness. If working as a necessity isn't in your future, it would be useful for you to identify something you're passionate about and lean into it. This is what you'll talk to potential dates about. "I manage a bird sanctuary three days a week" is a cool topic...remember how you do or don't pay the bills is your business. But this gives people a topic about which to ask, rather than filling in the blanks of how you spend your time.

Agreed. I would love to never have to work so enjoy that for me, but I would need to be doing SOMETHING, like what gets you up out of bed every day, and what will you talk to people about, how do you make friends and such if you are idle rich?

I do have things I’m committed to and do and plan to go to grad school. My friends live similar lives to me, and there’s never not enough to do, going out with friends, partying, hanging out with parents, our many hobbies, we have a lot to talk about.

That's great OP. What's hard for you to know at your age is that by mid-life, if you haven't devoted yourself to something meaningful, many people hit a "what does it all mean" phase. And honestly being busy helps get you through that. Doesn't mean you have to be busy working retail or chained to a desk, but without a greater purpose, it all becomes a bit of a void. I'm seeing this among some of the Dads of our school families; guys that made a ton of money early and retired in their late 40's, now they're mid 50's and pretty aimless. They never really parented so they have no real role at home, and many are sort of lost. Lots of TV, too much drinking. A few affairs which I think developed out of sheer boredom. You're truly fortunate to have the range of options your wealth affords you. Remember that infinite options can sometimes be harder than just a few choices. Grad school is probably a great idea.

The vast majority of people aren't devoting themselves to something meaningful. You sound jealous.

DP but I disagree. Most people do find some way to infuse their life with meaning, whether it's through work or parenthood or relationships or their community or a hobby or something.

OP's behavior on this date isn't that different than someone who is in kind of a boring, dead-end job and, when asked what they do, just says "oh I'm in this boring dead-end job" and nothing else. That would also be a turn off for most people. When you are dating, it is so much more interesting to talk to someone who seems to care about something, whether it's their job or something else. I had a really boring job I was not passionate about in my 20s, but I also had interests and hobbies I did care about, and would have mostly talked about that on a date. I think it's particularly sad OP doesn't have that when she doesn't even have the burden of spending 40 hours a week at a job just to pay rent. She sounds directionless.

Most people have meaning in their lives.

OP can find joy and meaning in whatever she wants. She mentions multiple hobbies and interests. It's not really your place to tell others what counts as meaningful to them.

When it comes down to it, obviously her date did not think she was doing anything meaningful. Presumably after spending an hour with her, he picked up on the fact that she's a boring dud who lacks self awareness.

If she'd waxed on about her weekends scooping shit at the humane society and spending 3 hours a day 7 days a week at her great grandma's memory care facility, he probably wouldn't have accused her of being a lazy trust fund kid.

Or her date was a big AH who can't handle a woman with her own money. Insecure man children don't tend to make good partners anyways, so the trash essentially took itself out.

It’s not her own money

It 100% is. Is it in her bank account? Can she spend it? Does she own it? Yes. It's hers.

I think you don't know what a trust is.

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Can the one poster who has been posting a variation of "you're just jealous of OP! A woman with her own money" stop posting? Or can jeff confirm that that poster is just OP posting again and again in support of herself?

Literally no one is jealous of OP. She sounds like a low functioning nut.

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Anonymous wrote:I ended up unblocking him and sending a text that basically echoed what was said in the 19:13 post—so thanks for that perspective. I have two dates lined up this weekend. One guy comes from an upper-class background and the other middle class , but either way I’m not bringing up my trust fund, and honestly might want to focus on just dating other wealthy guys around me from now. And, I did need a break after a tough four years doing a rigorous curriculum at a top school.

Who do you think you're talking to here? Do you know how many of us on DCUM also graduated from Ivy League schools? And then either went on to work or go to grad school at another top-tier school? You are insufferable.

That’s very nice but considering the fact that you were aiming for a career (aka more money), which I do not need, we have different perspectives.

Your grandad is rolling in his grave seeing his money wasted when he was thinking he built multigenerational wealth that his descendants would add to and grow.

Shes only 24. Her grand dad is most likely still alive, and her trust has over 50 million.. what can someone add to that?

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Anonymous wrote:I ended up unblocking him and sending a text that basically echoed what was said in the 19:13 post—so thanks for that perspective. I have two dates lined up this weekend. One guy comes from an upper-class background and the other middle class , but either way I’m not bringing up my trust fund, and honestly might want to focus on just dating other wealthy guys around me from now. And, I did need a break after a tough four years doing a rigorous curriculum at a top school.

So you’ve been on a 2 year break?

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Discrimination against rich people, particularly women, is real. Next time, dont date self made guys.

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NP.
People are judgey, and especially so toward people who can afford to lead a low effort life.
They don’t understand it’s more of a choice than privilege.
Even if you are not born into money you can arrange it for yourself to not work work work.
I am someone who doesn’t have a trust fund but I get by on little and I always tell people I have my job, or very close to my real job, but just make it sound like it’s full time and year round. They don’t need to know that it’s very part time or that I have other sources of income.

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Anonymous wrote:You gave up the info too soon

This. You should be careful OP. For your safety and also dating. You could attract the wrong kind of person. Luckily this guy showed you who he was quickly, but in the future just say you work from home or something.

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Anonymous wrote:Being 24 or 25 and saying you have a trust fund could also be code for you're 24 or 25 and can't find a normal job because you're a head case (irrespective of if you have a trust fund (or not)).

Some people will make all sorts of excuses about why they aren't working. In DC which is a working town, the starting assumption is going to be that if you don't work, you're a head case.

Now if you are in Newport, RI or Miami, the situation could be different.

Even in those places, most would be "designing their own handbag line" or "opening a lifestyle boutique." Pretty unusual for someone that age to be doing nothing.

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Anonymous wrote:I ended up unblocking him and sending a text that basically echoed what was said in the 19:13 post—so thanks for that perspective. I have two dates lined up this weekend. One guy comes from an upper-class background and the other middle class , but either way I’m not bringing up my trust fund, and honestly might want to focus on just dating other wealthy guys around me from now. And, I did need a break after a tough four years doing a rigorous curriculum at a top school.

Who do you think you're talking to here? Do you know how many of us on DCUM also graduated from Ivy League schools? And then either went on to work or go to grad school at another top-tier school? You are insufferable.

That’s very nice but considering the fact that you were aiming for a career (aka more money), which I do not need, we have different perspectives.

I think that's true, OP. Unfortunately you're going to have a difference in perspectives from many, if not most people, on these issues. It's not a qualitative judgement of you, but important information for you to absorb as you're looking for a partner. Many people have to work to support themselves, even more so when they're young. My personal feeling is that it's very difficult to develop "drive" if you don't have to. Without the necessity of paying bills, it's easy live permanently in third gear and just coast. Nothing wrong with that, unless it isolates you further from others. That's a recipe for loneliness. If working as a necessity isn't in your future, it would be useful for you to identify something you're passionate about and lean into it. This is what you'll talk to potential dates about. "I manage a bird sanctuary three days a week" is a cool topic...remember how you do or don't pay the bills is your business. But this gives people a topic about which to ask, rather than filling in the blanks of how you spend your time.

Agreed. I would love to never have to work so enjoy that for me, but I would need to be doing SOMETHING, like what gets you up out of bed every day, and what will you talk to people about, how do you make friends and such if you are idle rich?

I do have things I’m committed to and do and plan to go to grad school. My friends live similar lives to me, and there’s never not enough to do, going out with friends, partying, hanging out with parents, our many hobbies, we have a lot to talk about.

That's great OP. What's hard for you to know at your age is that by mid-life, if you haven't devoted yourself to something meaningful, many people hit a "what does it all mean" phase. And honestly being busy helps get you through that. Doesn't mean you have to be busy working retail or chained to a desk, but without a greater purpose, it all becomes a bit of a void. I'm seeing this among some of the Dads of our school families; guys that made a ton of money early and retired in their late 40's, now they're mid 50's and pretty aimless. They never really parented so they have no real role at home, and many are sort of lost. Lots of TV, too much drinking. A few affairs which I think developed out of sheer boredom. You're truly fortunate to have the range of options your wealth affords you. Remember that infinite options can sometimes be harder than just a few choices. Grad school is probably a great idea.

The vast majority of people aren't devoting themselves to something meaningful. You sound jealous.

DP but I disagree. Most people do find some way to infuse their life with meaning, whether it's through work or parenthood or relationships or their community or a hobby or something.

OP's behavior on this date isn't that different than someone who is in kind of a boring, dead-end job and, when asked what they do, just says "oh I'm in this boring dead-end job" and nothing else. That would also be a turn off for most people. When you are dating, it is so much more interesting to talk to someone who seems to care about something, whether it's their job or something else. I had a really boring job I was not passionate about in my 20s, but I also had interests and hobbies I did care about, and would have mostly talked about that on a date. I think it's particularly sad OP doesn't have that when she doesn't even have the burden of spending 40 hours a week at a job just to pay rent. She sounds directionless.

Most people have meaning in their lives.

OP can find joy and meaning in whatever she wants. She mentions multiple hobbies and interests. It's not really your place to tell others what counts as meaningful to them.

When it comes down to it, obviously her date did not think she was doing anything meaningful. Presumably after spending an hour with her, he picked up on the fact that she's a boring dud who lacks self awareness.

If she'd waxed on about her weekends scooping shit at the humane society and spending 3 hours a day 7 days a week at her great grandma's memory care facility, he probably wouldn't have accused her of being a lazy trust fund kid.

Or her date was a big AH who can't handle a woman with her own money. Insecure man children don't tend to make good partners anyways, so the trash essentially took itself out.

It’s not her own money

It 100% is. Is it in her bank account? Can she spend it? Does she own it? Yes. It's hers.

I think you don't know what a trust is.

Or maybe you don't? It's clearly her money.