At 55, I’m hideous.Gray hair popping through after 2 weeks of a dye job, saggy under eyes and puffy cheeks that sag with

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I’d def stop by a med spa. I was feeling really down about one thing on my face and they were able to fix it up with a new injection spot.

A little change can go a long way.
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Anonymous wrote:At your age do you seriously not know how to not be so self-loathing and also how to write a subject line for a post?

Do some basic maintenance and except your "condition. ". And try to age gracefully by not being so disgustingly self-loathing
Oh, stop your projecting and learn to spell.
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Anonymous wrote:Get off HRT for starters. It sees to be doing you zero favours. Evaluate your diet--make sure you are hydrating, drink green juice daily, sow yoghurt with fresh fruit is a nice ight breakfast, bone broth makes an excellent lunch/snack, and eat a veggie and protein paced dinner. Or switch and make lunch your bigger meal and have the bone broth before bed.

Exercise--waking, yoga, pilates will help you keep mobile, work your balance and help you stay fit. Weight lifting need not be more than your body weight or 2-5lb hand weights.

Sometimes it's easier to work with the gray hair, but certainly look into getting a little color blended in to add some contrast/color. Deep conditioning treatments will help keep the hair smooth, along with more moisturizing shampoo and conditioners. The Dyson Air wraps and Air Straight can make a significant difference when used with the right products--Color WOW, Amika the Shield, and Olaplex 9 are great options.

Make sure to moisturise with a body oil after your shower. Sesame and castor oil are excellent. I always treat my feet at bedtime with a foot cream and put cotton socks on.

Electric toothbrush may help your teeth, you can also get cosmetic bleach trays made at your dentist. They are not super expensive.

Get an eval from a cosmetic surgeon if you are interested in having work done on your face. Consults are free and they can have some god ideas/timelines for procedures.


Why get off HRT

It's giving you a false sense of something that isn't there, and will never be there. It's normal to go through menopause even though right now it's all anyone can talk about. Gen X reached this age and they thought, "oh hell no, I'm not old." Bring on the hormones. Not so fast...
You need to keep your muscle and bones in shape. Eat well. Be social. Be sexual. Be present. Blend your grays, change your makeup, keep up with grooming, sleep. You are not going quietly into the good night. You will go valiantly.


FWIW, muscles that don't get sufficient estrogen begin to rapidly atrophy, and muscle stem cells disappear. Without estrogen, bone loss also accelerates (estrogen preserves osteoblasts and reduces bone deterioration). It's a bit more complicated than "oh hell no, I'm not old."

OP, I keep Madison Reed root touch-ups on-hand for when the grays emerge just a little too quickly. One of these days I'll bite the bullet and go gray, but not yet.

I like the idea of finding something you like (eyes, whatever), and really focusing on that.

Nope, you can keep your bones and muscle without hormones, plus what is your plan when you can't take it? You can't take it forever. Secondly, I can show you what it looks like when chemo affects your muscles. It's not risk free, and that is the current narrative, sadly.


It’s not risk free but neither is NOT taking it.

None of this is what OP has asked for so I won’t continue this argument. She’s not asking for medical advice from some rando — and that’s what you gave to her. Start your own thread with peer-reviewed data if you like.

Peer reviewd data will tell you that HRT is still a risk vs benfit option. And no, not taking doesn't cause problems. We are in a huge marketing cycle of HRT products currently, and your statement that one is at risk by not taking it is ludicrous.

Re: OP's post. She mentioned she was on it. That is why it is relevant.
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Anonymous wrote:Get off HRT for starters. It sees to be doing you zero favours. Evaluate your diet--make sure you are hydrating, drink green juice daily, sow yoghurt with fresh fruit is a nice ight breakfast, bone broth makes an excellent lunch/snack, and eat a veggie and protein paced dinner. Or switch and make lunch your bigger meal and have the bone broth before bed.

Exercise--waking, yoga, pilates will help you keep mobile, work your balance and help you stay fit. Weight lifting need not be more than your body weight or 2-5lb hand weights.

Sometimes it's easier to work with the gray hair, but certainly look into getting a little color blended in to add some contrast/color. Deep conditioning treatments will help keep the hair smooth, along with more moisturizing shampoo and conditioners. The Dyson Air wraps and Air Straight can make a significant difference when used with the right products--Color WOW, Amika the Shield, and Olaplex 9 are great options.

Make sure to moisturise with a body oil after your shower. Sesame and castor oil are excellent. I always treat my feet at bedtime with a foot cream and put cotton socks on.

Electric toothbrush may help your teeth, you can also get cosmetic bleach trays made at your dentist. They are not super expensive.

Get an eval from a cosmetic surgeon if you are interested in having work done on your face. Consults are free and they can have some god ideas/timelines for procedures.


Why get off HRT

It's giving you a false sense of something that isn't there, and will never be there. It's normal to go through menopause even though right now it's all anyone can talk about. Gen X reached this age and they thought, "oh hell no, I'm not old." Bring on the hormones. Not so fast...
You need to keep your muscle and bones in shape. Eat well. Be social. Be sexual. Be present. Blend your grays, change your makeup, keep up with grooming, sleep. You are not going quietly into the good night. You will go valiantly.


FWIW, muscles that don't get sufficient estrogen begin to rapidly atrophy, and muscle stem cells disappear. Without estrogen, bone loss also accelerates (estrogen preserves osteoblasts and reduces bone deterioration). It's a bit more complicated than "oh hell no, I'm not old."

OP, I keep Madison Reed root touch-ups on-hand for when the grays emerge just a little too quickly. One of these days I'll bite the bullet and go gray, but not yet.

I like the idea of finding something you like (eyes, whatever), and really focusing on that.

Nope, you can keep your bones and muscle without hormones, plus what is your plan when you can't take it? You can't take it forever. Secondly, I can show you what it looks like when chemo affects your muscles. It's not risk free, and that is the current narrative, sadly.


It’s not risk free but neither is NOT taking it.

None of this is what OP has asked for so I won’t continue this argument. She’s not asking for medical advice from some rando — and that’s what you gave to her. Start your own thread with peer-reviewed data if you like.

Peer reviewd data will tell you that HRT is still a risk vs benfit option. And no, not taking doesn't cause problems. We are in a huge marketing cycle of HRT products currently, and your statement that one is at risk by not taking it is ludicrous.

Re: OP's post. She mentioned she was on it. That is why it is relevant.


Peer reviewed data will tell you that it’s a risk vs benefit option, that’s correct. It will by extension highlight you not merely the risks (which are real) but also the benefits (which are also real) — for example that all-cause mortality is actually reduced with HRT.

But every individual is different, with different genetic predispositions and medical histories, leading to different and specific (not generalized) risk profiles. This is why these should be conversations with one’s physician, not opinionated posters making blanket statements on the internet.

Glad you’re comfortable with your choices, though. Truly. Live your best life, PP.
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Anonymous wrote:Get off HRT for starters. It sees to be doing you zero favours. Evaluate your diet--make sure you are hydrating, drink green juice daily, sow yoghurt with fresh fruit is a nice ight breakfast, bone broth makes an excellent lunch/snack, and eat a veggie and protein paced dinner. Or switch and make lunch your bigger meal and have the bone broth before bed.

Exercise--waking, yoga, pilates will help you keep mobile, work your balance and help you stay fit. Weight lifting need not be more than your body weight or 2-5lb hand weights.

Sometimes it's easier to work with the gray hair, but certainly look into getting a little color blended in to add some contrast/color. Deep conditioning treatments will help keep the hair smooth, along with more moisturizing shampoo and conditioners. The Dyson Air wraps and Air Straight can make a significant difference when used with the right products--Color WOW, Amika the Shield, and Olaplex 9 are great options.

Make sure to moisturise with a body oil after your shower. Sesame and castor oil are excellent. I always treat my feet at bedtime with a foot cream and put cotton socks on.

Electric toothbrush may help your teeth, you can also get cosmetic bleach trays made at your dentist. They are not super expensive.

Get an eval from a cosmetic surgeon if you are interested in having work done on your face. Consults are free and they can have some god ideas/timelines for procedures.


A lot of this is highly disordered advice. Bone broth for lunch? 2-5 pound weights? No, she needs to eat a full lunch and lift heavy.
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Anonymous wrote:I’d def stop by a med spa. I was feeling really down about one thing on my face and they were able to fix it up with a new injection spot.

A little change can go a long way.


Yes, just fill your face full of toxins and foreign objects!
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Anonymous wrote:Get off HRT for starters. It sees to be doing you zero favours. Evaluate your diet--make sure you are hydrating, drink green juice daily, sow yoghurt with fresh fruit is a nice ight breakfast, bone broth makes an excellent lunch/snack, and eat a veggie and protein paced dinner. Or switch and make lunch your bigger meal and have the bone broth before bed.

Exercise--waking, yoga, pilates will help you keep mobile, work your balance and help you stay fit. Weight lifting need not be more than your body weight or 2-5lb hand weights.

Sometimes it's easier to work with the gray hair, but certainly look into getting a little color blended in to add some contrast/color. Deep conditioning treatments will help keep the hair smooth, along with more moisturizing shampoo and conditioners. The Dyson Air wraps and Air Straight can make a significant difference when used with the right products--Color WOW, Amika the Shield, and Olaplex 9 are great options.

Make sure to moisturise with a body oil after your shower. Sesame and castor oil are excellent. I always treat my feet at bedtime with a foot cream and put cotton socks on.

Electric toothbrush may help your teeth, you can also get cosmetic bleach trays made at your dentist. They are not super expensive.

Get an eval from a cosmetic surgeon if you are interested in having work done on your face. Consults are free and they can have some god ideas/timelines for procedures.


Ignore this tiresome lunatic.
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Anonymous wrote:Get off HRT for starters. It sees to be doing you zero favours. Evaluate your diet--make sure you are hydrating, drink green juice daily, sow yoghurt with fresh fruit is a nice ight breakfast, bone broth makes an excellent lunch/snack, and eat a veggie and protein paced dinner. Or switch and make lunch your bigger meal and have the bone broth before bed.

Exercise--waking, yoga, pilates will help you keep mobile, work your balance and help you stay fit. Weight lifting need not be more than your body weight or 2-5lb hand weights.

Sometimes it's easier to work with the gray hair, but certainly look into getting a little color blended in to add some contrast/color. Deep conditioning treatments will help keep the hair smooth, along with more moisturizing shampoo and conditioners. The Dyson Air wraps and Air Straight can make a significant difference when used with the right products--Color WOW, Amika the Shield, and Olaplex 9 are great options.

Make sure to moisturise with a body oil after your shower. Sesame and castor oil are excellent. I always treat my feet at bedtime with a foot cream and put cotton socks on.

Electric toothbrush may help your teeth, you can also get cosmetic bleach trays made at your dentist. They are not super expensive.

Get an eval from a cosmetic surgeon if you are interested in having work done on your face. Consults are free and they can have some god ideas/timelines for procedures.


A lot of this is highly disordered advice. Bone broth for lunch? 2-5 pound weights? No, she needs to eat a full lunch and lift heavy.


+ 1. I hate this poster. She is always giving out this brain dead loser protocol here.
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I take oral minoxidil and biotin. It has helped with the hair thinning. I also went lighter with the hair color so the grays aren't as noticeable. Pronamel toothpaste helps keep my teeth white and other people have been pleased with whitening strips. Other than that, I try to take stock in everything good that I have.
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Anonymous wrote:Get off HRT for starters. It sees to be doing you zero favours. Evaluate your diet--make sure you are hydrating, drink green juice daily, sow yoghurt with fresh fruit is a nice ight breakfast, bone broth makes an excellent lunch/snack, and eat a veggie and protein paced dinner. Or switch and make lunch your bigger meal and have the bone broth before bed.

Exercise--waking, yoga, pilates will help you keep mobile, work your balance and help you stay fit. Weight lifting need not be more than your body weight or 2-5lb hand weights.

Sometimes it's easier to work with the gray hair, but certainly look into getting a little color blended in to add some contrast/color. Deep conditioning treatments will help keep the hair smooth, along with more moisturizing shampoo and conditioners. The Dyson Air wraps and Air Straight can make a significant difference when used with the right products--Color WOW, Amika the Shield, and Olaplex 9 are great options.

Make sure to moisturise with a body oil after your shower. Sesame and castor oil are excellent. I always treat my feet at bedtime with a foot cream and put cotton socks on.

Electric toothbrush may help your teeth, you can also get cosmetic bleach trays made at your dentist. They are not super expensive.

Get an eval from a cosmetic surgeon if you are interested in having work done on your face. Consults are free and they can have some god ideas/timelines for procedures.


Why get off HRT

It's giving you a false sense of something that isn't there, and will never be there. It's normal to go through menopause even though right now it's all anyone can talk about. Gen X reached this age and they thought, "oh hell no, I'm not old." Bring on the hormones. Not so fast...
You need to keep your muscle and bones in shape. Eat well. Be social. Be sexual. Be present. Blend your grays, change your makeup, keep up with grooming, sleep. You are not going quietly into the good night. You will go valiantly.


FWIW, muscles that don't get sufficient estrogen begin to rapidly atrophy, and muscle stem cells disappear. Without estrogen, bone loss also accelerates (estrogen preserves osteoblasts and reduces bone deterioration). It's a bit more complicated than "oh hell no, I'm not old."

OP, I keep Madison Reed root touch-ups on-hand for when the grays emerge just a little too quickly. One of these days I'll bite the bullet and go gray, but not yet.

I like the idea of finding something you like (eyes, whatever), and really focusing on that.


Oh, but that poster you replied to is not some regular degular loser who resorted to actual medical advice on hormones, see? She’s cool, lifting heavy, banging it out, telling other women to be valiant and not use HRT and if their bones are adversely impacted by estrogen depletion, they can blame themselves for insufficient efforts in the gym and low-quality no-passion beej administration.
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Lower facelift. Usually done with some fat transfer to face.
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I'm the same age and sometimes I catch my image in the mirror or in a picture and I am horrified by what I see. No advice other than the same sleep, hydrate, healthy diet, and exercise but solidarity!
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Anonymous wrote:At home facial laser.

I’m serious.

Which one?


https://www.dermrays.com/products/dermrays-revive

My sister swears by this one.
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Anonymous wrote:At your age do you seriously not know how to not be so self-loathing and also how to write a subject line for a post?

Do some basic maintenance and except your "condition. ". And try to age gracefully by not being so disgustingly self-loathing


Lolz please rewrite the subject of the post then. Go ahead. Let’s see how it should have been done.
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Anonymous wrote:At your age do you seriously not know how to not be so self-loathing and also how to write a subject line for a post?

Do some basic maintenance and except your "condition. ". And try to age gracefully by not being so disgustingly self-loathing


Lolz please rewrite the subject of the post then. Go ahead. Let’s see how it should have been done.

dp. New post title: I'm 55 and need advice to hide signs of aging.
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