What would you make of this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The tickets being sold out was your hint to figure out how to track them down. The mentioning of guy friends is a "see I have other options" " see you have to work harder to get me". No thanks.

This. Maybe not track them down, but come up with a similar alternative.
The guy friends is definitely about showing you that she has other options when you didn’t make plans.

You can step up your game or you can find someone else, but I don’t think she’s up for weekends with no plans other than hanging out.

Also this. If you can't plan a date after 6 weeks of dating and are resorting to "let's just hang out" and expecting her to fill in the gaps, you deserve to get dumped. Lazy af.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, you come off as boring and cheap.
I would have asked her for specific date and time while both still away, and something nice like dinner out or theater. You are dating, make an effort.

OP here. I’m far from cheap. I’ve taken her on 6 very nice dates including a play, concert, and sporting event with nice seats. While away I reached out to make plans and took her to a nice dinner and wine tasting and purchased her two favorite bottles (something she’s into). This would’ve been our second time seeing each other since holiday travel.

[Anonymous]

I think it's tacky that she hinted you should spend big bucks to acquire tickets to a sold out show. By 6 weeks she should be fine with affordable/free outings where you grab a quick bite to eat. The fact that she's implying that she requires expensive full-on romantic date nights is a concern.

[Anonymous]

If she really was hinting that you should have gotten tickets to that sold out show you should move on and be grateful to get out this soon.

But I disagree that by week six she should be "fine" with non date dates. The women I know would still expect nice dates at that point and not a lame hang out. It's lazy and cheap on your part.

[Anonymous]

Are you actually looking for something serious? Or are you just looking for sex? Sounds like you were waiting around for her to invite you over for sex, but you should have just planned a date.
YTA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The tickets being sold out was your hint to figure out how to track them down. The mentioning of guy friends is a "see I have other options" " see you have to work harder to get me". No thanks.

This. Maybe not track them down, but come up with a similar alternative.
The guy friends is definitely about showing you that she has other options when you didn’t make plans.

You can step up your game or you can find someone else, but I don’t think she’s up for weekends with no plans other than hanging out.

Also this. If you can't plan a date after 6 weeks of dating and are resorting to "let's just hang out" and expecting her to fill in the gaps, you deserve to get dumped. Lazy af.

Agreed. Usually I'd expect men to make an effort for a bit longer before the mask drops. Especially after not seeing each other for a few weeks over xmas. Not sure if this is a new record for lazy men or what.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree that hunting down the tickets would have been one option, but since you planned the other dates, I can understand why you didn’t want to take the lead on the next one.

Still, I think you dropped the ball when you suggested “one of our places” and did not follow up with anything more concrete.
1- inviting yourself over
2- before you have invited her to your place
3- maybe she has a roommate?
4- would you expect her to cook for you?

Why not offer to grab take out on Saturday night and suggest a specific movie to watch. Then, “Your place or mine?”

OP here. When I originally suggested staying in, I asked is she’d like to do her place or mine. She said she didn’t know. So I offered to come to her place, because she did a lot of driving with her friends the day before. I was going to surprise her and bring a dish I cooked that she said is one of her favorites.

So you basically said "I'm ready for us to have sex, do you want to do it at your house or mine" and her non-answer was clearly an answer. She doesn't want a horndog bf. She wants someone who cares about her as more than a warm hole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating a woman for 6 weeks. We both were out of town for the holidays so meetups have been a little sparse. Our dates have gone well so far.

She mentioned she’d like to see each other this weekend and I said I’d like that and that I didn’t have any plans so my calendar was wide open for whenever she’d like to get together. She said there was an activity she wanted to do together but their tickets were sold out. It said no need to do anything extravagant, I’d like to just spend time together. We could go to one of our places (we haven’t done this before).

She never made any concrete plans with me for the weekend, but told me about how she was with her guy friends all weekend including one who came over her place.

I was kinda put off by this. I’m dating for something serious and have been upfront about that. I get everyone has a life, but I feel like it’s a little bit of a flag that she didn’t fit me in at all. What do you think?

I think you sound lazy af, and a bit paranoid. She didn't make plans for you so you sat at home and pouted, and then got petty about the fact that she has male friends who actually came over? You sound like a bullet to be dodged.

If you want to make plans, make the plans. Halfheartedly suggesting hanging out at your place or hers is lazy af. You can suggest it, but if she doesn't take you up on it, pivot, bro. And stop being ugly about the fact that she has male friends. Only weakass immature men get petty jealous about a woman having male friends. Sounds like you have control issues. The red flag here is yours.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's tacky that she hinted you should spend big bucks to acquire tickets to a sold out show. By 6 weeks she should be fine with affordable/free outings where you grab a quick bite to eat. The fact that she's implying that she requires expensive full-on romantic date nights is a concern.

Ew, spoken like someone without standards. No, just because it's been 6 weeks since their first date, she doesnt need to settle for sexual non-dates at her home. JFC.

[Anonymous]

Dang, he gets the blame? Sure, bad communication. Yet, she is the one sleeping with another dude ( of course all is a flex) but you get the point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be done with her.

+1 Same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's tacky that she hinted you should spend big bucks to acquire tickets to a sold out show. By 6 weeks she should be fine with affordable/free outings where you grab a quick bite to eat. The fact that she's implying that she requires expensive full-on romantic date nights is a concern.

Yeah, she sounds like a game player. The thing with the other guys is some kind of message but who wants to do puzzles? You sound like you fine and willing to court someone. Find someone who appreciates you. You will.

[Anonymous]

Im a woman who is pretty into gender roles (eg man organizes and plans dates early on). But even I think after a few nice dates described by OP it would be nice of her to do something for him. Either she’s using him or lacks social intelligence and overall impolite person.

His take if he wants to continue

[Anonymous]

She sounds like a loser

[ZachF]

She should have offered to cook you a nice dinner at her place by now. But she played you hard instead and rubbed it in your face. She has no respect for you. Respect yourself and get out now. You are the prize not her. Let the next simp buy her concert tickets and get dragged along.