Dating chance at 42F and overweight
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Anonymous
| I am 42F single hispanic mom with two adult kids. I have gained a lot of weight and weighing around 185lbs now. I broke up recently with my bf as we were having some issues. I do regret not doing a lot of things to improve our relationship but also looking forward to seeing what is out there for dating. What do you think my prospects are? |
Anonymous
| How tall are you? Where does the weight show on your body (stomach, face, T&A, etc.)? What type of men are you targeting (including race, SES, etc.)? |
Anonymous
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Maybe try working on yourself. To include your weight. Change your diet, maybe hit the gym or a fitness class |
Anonymous
| Why did you break up |
Anonymous
| Is your face pretty? Do you have nice hair and dress becomingly? |
Anonymous
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Nobody can answer that, OP. If you have a pretty face, great personality, and are financially independent, you might do well on the dating market. But of course women with fit, thinner bodies tend to do best.
Agree it's a great time for you to work on getting in shape. Regardless of potential partners, it's important for your health, especially since weight gain only worsens in peri. |
Anonymous
| There are a lot of men as fat as you or fatter. They probably won’t mind. |
Anonymous
| If your breakup is recent, use the next 6-12 months to focus on yourself. Your health, your appearance, your mind, your career. Don’t look to be dating now. |
Anonymous
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Op here. I am 5'3" tall and do have a pretty face but most of my fat is in mid-section area and on thighs. I know it is quite overweight and my weight has fluctuated between 180-205 lbs. I am also trying ozempic and financially could take care of myself but probably won't be able to do 50-50 if we go on a lot of dates.
There were a few issues in our relationship but the most important is the behavior and sex. I have low sex drive because of medical issues or weight and he didn't feel appreciated and I didn't for other reasons when he gets resentful. |
Anonymous
This is the best advice. It's one thing to wonder about future prospects, it's quite another to want to jump into another relationship so soon after the last one went south. Self care, self improvement. |
Anonymous
men usually don't date fatter women unless they are secure in themselves and happy. Most of the time women start complaining about weight so much that it becomes very annoying for men. |
Anonymous
Op here again. I know these are the right thing to do but feeling low that I won't find anyone again that would love me and may be I am getting impatient as I am aging. My last relationship lasted 3 years and there are a lot of good things I miss from it. |
Anonymous
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These threads are always so amusing to me like there aren't plenty of single 42yos in the DC area (and I'm not just saying divorced, I know at least ten men your age who have never been married). Now, dating as a single mom might be harder but I think by early 40s most men are starting to realize if they want to get married the number of women who have never had kids is getting smaller.
Also I know straight up busted people who have significant others; being chubby is hardly a deterrent in this day and age. |
Anonymous
I don't think she's in the DC area; most 42yos in DC don't have adult children but rather toddlers/early elementary. |
Anonymous
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Whenever someone writes on here about issues in their marriage, the DCUM standard response is "divorce" because there are so many men out there waiting to date a divorced single mom. You'll be fine, at least according to them.
Have you tried dating apps? At least put your profile up and see if you get responses. That'll give you an idea of the "market" |