Dating chance at 42F and overweight

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Anonymous wrote:What are your prospects? Dress up one night and head over to National Harbor. You’d be surprised at how much attention you will receive.

tell me more!

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Half of the men in your age range are overwight. You will be fine.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am 5'3" tall and do have a pretty face but most of my fat is in mid-section area and on thighs. I know it is quite overweight and my weight has fluctuated between 180-205 lbs. I am also trying ozempic and financially could take care of myself but probably won't be able to do 50-50 if we go on a lot of dates.

There were a few issues in our relationship but the most important is the behavior and sex. I have low sex drive because of medical issues or weight and he didn't feel appreciated and I didn't for other reasons when he gets resentful.

Plenty of men who find that kind of figure very attractive. Date those men and they are there.

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Anonymous wrote:Respectfully, anyone asking what their prospects are has low prospects. The things that make a person attractive beyond superficiality, like confidence, integrity, a sense of humor, those are things you either know you have or don't have enough self-esteem to validate for yourself. Advertising your physical stats like you're just a body isn't attractive. If you're asking what kind of treatment you deserve because you're overweight, well, some jerk will probably be happy to show you.

The phrase "know your worth" gets thrown around a lot but it's important. Do YOU like your body? Do you feel comfortable in your skin? Don't date until you do, because you'll probably settle for the first "good enough" person who doesn't treat you like total garbage (at least, not at first). It's critically important for people looking for more than a one-nighter to value themselves and understand what they're bringing to the proverbial table. If it's not money and looks, which are a pathetically low bar, what is it? What makes you valuable?

Stop seeing yourself as an object and start enjoying and appreciating the things beyond base physicality that make you who you are. Respect yourself and you'll attract people who respect you.

This is a very good advice and looking at how OP is responding so far, it seems like she has low confidence due to weight gain and that is affecting her self esteem all her life. Finding love is difficult even when people have all their life together but extra difficult with extra weight, finance and other issues. Her comment about paying for dates show that she wants to be taken care of and in those situations, a good attitude, happiness matter as much as the weight. just my 2 cents.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am 5'3" tall and do have a pretty face but most of my fat is in mid-section area and on thighs. I know it is quite overweight and my weight has fluctuated between 180-205 lbs. I am also trying ozempic and financially could take care of myself but probably won't be able to do 50-50 if we go on a lot of dates.

There were a few issues in our relationship but the most important is the behavior and sex. I have low sex drive because of medical issues or weight and he didn't feel appreciated and I didn't for other reasons when he gets resentful.

Plenty of men who find that kind of figure very attractive. Date those men and they are there.

My experience is that it would show up in OP if she is already this concerned about her weight. Men do date big women but only just for date here and there and not for LTR. Sex is also important for them and if OP can't do that regularly then it is going to be a problem again.

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Big men love skinny women and feel entitled to them somehow. Don’t count on them being interested.

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Anonymous wrote:Big men love skinny women and feel entitled to them somehow. Don’t count on them being interested.

That's so true and some women love to be handled by them too.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am 5'3" tall and do have a pretty face but most of my fat is in mid-section area and on thighs. I know it is quite overweight and my weight has fluctuated between 180-205 lbs. I am also trying ozempic and financially could take care of myself but probably won't be able to do 50-50 if we go on a lot of dates.

There were a few issues in our relationship but the most important is the behavior and sex. I have low sex drive because of medical issues or weight and he didn't feel appreciated and I didn't for other reasons when he gets resentful.

Plenty of men who find that kind of figure very attractive. Date those men and they are there.

My experience is that it would show up in OP if she is already this concerned about her weight. Men do date big women but only just for date here and there and not for LTR. Sex is also important for them and if OP can't do that regularly then it is going to be a problem again.

What? You really think fat people dont get in relationships?

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am 5'3" tall and do have a pretty face but most of my fat is in mid-section area and on thighs. I know it is quite overweight and my weight has fluctuated between 180-205 lbs. I am also trying ozempic and financially could take care of myself but probably won't be able to do 50-50 if we go on a lot of dates.

There were a few issues in our relationship but the most important is the behavior and sex. I have low sex drive because of medical issues or weight and he didn't feel appreciated and I didn't for other reasons when he gets resentful.

Plenty of men who find that kind of figure very attractive. Date those men and they are there.

My experience is that it would show up in OP if she is already this concerned about her weight. Men do date big women but only just for date here and there and not for LTR. Sex is also important for them and if OP can't do that regularly then it is going to be a problem again.

What? You really think fat people dont get in relationships?

They do but OP sounds a bit negative and low her prospects and it is very unattractive to be in relationship and also be like that. They also won't pay for OP and would go for 50-50 which is not what she wants.

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On DCUM, they don't. 😆

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am 5'3" tall and do have a pretty face but most of my fat is in mid-section area and on thighs. I know it is quite overweight and my weight has fluctuated between 180-205 lbs. I am also trying ozempic and financially could take care of myself but probably won't be able to do 50-50 if we go on a lot of dates.

There were a few issues in our relationship but the most important is the behavior and sex. I have low sex drive because of medical issues or weight and he didn't feel appreciated and I didn't for other reasons when he gets resentful.

Plenty of men who find that kind of figure very attractive. Date those men and they are there.

My experience is that it would show up in OP if she is already this concerned about her weight. Men do date big women but only just for date here and there and not for LTR. Sex is also important for them and if OP can't do that regularly then it is going to be a problem again.

What? You really think fat people dont get in relationships?

They do but OP sounds a bit negative and low her prospects and it is very unattractive to be in relationship and also be like that. They also won't pay for OP and would go for 50-50 which is not what she wants.

Sure. Men only marry women who think highly of themselves. You must be 12 years old.

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody can answer that, OP. If you have a pretty face, great personality, and are financially independent, you might do well on the dating market. But of course women with fit, thinner bodies tend to do best.

Agree it's a great time for you to work on getting in shape. Regardless of potential partners, it's important for your health, especially since weight gain only worsens in peri.

I'm 44 and frequently get called young, girl, miss, senorita etc. no kids though

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Anonymous wrote:I am 42F single hispanic mom with two adult kids. I have gained a lot of weight and weighing around 185lbs now. I broke up recently with my bf as we were having some issues. I do regret not doing a lot of things to improve our relationship but also looking forward to seeing what is out there for dating. What do you think my prospects are?

Are you a hot chubby latina? Hispanic guys like them a lot. Your prospects with white guys aren’t good. Most of them don’t like chubby women.

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody can answer that, OP. If you have a pretty face, great personality, and are financially independent, you might do well on the dating market. But of course women with fit, thinner bodies tend to do best.

Agree it's a great time for you to work on getting in shape. Regardless of potential partners, it's important for your health, especially since weight gain only worsens in peri.

I'm 44 and frequently get called young, girl, miss, senorita etc. no kids though

how do you look though? are you as big as OP is?

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Anonymous wrote:I am 42F single hispanic mom with two adult kids. I have gained a lot of weight and weighing around 185lbs now. I broke up recently with my bf as we were having some issues. I do regret not doing a lot of things to improve our relationship but also looking forward to seeing what is out there for dating. What do you think my prospects are?

Are you a hot chubby latina? Hispanic guys like them a lot. Your prospects with white guys aren’t good. Most of them don’t like chubby women.

I am hispanic and not a big fan of girls that big. Black guys do like them thick though.