What would you make of this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree that hunting down the tickets would have been one option, but since you planned the other dates, I can understand why you didn’t want to take the lead on the next one.

Still, I think you dropped the ball when you suggested “one of our places” and did not follow up with anything more concrete.
1- inviting yourself over
2- before you have invited her to your place
3- maybe she has a roommate?
4- would you expect her to cook for you?

Why not offer to grab take out on Saturday night and suggest a specific movie to watch. Then, “Your place or mine?”

OP here. When I originally suggested staying in, I asked is she’d like to do her place or mine. She said she didn’t know. So I offered to come to her place, because she did a lot of driving with her friends the day before. I was going to surprise her and bring a dish I cooked that she said is one of her favorites.

Don’t invite yourself over ugh. You could have said you’d love to have her over, you’ll cook or order takeout etc.

I’d rather go to a guys place the first time we hook up so I can leave after. I don’t want to feel trapped with you at my house if the sex sucks and I’d like to see your place to make sure it’s clean, no signs of a wife etc

[Anonymous]

From a Female perspective:

When you suggested hanging out at the other’s house (vs. suggesting somewhere else you two could go on a date to) she took it as you were implying that you were ready to “hook up” ➕ this likely offended her so she told you that she had a guy over as a passive / aggressive comment.

I think you two should speak to each other about this directly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When she told you tickets were sold out, you should have suggested another activity (not coming to your place to bang) that would be fun and feel safe to her. You blew it.

Yup. 👍🏽

I concur.

[Anonymous]

OP tried to force sex and lost everything. Oh noes, poor him.

Oh well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating a woman for 6 weeks. We both were out of town for the holidays so meetups have been a little sparse. Our dates have gone well so far.

She mentioned she’d like to see each other this weekend and I said I’d like that and that I didn’t have any plans so my calendar was wide open for whenever she’d like to get together. She said there was an activity she wanted to do together but their tickets were sold out. It said no need to do anything extravagant, I’d like to just spend time together. We could go to one of our places (we haven’t done this before).

She never made any concrete plans with me for the weekend, but told me about how she was with her guy friends all weekend including one who came over her place.

I was kinda put off by this. I’m dating for something serious and have been upfront about that. I get everyone has a life, but I feel like it’s a little bit of a flag that she didn’t fit me in at all. What do you think?

No, it doesn't seem like that. Otherwise you'd a) make an effort to plan a date and b) not push for sex when she clearly wasn't ready.

You're still in the courting stages, and doesn't even sound like youre bf/gf official. But you want her to settle for you schlepping over to her house for a "hang out"? C'mon now. Women with standards - and one you apparently liked a lot - don't need to settle for low effort men. So either up your dating game or lower your dating standards.

[Anonymous]

OP here. This thread has been insane. One thing I didn’t mention is that I’m a woman. We both are. The level of entitlement expressed in this thread is downright scary. What the heck. I’ve been nothing but kind to this woman. Some of you need to seriously get over yourselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The tickets being sold out was your hint to figure out how to track them down. The mentioning of guy friends is a "see I have other options" " see you have to work harder to get me". No thanks.

Yep, that's it exactly. She wants to catered to & show you if you don't you can be replaced. Time to fade out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When she told you tickets were sold out, you should have suggested another activity (not coming to your place to bang) that would be fun and feel safe to her. You blew it.

I agree. A suggestion to come over to bang (or watch TV etc) is lame. You didn't give her a date or say, let's naked dinner together or anything. She found better plans so good for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. This thread has been insane. One thing I didn’t mention is that I’m a woman. We both are. The level of entitlement expressed in this thread is downright scary. What the heck. I’ve been nothing but kind to this woman. Some of you need to seriously get over yourselves.

Sure you are. Why would a lesbian be threatened by another lesbian hanging out with male friends? Give it a rest.

She deserves better than a low effort man desperate to bang.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. This thread has been insane. One thing I didn’t mention is that I’m a woman. We both are. The level of entitlement expressed in this thread is downright scary. What the heck. I’ve been nothing but kind to this woman. Some of you need to seriously get over yourselves.

I don't think you understand what that word means. Suggesting that some women don't want to "netflix and chill" in early dating and prefer more effort is hardly entitled. It's trying to help YOU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. This thread has been insane. One thing I didn’t mention is that I’m a woman. We both are. The level of entitlement expressed in this thread is downright scary. What the heck. I’ve been nothing but kind to this woman. Some of you need to seriously get over yourselves.

I don't think you understand what that word means. Suggesting that some women don't want to "netflix and chill" in early dating and prefer more effort is hardly entitled. It's trying to help YOU.

It absolutely is entitled. Not because someone can’t refuse Netflix and chill, but because nearly every responder expects OP to do all the work for absolutely no reason! She’s already planned multiple nice dates. Why can’t the other woman plan ONE?!?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. This thread has been insane. One thing I didn’t mention is that I’m a woman. We both are. The level of entitlement expressed in this thread is downright scary. What the heck. I’ve been nothing but kind to this woman. Some of you need to seriously get over yourselves.

Oh lol no wonder you weren’t invited to the family. She’s not into you. This thing is over. She moved on to some good peen as she should

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. This thread has been insane. One thing I didn’t mention is that I’m a woman. We both are. The level of entitlement expressed in this thread is downright scary. What the heck. I’ve been nothing but kind to this woman. Some of you need to seriously get over yourselves.

I don't think you understand what that word means. Suggesting that some women don't want to "netflix and chill" in early dating and prefer more effort is hardly entitled. It's trying to help YOU.

It absolutely is entitled. Not because someone can’t refuse Netflix and chill, but because nearly every responder expects OP to do all the work for absolutely no reason! She’s already planned multiple nice dates. Why can’t the other woman plan ONE?!?!

It's not a woman. That's op trying to back track.