Do healthy, masculine men still exist?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can someone define masculine man? I can't change a lightbulb and don't ask me to change a tire. But I could probably solve a partial differential equation in my head. I know how to make money and I have more than we will ever need for the next 40+ years. I just need to kiss my wife and when i touch her p**y she is already wet.

Is a masculine man a man who can change a tire, deadlift 325 lbs? Definition please

You don't need to necessarily change a tire to be masculine - I dated one man who, if I had a flat, would immediately call roadside assistance to change it and call an Uber so I could get my kids to school. That was extremely masculine and attractive to me. It's more about just being able to take charge and get it handled.

And yes, I *can* do those things myself, but I find it incredibly sexy when a man does them for me. Or at the very least offers to help in some way, even if it's "sounds like a rough day, I'll bring you dinner tonight". The worst is a man who just says "ah that sucks" then moves on.

Although not being able to change a lightbulb doesn't sound great. A man sitting at home in the dark because he doesn't know how to change it isn't very attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems that everything is on one side of the spectrum or the other - either more feminine men or toxic masculine men. Very little to find in the middle.

You are part of the problem. Reflect on that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, my DH is one of those. I consider his emotional and intellectual intelligence extremely masculine. He is measured and kind, but also would not hesitate to protect his family if the need arose.

Same with my DH. He is smart, attractive, fit, accomplished, emotionally intelligent and kind. The full package.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. My man exists.

same

[Anonymous]

Yes but they live in southern Europe.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone define masculine man? I can't change a lightbulb and don't ask me to change a tire. But I could probably solve a partial differential equation in my head. I know how to make money and I have more than we will ever need for the next 40+ years. I just need to kiss my wife and when i touch her p**y she is already wet.

Is a masculine man a man who can change a tire, deadlift 325 lbs? Definition please

You don't need to necessarily change a tire to be masculine - I dated one man who, if I had a flat, would immediately call roadside assistance to change it and call an Uber so I could get my kids to school. That was extremely masculine and attractive to me. It's more about just being able to take charge and get it handled.

And yes, I *can* do those things myself, but I find it incredibly sexy when a man does them for me. Or at the very least offers to help in some way, even if it's "sounds like a rough day, I'll bring you dinner tonight". The worst is a man who just says "ah that sucks" then moves on.

Although not being able to change a lightbulb doesn't sound great. A man sitting at home in the dark because he doesn't know how to change it isn't very attractive.

Agreed. Problem solving and initiative are masculine and attractive, whether you fix something with your own hands or get it done another way.

[Anonymous]

Apparently Andrew Tate is trying to start something by calling the Rock not manly. The Rock! LOL. This all comes from envy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone define masculine man? I can't change a lightbulb and don't ask me to change a tire. But I could probably solve a partial differential equation in my head. I know how to make money and I have more than we will ever need for the next 40+ years. I just need to kiss my wife and when i touch her p**y she is already wet.

Is a masculine man a man who can change a tire, deadlift 325 lbs? Definition please

You don't need to necessarily change a tire to be masculine - I dated one man who, if I had a flat, would immediately call roadside assistance to change it and call an Uber so I could get my kids to school. That was extremely masculine and attractive to me. It's more about just being able to take charge and get it handled.

And yes, I *can* do those things myself, but I find it incredibly sexy when a man does them for me. Or at the very least offers to help in some way, even if it's "sounds like a rough day, I'll bring you dinner tonight". The worst is a man who just says "ah that sucks" then moves on.

Although not being able to change a lightbulb doesn't sound great. A man sitting at home in the dark because he doesn't know how to change it isn't very attractive.

Agreed. Problem solving and initiative are masculine and attractive, whether you fix something with your own hands or get it done another way.

These labels are reductive. Plenty of women are problem solvers and have initiative. So they are masculine?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We exist...we're just off the market.

Masculine enough to brag.

Feminine enough to post on a mommy forum relationship board.

Okay.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I just saw a video clip on Instagram of a guy on the LA Dodgers who was at bat, and the other team's pitcher threw the baseball right at his face (the teams had been fighting previously). He turned at the last minute and the ball "only" hit his back/side flank. But instead of charging at the other team and physically fighting, he stayed calm, walked a few seconds, then gestured to his teammates to stand down, not physically confront the other team. He walked over with his hands behind his back to the other team's dugout and exchanged words with them, then smiled and walked away.

He didn't get aggressive and discouraged aggression of his team against the other one. He worked towards resolution calmly. To me, that's a healthy, masculine man right there. (The man I'm talking about is Shohei Ohtani - I just googled to find out his name.)

Again this is how you want men to respond. This is the issue. We have to behave the way women expect us to behave else we are all.lumped in the bag of toxic men.

I mean, violence is pretty toxic. Yes, I get uncomfortable when people escalate to violence. Male or female.

This is exactly the issue. You are equating a fight among highly competitive baseball players full of adrenalin and testosterone to violence against women. Yes men do fight, yes we like MMA, yes we like boxing.....But guess what most of us are not rapists, most of us are not violent against women. We love our sisters, our moms, our wives, girlfriends etc we will never be violent against them.

Violence against women is real. But please don't equate a man who fight at bar, during a game to a stupid man who hurts women. You know our basic instict is to protect women...

[Anonymous]

A man not identifying as a liberal or a feminist (which means a million different things) doesn’t automatically mean he doesn’t respect women or has toxic views on women. So I would drop this as a hard requirement if you haven’t already. If you can’t understand this then you’re part of the problem.

I’m saying this because most traditionally masculine men aren’t going to align with your political labels so you’re going to have to be a bit more open minded if seeking one out

[Anonymous]

Most men are masculine. Most women are not feminine. And worse more and more are adopting masculine traits that are a turn off to a lot of men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Apparently Andrew Tate is trying to start something by calling the Rock not manly. The Rock! LOL. This all comes from envy.

Isn't he gay? Isn't Tate? 99.99% sure both are gay, which is why they might not be perceived as manly due to effiminate behaviors they both exhibit.

Not many Rock Hudson types anymore.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We exist...we're just off the market.

Masculine enough to brag.

Feminine enough to post on a mommy forum relationship board.

Okay.

DP but isn't the forum called "Moms and Dads"?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone define masculine man? I can't change a lightbulb and don't ask me to change a tire. But I could probably solve a partial differential equation in my head. I know how to make money and I have more than we will ever need for the next 40+ years. I just need to kiss my wife and when i touch her p**y she is already wet.

Is a masculine man a man who can change a tire, deadlift 325 lbs? Definition please

You don't need to necessarily change a tire to be masculine - I dated one man who, if I had a flat, would immediately call roadside assistance to change it and call an Uber so I could get my kids to school. That was extremely masculine and attractive to me. It's more about just being able to take charge and get it handled.

And yes, I *can* do those things myself, but I find it incredibly sexy when a man does them for me. Or at the very least offers to help in some way, even if it's "sounds like a rough day, I'll bring you dinner tonight". The worst is a man who just says "ah that sucks" then moves on.

Although not being able to change a lightbulb doesn't sound great. A man sitting at home in the dark because he doesn't know how to change it isn't very attractive.

Agreed. Problem solving and initiative are masculine and attractive, whether you fix something with your own hands or get it done another way.

These labels are reductive. Plenty of women are problem solvers and have initiative. So they are masculine?

Exactly. What those pps are saying is they want a daddy so they can be little girls