OLD is a truly humbling experience

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Anonymous wrote:I am 43F, 5'3'' and 190 lbs. If I want action, I can get plenty of action so I just date but settling down with a long term relationship is a different issue.

I actually love your body type. I'm sure you have got a nice big butt. I'm 45. But you probably don't find tall 6' skinny men attractive.

I have an ok butt but also have a belly and a lot of fat around mid-section that makes me look pregnant. I need to lose some weight but not happening easily.

PP, do you get hit on a lot? Some men would pick chubby women if they are also good in bed.

How would they know they are good in bed before taking them out

They don't and some women are just good in flirting but bad in bed. If they connect their self-worth by their weight and looks then they are going to be very insecure in bed as well. My sister is like this - she is in her early 40s and start talking to good men for a month or two and then they disappear. She told me (I am a woman too) that she doesn't like to give or receive oral and her sex drive has gone down and it gets difficult for her to keep men engaged if they are doing everything and she is not giving them good sex.

Yikes and then she is going from guy to guy and trying to find something that is already inside her.

Honestly, that is my experience with OLD. I am in my late 30s and never been married but still don't get guys who are consistent and would be interested in an LTR. I do ok in dating and sex is easy but just dating and dating is exhausting.

I'm 44 and I really want to give head to my boyfriend. I believe in loyalty but I love to flirt and being loyal to my last ex only resulted in heartbreak because he wasted my time and ended up leaving. He wanted to come back to me but I said no because he had cheated. He really could not help his cheating. He even cheated on his current wife and he tried to cheat on her with me. But she didn't care. She just wanted to get married and have kids. So maybe I made the wrong choice. I don't know. But I really like my current boyfriend and I am keeping my options open now. I think it's the right thing to do because with men we just never know. They always waste your time and I'm 44 and kidless and marriage less.

You never know what you and they would like about each other. Put positive foot out there and match his energy with yours.

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What’s OLD?

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Anonymous wrote:What’s OLD?

OnLineDating

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Anonymous wrote:I am 43F, 5'3'' and 190 lbs. If I want action, I can get plenty of action so I just date but settling down with a long term relationship is a different issue.

I actually love your body type. I'm sure you have got a nice big butt. I'm 45. But you probably don't find tall 6' skinny men attractive.

I have an ok butt but also have a belly and a lot of fat around mid-section that makes me look pregnant. I need to lose some weight but not happening easily.

PP, do you get hit on a lot? Some men would pick chubby women if they are also good in bed.

How would they know they are good in bed before taking them out

They don't and some women are just good in flirting but bad in bed. If they connect their self-worth by their weight and looks then they are going to be very insecure in bed as well. My sister is like this - she is in her early 40s and start talking to good men for a month or two and then they disappear. She told me (I am a woman too) that she doesn't like to give or receive oral and her sex drive has gone down and it gets difficult for her to keep men engaged if they are doing everything and she is not giving them good sex.

Yikes and then she is going from guy to guy and trying to find something that is already inside her.

Honestly, that is my experience with OLD. I am in my late 30s and never been married but still don't get guys who are consistent and would be interested in an LTR. I do ok in dating and sex is easy but just dating and dating is exhausting.

I'm 44 and I really want to give head to my boyfriend. I believe in loyalty but I love to flirt and being loyal to my last ex only resulted in heartbreak because he wasted my time and ended up leaving. He wanted to come back to me but I said no because he had cheated. He really could not help his cheating. He even cheated on his current wife and he tried to cheat on her with me. But she didn't care. She just wanted to get married and have kids. So maybe I made the wrong choice. I don't know. But I really like my current boyfriend and I am keeping my options open now. I think it's the right thing to do because with men we just never know. They always waste your time and I'm 44 and kidless and marriage less.

You never know what you and they would like about each other. Put positive foot out there and match his energy with yours.

Oh boy! Looks like some people never learn and they continue to do the same mistakes and ended up alone.

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Anonymous wrote:late forties will be x100 times worse and after that you are invisible to anyone. enjoy what you have.

I’m 47 and online dating. It’s amazing lol! I wish I’d left my ex sooner but I saw things like this comment and believed them.

It gets overwhelming so you have to screen well and for me I don’t have the time or interest to juggle multiple men so I just chat with a couple at a time. I’m dating someone right now who’s 9 years older, divorced, great job, he’s fit and so far we’ve had a lot of fun. No sex yet but I plan on changing that this weekend.

OP- maybe have a friend look at your profile. Make your pics current, unedited, but flattering. I have 2 normal, mostly shoulders and face pics, 1 casual with my dogs, and one on the beach, full body in a one piece. Good pics are crucial IMO. Don’t message for too long, move to an in person date quickly so you can gauge chemistry.

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Own your age. I’m 50+ and I pull male attention. How? Same as when I learned how to do so at 15.

Not hard. Hair is so important. Your style and clothing. Your confidence.

Beyond looks, have a personality. Not hard to do - just be authentically you.

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Anonymous wrote:late forties will be x100 times worse and after that you are invisible to anyone. enjoy what you have.

I’m 47 and online dating. It’s amazing lol! I wish I’d left my ex sooner but I saw things like this comment and believed them.

It gets overwhelming so you have to screen well and for me I don’t have the time or interest to juggle multiple men so I just chat with a couple at a time. I’m dating someone right now who’s 9 years older, divorced, great job, he’s fit and so far we’ve had a lot of fun. No sex yet but I plan on changing that this weekend.

OP- maybe have a friend look at your profile. Make your pics current, unedited, but flattering. I have 2 normal, mostly shoulders and face pics, 1 casual with my dogs, and one on the beach, full body in a one piece. Good pics are crucial IMO. Don’t message for too long, move to an in person date quickly so you can gauge chemistry.

You mean, a bathing suit photo ? Seems desperate for attention

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Anonymous wrote:Own your age. I’m 50+ and I pull male attention. How? Same as when I learned how to do so at 15.

Not hard. Hair is so important. Your style and clothing. Your confidence.

Beyond looks, have a personality. Not hard to do - just be authentically you.

What about hair? Tell us your secret. Hair might be challenging for many women in 50s, as even best hair is thinning with some greys

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Anonymous wrote:Own your age. I’m 50+ and I pull male attention. How? Same as when I learned how to do so at 15.

Not hard. Hair is so important. Your style and clothing. Your confidence.

Beyond looks, have a personality. Not hard to do - just be authentically you.

one other thing - happiness. I find happy women to be vert attractive. Don't even want to sit right next to a grump supermodel. Yikes.