What would you make of this?
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Anonymous
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I’ve been dating a woman for 6 weeks. We both were out of town for the holidays so meetups have been a little sparse. Our dates have gone well so far.
She mentioned she’d like to see each other this weekend and I said I’d like that and that I didn’t have any plans so my calendar was wide open for whenever she’d like to get together. She said there was an activity she wanted to do together but their tickets were sold out. It said no need to do anything extravagant, I’d like to just spend time together. We could go to one of our places (we haven’t done this before). She never made any concrete plans with me for the weekend, but told me about how she was with her guy friends all weekend including one who came over her place. I was kinda put off by this. I’m dating for something serious and have been upfront about that. I get everyone has a life, but I feel like it’s a little bit of a flag that she didn’t fit me in at all. What do you think? |
Anonymous
| Doesn't sound like either of you are that invested. Did you even attempt to make concrete plans with her? |
Anonymous
| I'd be done with her. |
Anonymous
| I would be put off if I was suggesting an activity and you just said you wanted to come over for sex. But then it sounds like she had a guy over for sex anyway. So neither of you seem like great picks. |
Anonymous
| The tickets being sold out was your hint to figure out how to track them down. The mentioning of guy friends is a "see I have other options" " see you have to work harder to get me". No thanks. |
Anonymous
You didn’t make concrete plans with her, either….. |
Anonymous
Op here. I have taken her on multiple nice well thought out dates. I don’t want to do all the planning always. I suggested it because I didn’t want her to feel like she had to do something big to spend time with me. I just wanted to see her. I did not expect sex. We have been moving slow in that department, which is fine with me. |
Anonymous
| Based on your last reply, I think she may be ghosting you. Good for her. |
Anonymous
This. lol. Because how dare you. You haven’t even seen her in 2 weeks and you invited yourself over? She has people for that. 💅 |
Anonymous
Sis is weeding out men who intend to drop the entire mental load on her. I’m taking notes. She is a goddess. |
Anonymous
| These responses are stupid. There’s nothing offensive about suggesting a night in to someone you’ve been seeing for 6 weeks. We are all adults. If someone suggests something you don’t want to do then you come up with some other option. If OP has been planning all the dates, it’s now her turn to come up with something. Tickets sold out is not an excuse. find something else. |
Anonymous
| When she told you tickets were sold out, you should have suggested another activity (not coming to your place to bang) that would be fun and feel safe to her. You blew it. |
Anonymous
If this is what dating today is like I’m extra glad I’m married. This isn’t some stranger. They’ve been seeing each other for 6 weeks. If you’re afraid to be alone with someone after 6!weeks you should stop seeing them. And that doesn’t mean you have to have sex at 6 weeks. But if you still think they may be a serial killer that’s not good. Why shouldn’t she come up with a plan for the date if she wanted one? Sounds incredibly lazy if OP has already planned several nice outings. Most people want a partnership, not some child they have to plan for 24/7. She’s a grown up just like he is. |
Anonymous
| No one knows what went through her mind. If you like her, ask her out and be concrete about it. If you don't, don't. |
Anonymous
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When I don’t have a sex partner I date. And when I date, I would try to have sex on date 4-5 if the guy had current STD testing and uses protection. No need to drag things at this she. And I usually plan something for date 3 myself - it’s just a good tone to be reciprocal and show the guy I’m interested in him, too.
I think you should leave her |