OLD is a truly humbling experience

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Anonymous wrote:I am 43F, 5'3'' and 190 lbs. If I want action, I can get plenty of action so I just date but settling down with a long term relationship is a different issue.

I actually love your body type. I'm sure you have got a nice big butt. I'm 45. But you probably don't find tall 6' skinny men attractive.

I have an ok butt but also have a belly and a lot of fat around mid-section that makes me look pregnant. I need to lose some weight but not happening easily.

PP, do you get hit on a lot? Some men would pick chubby women if they are also good in bed.

How would they know they are good in bed before taking them out

They don't and some women are just good in flirting but bad in bed. If they connect their self-worth by their weight and looks then they are going to be very insecure in bed as well. My sister is like this - she is in her early 40s and start talking to good men for a month or two and then they disappear. She told me (I am a woman too) that she doesn't like to give or receive oral and her sex drive has gone down and it gets difficult for her to keep men engaged if they are doing everything and she is not giving them good sex.

Yikes and then she is going from guy to guy and trying to find something that is already inside her.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 43F, 5'3'' and 190 lbs. If I want action, I can get plenty of action so I just date but settling down with a long term relationship is a different issue.

I actually love your body type. I'm sure you have got a nice big butt. I'm 45. But you probably don't find tall 6' skinny men attractive.

I have an ok butt but also have a belly and a lot of fat around mid-section that makes me look pregnant. I need to lose some weight but not happening easily.

PP, do you get hit on a lot? Some men would pick chubby women if they are also good in bed.

How would they know they are good in bed before taking them out

They don't and some women are just good in flirting but bad in bed. If they connect their self-worth by their weight and looks then they are going to be very insecure in bed as well. My sister is like this - she is in her early 40s and start talking to good men for a month or two and then they disappear. She told me (I am a woman too) that she doesn't like to give or receive oral and her sex drive has gone down and it gets difficult for her to keep men engaged if they are doing everything and she is not giving them good sex.

Yikes and then she is going from guy to guy and trying to find something that is already inside her.

Honestly, that is my experience with OLD. I am in my late 30s and never been married but still don't get guys who are consistent and would be interested in an LTR. I do ok in dating and sex is easy but just dating and dating is exhausting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom is in her 60’s and looks pretty old IMO, still gets tons of male attention

I’m a guy btw. We always like to think the tables turn eventually but they never really do. Even older women have options

Quoted for truth. The nice thing is that the internet has revealed that men are a dime a dozen and easily replaceable, contra the advice of nosy aunts and grandmas worldwide advising girls to "lock in" a man while they still have looks and youth.

The reality is once you are married you as the woman are locked in. Almost every man lets himself go once he's married. This is why marriage was institutioned by men--so he could relax, put his feet up, and delegate housework to a wife--things he can't do when single or in an unmarried relationship where women can easily trade up.

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Anonymous wrote:My mom is in her 60’s and looks pretty old IMO, still gets tons of male attention

I’m a guy btw. We always like to think the tables turn eventually but they never really do. Even older women have options

Quoted for truth. The nice thing is that the internet has revealed that men are a dime a dozen and easily replaceable, contra the advice of nosy aunts and grandmas worldwide advising girls to "lock in" a man while they still have looks and youth.

The reality is once you are married you as the woman are locked in. Almost every man lets himself go once he's married. This is why marriage was institutioned by men--so he could relax, put his feet up, and delegate housework to a wife--things he can't do when single or in an unmarried relationship where women can easily trade up.

LOL! This happens to both men and women and how much I have seen the world, women needs or wants marriage more than anything. Second marriage, may be not.

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Anonymous wrote:late forties will be x100 times worse and after that you are invisible to anyone. enjoy what you have.

This thread is created by a male sad basement dweller who can't get anyone match with him to bush "older" women.
People date largely in their own age group. If a late 40s woman dates mid 40s-mid 50s men and she's good looking there will be plenty of interest
Men judge by themselves: they try to match with 20-30 yo women while being 50s themselves and get zero response. So they think all 50s women also get no response

Nice cope but that is the reality.

If you're an attractive man in his 40s, financially well off, in good shape and don't have a face that looks like plate of hammered beef patties you can do very well for yourself. If you've worked hard in your 20s and 30s and manage to come out of the divorce with relatively unscathed a decent man will do great. If you have an interesting life or hobbies even better.

Women get an inflated ego because there is more men on dating apps and a lot of men will just match anyone they can so they can get laid as they're desperate. I tended to just pay the premium on those apps to avoid swipe fatigue and see who likes me first. I can tell you as a solid 6 maybe 7 myself a lot of women who wanted to match with me we're not attractive. That's just me being nice. I had relative success with Hinge and Raya but otherwise I met women whine I was out. I think social media is stupid and I only have it to keep up with what my family and kids do as they're addicted to tiktok and Instagram and post often. Anything I have posted on there is just some pictures of me traveling or doing something and most people that message me there are bots minus the one or two women who were like 20 years older than me.

Fact remains I'm kind of tall, well off and not a bad looking guy and I'm still finding dates in apps or in person quite a bit. When I first got divorced I was like a kid in a candy store and easily had a couple of dates a week. Once again, I work really hard on myself so that helps. If I'm pulling a lot of great women in a scenarios where the odds aren't in my favor better looking men than me are certainly doing much better than me.

Still, better to meet someone in real life as the longest and most current relationship I have I met at the gym. Abd they were/are both 10+ years younger than me, I hair happen to look you get that I am.

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Anonymous wrote:late forties will be x100 times worse and after that you are invisible to anyone. enjoy what you have.

This thread is created by a male sad basement dweller who can't get anyone match with him to bush "older" women.
People date largely in their own age group. If a late 40s woman dates mid 40s-mid 50s men and she's good looking there will be plenty of interest
Men judge by themselves: they try to match with 20-30 yo women while being 50s themselves and get zero response. So they think all 50s women also get no response

Nice cope but that is the reality.

If you're an attractive man in his 40s, financially well off, in good shape and don't have a face that looks like plate of hammered beef patties you can do very well for yourself. If you've worked hard in your 20s and 30s and manage to come out of the divorce with relatively unscathed a decent man will do great. If you have an interesting life or hobbies even better.

Women get an inflated ego because there is more men on dating apps and a lot of men will just match anyone they can so they can get laid as they're desperate. I tended to just pay the premium on those apps to avoid swipe fatigue and see who likes me first. I can tell you as a solid 6 maybe 7 myself a lot of women who wanted to match with me we're not attractive. That's just me being nice. I had relative success with Hinge and Raya but otherwise I met women whine I was out. I think social media is stupid and I only have it to keep up with what my family and kids do as they're addicted to tiktok and Instagram and post often. Anything I have posted on there is just some pictures of me traveling or doing something and most people that message me there are bots minus the one or two women who were like 20 years older than me.

Fact remains I'm kind of tall, well off and not a bad looking guy and I'm still finding dates in apps or in person quite a bit. When I first got divorced I was like a kid in a candy store and easily had a couple of dates a week. Once again, I work really hard on myself so that helps. If I'm pulling a lot of great women in a scenarios where the odds aren't in my favor better looking men than me are certainly doing much better than me.

Still, better to meet someone in real life as the longest and most current relationship I have I met at the gym. Abd they were/are both 10+ years younger than me, I hair happen to look you get that I am.

Exactly. I am single dad, 44M with 50% custody, well off, looks good, decent shape and very educated (PhD in Engineering) and finding dates or planning an LTR is very easy. Never had problems in picking or talking to HOT girls in 30s and enjoy their company and sex all the time. Good luck out there!

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Anonymous wrote:"Normal" woman is a really wide range. One of my "normal" friends is a tiny, size 0 so not busty and not the type to be in a teeny tiny bikini. Women might say she's just cute but she has a ton of guys after her. Another normal friend is 5'8'' and not overweight in the slightest but she's not rail thin either. Women would also say she's cute and dresses well and is put together but she has a harder time with matches.

Op here. I’m 5’1 and size 4. I’m not fat and I exercise and eat sensibly. I have a petite body!

then it’s the face.

yeah. prolly should angle that camera down

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Anonymous wrote:If you're an attractive man in his 40s, financially well off, in good shape and don't have a face that looks like plate of hammered beef patties you can do very well for yourself. If you've worked hard in your 20s and 30s and manage to come out of the divorce with relatively unscathed a decent man will do great. If you have an interesting life or hobbies even better.

That is actually well above average. The average man in his 40s is neither well-off nor in shape.

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Anonymous wrote:If you're an attractive man in his 40s, financially well off, in good shape and don't have a face that looks like plate of hammered beef patties you can do very well for yourself. If you've worked hard in your 20s and 30s and manage to come out of the divorce with relatively unscathed a decent man will do great. If you have an interesting life or hobbies even better.

That is actually well above average. The average man in his 40s is neither well-off nor in shape.

That's understandable, I know a lot of guys who are broke because the court system took them for everything they had. That's why getting married in the first place is a bad idea if you're looking to retire rich as a man

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Anonymous wrote:I am 43F, 5'3'' and 190 lbs. If I want action, I can get plenty of action so I just date but settling down with a long term relationship is a different issue.

I actually love your body type. I'm sure you have got a nice big butt. I'm 45. But you probably don't find tall 6' skinny men attractive.

I have an ok butt but also have a belly and a lot of fat around mid-section that makes me look pregnant. I need to lose some weight but not happening easily.

PP, do you get hit on a lot? Some men would pick chubby women if they are also good in bed.

How would they know they are good in bed before taking them out

They don't and some women are just good in flirting but bad in bed. If they connect their self-worth by their weight and looks then they are going to be very insecure in bed as well. My sister is like this - she is in her early 40s and start talking to good men for a month or two and then they disappear. She told me (I am a woman too) that she doesn't like to give or receive oral and her sex drive has gone down and it gets difficult for her to keep men engaged if they are doing everything and she is not giving them good sex.

Yikes and then she is going from guy to guy and trying to find something that is already inside her.

Honestly, that is my experience with OLD. I am in my late 30s and never been married but still don't get guys who are consistent and would be interested in an LTR. I do ok in dating and sex is easy but just dating and dating is exhausting.

That's because you're in your late thirties. Not many men who are fit, in good financial shape, and have their act together. Want to settle down with the women in her late thirties. If you're in your late thirties and you have never been married, then I question what you've been doing with your life. Plus once someone is set in their ways, they don't understand what compromise and sacrifice are. The only person you've had to look out for is yourself so the ability to show any empathy or be a good partner just isn't in the cards. I'm willing to bet that most of those men can see that and that's why they don't want a serious relationship with you. Plus, if they want to have children they're going to go for someone younger where health issues won't be a problem

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Anonymous wrote:late forties will be x100 times worse and after that you are invisible to anyone. enjoy what you have.

This thread is created by a male sad basement dweller who can't get anyone match with him to bush "older" women.
People date largely in their own age group. If a late 40s woman dates mid 40s-mid 50s men and she's good looking there will be plenty of interest
Men judge by themselves: they try to match with 20-30 yo women while being 50s themselves and get zero response. So they think all 50s women also get no response

Nice cope but that is the reality.

If you're an attractive man in his 40s, financially well off, in good shape and don't have a face that looks like plate of hammered beef patties you can do very well for yourself. If you've worked hard in your 20s and 30s and manage to come out of the divorce with relatively unscathed a decent man will do great. If you have an interesting life or hobbies even better.

Women get an inflated ego because there is more men on dating apps and a lot of men will just match anyone they can so they can get laid as they're desperate. I tended to just pay the premium on those apps to avoid swipe fatigue and see who likes me first. I can tell you as a solid 6 maybe 7 myself a lot of women who wanted to match with me we're not attractive. That's just me being nice. I had relative success with Hinge and Raya but otherwise I met women whine I was out. I think social media is stupid and I only have it to keep up with what my family and kids do as they're addicted to tiktok and Instagram and post often. Anything I have posted on there is just some pictures of me traveling or doing something and most people that message me there are bots minus the one or two women who were like 20 years older than me.

Fact remains I'm kind of tall, well off and not a bad looking guy and I'm still finding dates in apps or in person quite a bit. When I first got divorced I was like a kid in a candy store and easily had a couple of dates a week. Once again, I work really hard on myself so that helps. If I'm pulling a lot of great women in a scenarios where the odds aren't in my favor better looking men than me are certainly doing much better than me.

Still, better to meet someone in real life as the longest and most current relationship I have I met at the gym. Abd they were/are both 10+ years younger than me, I hair happen to look you get that I am.

Exactly. I am single dad, 44M with 50% custody, well off, looks good, decent shape and very educated (PhD in Engineering) and finding dates or planning an LTR is very easy. Never had problems in picking or talking to HOT girls in 30s and enjoy their company and sex all the time. Good luck out there!

You do understand this is very very rare for guy at your age. I am sure you will be snatched soon but you need to decide who you would settle down with. Don't go for more than 35 years and enjoy life.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 43F, 5'3'' and 190 lbs. If I want action, I can get plenty of action so I just date but settling down with a long term relationship is a different issue.

I actually love your body type. I'm sure you have got a nice big butt. I'm 45. But you probably don't find tall 6' skinny men attractive.

I have an ok butt but also have a belly and a lot of fat around mid-section that makes me look pregnant. I need to lose some weight but not happening easily.

PP, do you get hit on a lot? Some men would pick chubby women if they are also good in bed.

How would they know they are good in bed before taking them out

They don't and some women are just good in flirting but bad in bed. If they connect their self-worth by their weight and looks then they are going to be very insecure in bed as well. My sister is like this - she is in her early 40s and start talking to good men for a month or two and then they disappear. She told me (I am a woman too) that she doesn't like to give or receive oral and her sex drive has gone down and it gets difficult for her to keep men engaged if they are doing everything and she is not giving them good sex.

Yikes and then she is going from guy to guy and trying to find something that is already inside her.

Honestly, that is my experience with OLD. I am in my late 30s and never been married but still don't get guys who are consistent and would be interested in an LTR. I do ok in dating and sex is easy but just dating and dating is exhausting.

That's because you're in your late thirties. Not many men who are fit, in good financial shape, and have their act together. Want to settle down with the women in her late thirties. If you're in your late thirties and you have never been married, then I question what you've been doing with your life. Plus once someone is set in their ways, they don't understand what compromise and sacrifice are. The only person you've had to look out for is yourself so the ability to show any empathy or be a good partner just isn't in the cards. I'm willing to bet that most of those men can see that and that's why they don't want a serious relationship with you. Plus, if they want to have children they're going to go for someone younger where health issues won't be a problem

She can find plenty of men in late 40s to date and settle if she’s ok not having kids

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Anonymous wrote:You are not ugly.
You are just average.
Now go out with average looking guys.

False equivalency. The average woman is not equivalent to the average man.

The average woman is attractive to the average man. The average man is not attractive to the average woman. In fact, average might be one of the biggest turn-offs to women.

In terms of pure sex appeal, the average woman is equivalent to a handsome (but not overwhelmingly hot) man. In that the handsome man would still find an average woman attractive, and an average woman would find the handsome man attractive. It may not be fair but I don't make the rules.

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Anonymous wrote:late forties will be x100 times worse and after that you are invisible to anyone. enjoy what you have.

This thread is created by a male sad basement dweller who can't get anyone match with him to bush "older" women.
People date largely in their own age group. If a late 40s woman dates mid 40s-mid 50s men and she's good looking there will be plenty of interest
Men judge by themselves: they try to match with 20-30 yo women while being 50s themselves and get zero response. So they think all 50s women also get no response

Nice cope but that is the reality.

If you're an attractive man in his 40s, financially well off, in good shape and don't have a face that looks like plate of hammered beef patties you can do very well for yourself. If you've worked hard in your 20s and 30s and manage to come out of the divorce with relatively unscathed a decent man will do great. If you have an interesting life or hobbies even better.

Women get an inflated ego because there is more men on dating apps and a lot of men will just match anyone they can so they can get laid as they're desperate. I tended to just pay the premium on those apps to avoid swipe fatigue and see who likes me first. I can tell you as a solid 6 maybe 7 myself a lot of women who wanted to match with me we're not attractive. That's just me being nice. I had relative success with Hinge and Raya but otherwise I met women whine I was out. I think social media is stupid and I only have it to keep up with what my family and kids do as they're addicted to tiktok and Instagram and post often. Anything I have posted on there is just some pictures of me traveling or doing something and most people that message me there are bots minus the one or two women who were like 20 years older than me.

Fact remains I'm kind of tall, well off and not a bad looking guy and I'm still finding dates in apps or in person quite a bit. When I first got divorced I was like a kid in a candy store and easily had a couple of dates a week. Once again, I work really hard on myself so that helps. If I'm pulling a lot of great women in a scenarios where the odds aren't in my favor better looking men than me are certainly doing much better than me.

Still, better to meet someone in real life as the longest and most current relationship I have I met at the gym. Abd they were/are both 10+ years younger than me, I hair happen to look you get that I am.

Exactly. I am single dad, 44M with 50% custody, well off, looks good, decent shape and very educated (PhD in Engineering) and finding dates or planning an LTR is very easy. Never had problems in picking or talking to HOT girls in 30s and enjoy their company and sex all the time. Good luck out there!

You do understand this is very very rare for guy at your age. I am sure you will be snatched soon but you need to decide who you would settle down with. Don't go for more than 35 years and enjoy life.

I mean he's a 44 yr old fuc boi so he's dating the right age 18 to 35. The stds must be rampant with the fuc girls too.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 43F, 5'3'' and 190 lbs. If I want action, I can get plenty of action so I just date but settling down with a long term relationship is a different issue.

I actually love your body type. I'm sure you have got a nice big butt. I'm 45. But you probably don't find tall 6' skinny men attractive.

I have an ok butt but also have a belly and a lot of fat around mid-section that makes me look pregnant. I need to lose some weight but not happening easily.

PP, do you get hit on a lot? Some men would pick chubby women if they are also good in bed.

How would they know they are good in bed before taking them out

They don't and some women are just good in flirting but bad in bed. If they connect their self-worth by their weight and looks then they are going to be very insecure in bed as well. My sister is like this - she is in her early 40s and start talking to good men for a month or two and then they disappear. She told me (I am a woman too) that she doesn't like to give or receive oral and her sex drive has gone down and it gets difficult for her to keep men engaged if they are doing everything and she is not giving them good sex.

Yikes and then she is going from guy to guy and trying to find something that is already inside her.

Honestly, that is my experience with OLD. I am in my late 30s and never been married but still don't get guys who are consistent and would be interested in an LTR. I do ok in dating and sex is easy but just dating and dating is exhausting.

I'm 44 and I really want to give head to my boyfriend. I believe in loyalty but I love to flirt and being loyal to my last ex only resulted in heartbreak because he wasted my time and ended up leaving. He wanted to come back to me but I said no because he had cheated. He really could not help his cheating. He even cheated on his current wife and he tried to cheat on her with me. But she didn't care. She just wanted to get married and have kids. So maybe I made the wrong choice. I don't know. But I really like my current boyfriend and I am keeping my options open now. I think it's the right thing to do because with men we just never know. They always waste your time and I'm 44 and kidless and marriage less.