At 55, I’m hideous.Gray hair popping through after 2 weeks of a dye job, saggy under eyes and puffy cheeks that sag with

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Get off HRT for starters. It sees to be doing you zero favours. Evaluate your diet--make sure you are hydrating, drink green juice daily, sow yoghurt with fresh fruit is a nice ight breakfast, bone broth makes an excellent lunch/snack, and eat a veggie and protein paced dinner. Or switch and make lunch your bigger meal and have the bone broth before bed.

Exercise--waking, yoga, pilates will help you keep mobile, work your balance and help you stay fit. Weight lifting need not be more than your body weight or 2-5lb hand weights.

Sometimes it's easier to work with the gray hair, but certainly look into getting a little color blended in to add some contrast/color. Deep conditioning treatments will help keep the hair smooth, along with more moisturizing shampoo and conditioners. The Dyson Air wraps and Air Straight can make a significant difference when used with the right products--Color WOW, Amika the Shield, and Olaplex 9 are great options.

Make sure to moisturise with a body oil after your shower. Sesame and castor oil are excellent. I always treat my feet at bedtime with a foot cream and put cotton socks on.

Electric toothbrush may help your teeth, you can also get cosmetic bleach trays made at your dentist. They are not super expensive.

Get an eval from a cosmetic surgeon if you are interested in having work done on your face. Consults are free and they can have some god ideas/timelines for procedures.

Why get off HRT

It's giving you a false sense of something that isn't there, and will never be there. It's normal to go through menopause even though right now it's all anyone can talk about. Gen X reached this age and they thought, "oh hell no, I'm not old." Bring on the hormones. Not so fast...
You need to keep your muscle and bones in shape. Eat well. Be social. Be sexual. Be present. Blend your grays, change your makeup, keep up with grooming, sleep. You are not going quietly into the good night. You will go valiantly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get off HRT for starters. It sees to be doing you zero favours. Evaluate your diet--make sure you are hydrating, drink green juice daily, sow yoghurt with fresh fruit is a nice ight breakfast, bone broth makes an excellent lunch/snack, and eat a veggie and protein paced dinner. Or switch and make lunch your bigger meal and have the bone broth before bed.

Exercise--waking, yoga, pilates will help you keep mobile, work your balance and help you stay fit. Weight lifting need not be more than your body weight or 2-5lb hand weights.

Sometimes it's easier to work with the gray hair, but certainly look into getting a little color blended in to add some contrast/color. Deep conditioning treatments will help keep the hair smooth, along with more moisturizing shampoo and conditioners. The Dyson Air wraps and Air Straight can make a significant difference when used with the right products--Color WOW, Amika the Shield, and Olaplex 9 are great options.

Make sure to moisturise with a body oil after your shower. Sesame and castor oil are excellent. I always treat my feet at bedtime with a foot cream and put cotton socks on.

Electric toothbrush may help your teeth, you can also get cosmetic bleach trays made at your dentist. They are not super expensive.

Get an eval from a cosmetic surgeon if you are interested in having work done on your face. Consults are free and they can have some god ideas/timelines for procedures.

Why get off HRT

It's giving you a false sense of something that isn't there, and will never be there. It's normal to go through menopause even though right now it's all anyone can talk about. Gen X reached this age and they thought, "oh hell no, I'm not old." Bring on the hormones. Not so fast...
You need to keep your muscle and bones in shape. Eat well. Be social. Be sexual. Be present. Blend your grays, change your makeup, keep up with grooming, sleep. You are not going quietly into the good night. You will go valiantly.

FWIW, muscles that don't get sufficient estrogen begin to rapidly atrophy, and muscle stem cells disappear. Without estrogen, bone loss also accelerates (estrogen preserves osteoblasts and reduces bone deterioration). It's a bit more complicated than "oh hell no, I'm not old."

OP, I keep Madison Reed root touch-ups on-hand for when the grays emerge just a little too quickly. One of these days I'll bite the bullet and go gray, but not yet.

I like the idea of finding something you like (eyes, whatever), and really focusing on that.

[Anonymous]

I'm 53 and am around 30% grey. I just use really good hair products (Everist shampoo/conditioner, Davines, etc) and Jones road makeup. I also box. I bet you don't look as bad as you think you do. It's human to focus on all the bad things we know are there - but most people aren't going to notice.

[Anonymous]

Since no one else has mentioned it, I will. You sound depressed, op. Your low mood colors everything and makes the negative stand out. You were so harsh about your appearance in your op, now tell us what is great about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since no one else has mentioned it, I will. You sound depressed, op. Your low mood colors everything and makes the negative stand out. You were so harsh about your appearance in your op, now tell us what is great about you.

Op. No offense, but no thanks. Im not depressed. My life is pretty good in fact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get off HRT for starters. It sees to be doing you zero favours. Evaluate your diet--make sure you are hydrating, drink green juice daily, sow yoghurt with fresh fruit is a nice ight breakfast, bone broth makes an excellent lunch/snack, and eat a veggie and protein paced dinner. Or switch and make lunch your bigger meal and have the bone broth before bed.

Exercise--waking, yoga, pilates will help you keep mobile, work your balance and help you stay fit. Weight lifting need not be more than your body weight or 2-5lb hand weights.

Sometimes it's easier to work with the gray hair, but certainly look into getting a little color blended in to add some contrast/color. Deep conditioning treatments will help keep the hair smooth, along with more moisturizing shampoo and conditioners. The Dyson Air wraps and Air Straight can make a significant difference when used with the right products--Color WOW, Amika the Shield, and Olaplex 9 are great options.

Make sure to moisturise with a body oil after your shower. Sesame and castor oil are excellent. I always treat my feet at bedtime with a foot cream and put cotton socks on.

Electric toothbrush may help your teeth, you can also get cosmetic bleach trays made at your dentist. They are not super expensive.

Get an eval from a cosmetic surgeon if you are interested in having work done on your face. Consults are free and they can have some god ideas/timelines for procedures.

The bolded is incorrect. At our age we need to life heavy. Google Dr Stacy Simms. She can explain better than I can.

[Anonymous]

For roots, either go for color every 2 weeks or use WOW during week 3 to be on a 3-week schedule.

[Anonymous]

+1!!

I find it really hard to be happy at this period of my life with all these "signs" of aging ... It didn't help that at my well women check out today I found that I put on 8 pounds and my blood pressure is very high. One kid needs to retake SAT and the other kid hurt himself at school. Separation agreement is not possible to close the gap. Divorce is too hard just thinking about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get off HRT for starters. It sees to be doing you zero favours. Evaluate your diet--make sure you are hydrating, drink green juice daily, sow yoghurt with fresh fruit is a nice ight breakfast, bone broth makes an excellent lunch/snack, and eat a veggie and protein paced dinner. Or switch and make lunch your bigger meal and have the bone broth before bed.

Exercise--waking, yoga, pilates will help you keep mobile, work your balance and help you stay fit. Weight lifting need not be more than your body weight or 2-5lb hand weights.

Sometimes it's easier to work with the gray hair, but certainly look into getting a little color blended in to add some contrast/color. Deep conditioning treatments will help keep the hair smooth, along with more moisturizing shampoo and conditioners. The Dyson Air wraps and Air Straight can make a significant difference when used with the right products--Color WOW, Amika the Shield, and Olaplex 9 are great options.

Make sure to moisturise with a body oil after your shower. Sesame and castor oil are excellent. I always treat my feet at bedtime with a foot cream and put cotton socks on.

Electric toothbrush may help your teeth, you can also get cosmetic bleach trays made at your dentist. They are not super expensive.

Get an eval from a cosmetic surgeon if you are interested in having work done on your face. Consults are free and they can have some god ideas/timelines for procedures.

Why get off HRT

It's giving you a false sense of something that isn't there, and will never be there. It's normal to go through menopause even though right now it's all anyone can talk about. Gen X reached this age and they thought, "oh hell no, I'm not old." Bring on the hormones. Not so fast...
You need to keep your muscle and bones in shape. Eat well. Be social. Be sexual. Be present. Blend your grays, change your makeup, keep up with grooming, sleep. You are not going quietly into the good night. You will go valiantly.

FWIW, muscles that don't get sufficient estrogen begin to rapidly atrophy, and muscle stem cells disappear. Without estrogen, bone loss also accelerates (estrogen preserves osteoblasts and reduces bone deterioration). It's a bit more complicated than "oh hell no, I'm not old."

OP, I keep Madison Reed root touch-ups on-hand for when the grays emerge just a little too quickly. One of these days I'll bite the bullet and go gray, but not yet.

I like the idea of finding something you like (eyes, whatever), and really focusing on that.

Nope, you can keep your bones and muscle without hormones, plus what is your plan when you can't take it? You can't take it forever. Secondly, I can show you what it looks like when chemo affects your muscles. It's not risk free, and that is the current narrative, sadly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get off HRT for starters. It sees to be doing you zero favours. Evaluate your diet--make sure you are hydrating, drink green juice daily, sow yoghurt with fresh fruit is a nice ight breakfast, bone broth makes an excellent lunch/snack, and eat a veggie and protein paced dinner. Or switch and make lunch your bigger meal and have the bone broth before bed.

Exercise--waking, yoga, pilates will help you keep mobile, work your balance and help you stay fit. Weight lifting need not be more than your body weight or 2-5lb hand weights.

Sometimes it's easier to work with the gray hair, but certainly look into getting a little color blended in to add some contrast/color. Deep conditioning treatments will help keep the hair smooth, along with more moisturizing shampoo and conditioners. The Dyson Air wraps and Air Straight can make a significant difference when used with the right products--Color WOW, Amika the Shield, and Olaplex 9 are great options.

Make sure to moisturise with a body oil after your shower. Sesame and castor oil are excellent. I always treat my feet at bedtime with a foot cream and put cotton socks on.

Electric toothbrush may help your teeth, you can also get cosmetic bleach trays made at your dentist. They are not super expensive.

Get an eval from a cosmetic surgeon if you are interested in having work done on your face. Consults are free and they can have some god ideas/timelines for procedures.

Why get off HRT

It's giving you a false sense of something that isn't there, and will never be there. It's normal to go through menopause even though right now it's all anyone can talk about. Gen X reached this age and they thought, "oh hell no, I'm not old." Bring on the hormones. Not so fast...
You need to keep your muscle and bones in shape. Eat well. Be social. Be sexual. Be present. Blend your grays, change your makeup, keep up with grooming, sleep. You are not going quietly into the good night. You will go valiantly.

FWIW, muscles that don't get sufficient estrogen begin to rapidly atrophy, and muscle stem cells disappear. Without estrogen, bone loss also accelerates (estrogen preserves osteoblasts and reduces bone deterioration). It's a bit more complicated than "oh hell no, I'm not old."

OP, I keep Madison Reed root touch-ups on-hand for when the grays emerge just a little too quickly. One of these days I'll bite the bullet and go gray, but not yet.

I like the idea of finding something you like (eyes, whatever), and really focusing on that.

Nope, you can keep your bones and muscle without hormones, plus what is your plan when you can't take it? You can't take it forever. Secondly, I can show you what it looks like when chemo affects your muscles. It's not risk free, and that is the current narrative, sadly.

It’s not risk free but neither is NOT taking it.

None of this is what OP has asked for so I won’t continue this argument. She’s not asking for medical advice from some rando — and that’s what you gave to her. Start your own thread with peer-reviewed data if you like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get off HRT for starters. It sees to be doing you zero favours. Evaluate your diet--make sure you are hydrating, drink green juice daily, sow yoghurt with fresh fruit is a nice ight breakfast, bone broth makes an excellent lunch/snack, and eat a veggie and protein paced dinner. Or switch and make lunch your bigger meal and have the bone broth before bed.

Exercise--waking, yoga, pilates will help you keep mobile, work your balance and help you stay fit. Weight lifting need not be more than your body weight or 2-5lb hand weights.

Sometimes it's easier to work with the gray hair, but certainly look into getting a little color blended in to add some contrast/color. Deep conditioning treatments will help keep the hair smooth, along with more moisturizing shampoo and conditioners. The Dyson Air wraps and Air Straight can make a significant difference when used with the right products--Color WOW, Amika the Shield, and Olaplex 9 are great options.

Make sure to moisturise with a body oil after your shower. Sesame and castor oil are excellent. I always treat my feet at bedtime with a foot cream and put cotton socks on.

Electric toothbrush may help your teeth, you can also get cosmetic bleach trays made at your dentist. They are not super expensive.

Get an eval from a cosmetic surgeon if you are interested in having work done on your face. Consults are free and they can have some god ideas/timelines for procedures.

Why get off HRT

It's giving you a false sense of something that isn't there, and will never be there. It's normal to go through menopause even though right now it's all anyone can talk about. Gen X reached this age and they thought, "oh hell no, I'm not old." Bring on the hormones. Not so fast...
You need to keep your muscle and bones in shape. Eat well. Be social. Be sexual. Be present. Blend your grays, change your makeup, keep up with grooming, sleep. You are not going quietly into the good night. You will go valiantly.

FWIW, muscles that don't get sufficient estrogen begin to rapidly atrophy, and muscle stem cells disappear. Without estrogen, bone loss also accelerates (estrogen preserves osteoblasts and reduces bone deterioration). It's a bit more complicated than "oh hell no, I'm not old."

OP, I keep Madison Reed root touch-ups on-hand for when the grays emerge just a little too quickly. One of these days I'll bite the bullet and go gray, but not yet.

I like the idea of finding something you like (eyes, whatever), and really focusing on that.

Nope, you can keep your bones and muscle without hormones, plus what is your plan when you can't take it? You can't take it forever. Secondly, I can show you what it looks like when chemo affects your muscles. It's not risk free, and that is the current narrative, sadly.

It’s not risk free but neither is NOT taking it.

None of this is what OP has asked for so I won’t continue this argument. She’s not asking for medical advice from some rando — and that’s what you gave to her. Start your own thread with peer-reviewed data if you like.

Np. Yes, op is asking for ‘advice from some rando!’ That’s exactly what this board is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get off HRT for starters. It sees to be doing you zero favours. Evaluate your diet--make sure you are hydrating, drink green juice daily, sow yoghurt with fresh fruit is a nice ight breakfast, bone broth makes an excellent lunch/snack, and eat a veggie and protein paced dinner. Or switch and make lunch your bigger meal and have the bone broth before bed.

Exercise--waking, yoga, pilates will help you keep mobile, work your balance and help you stay fit. Weight lifting need not be more than your body weight or 2-5lb hand weights.

Sometimes it's easier to work with the gray hair, but certainly look into getting a little color blended in to add some contrast/color. Deep conditioning treatments will help keep the hair smooth, along with more moisturizing shampoo and conditioners. The Dyson Air wraps and Air Straight can make a significant difference when used with the right products--Color WOW, Amika the Shield, and Olaplex 9 are great options.

Make sure to moisturise with a body oil after your shower. Sesame and castor oil are excellent. I always treat my feet at bedtime with a foot cream and put cotton socks on.

Electric toothbrush may help your teeth, you can also get cosmetic bleach trays made at your dentist. They are not super expensive.

Get an eval from a cosmetic surgeon if you are interested in having work done on your face. Consults are free and they can have some god ideas/timelines for procedures.

Why get off HRT

Because PP saw it on TikTok 🙄

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get off HRT for starters. It sees to be doing you zero favours. Evaluate your diet--make sure you are hydrating, drink green juice daily, sow yoghurt with fresh fruit is a nice ight breakfast, bone broth makes an excellent lunch/snack, and eat a veggie and protein paced dinner. Or switch and make lunch your bigger meal and have the bone broth before bed.

Exercise--waking, yoga, pilates will help you keep mobile, work your balance and help you stay fit. Weight lifting need not be more than your body weight or 2-5lb hand weights.

Sometimes it's easier to work with the gray hair, but certainly look into getting a little color blended in to add some contrast/color. Deep conditioning treatments will help keep the hair smooth, along with more moisturizing shampoo and conditioners. The Dyson Air wraps and Air Straight can make a significant difference when used with the right products--Color WOW, Amika the Shield, and Olaplex 9 are great options.

Make sure to moisturise with a body oil after your shower. Sesame and castor oil are excellent. I always treat my feet at bedtime with a foot cream and put cotton socks on.

Electric toothbrush may help your teeth, you can also get cosmetic bleach trays made at your dentist. They are not super expensive.

Get an eval from a cosmetic surgeon if you are interested in having work done on your face. Consults are free and they can have some god ideas/timelines for procedures.

Why get off HRT

It's giving you a false sense of something that isn't there, and will never be there. It's normal to go through menopause even though right now it's all anyone can talk about. Gen X reached this age and they thought, "oh hell no, I'm not old." Bring on the hormones. Not so fast...
You need to keep your muscle and bones in shape. Eat well. Be social. Be sexual. Be present. Blend your grays, change your makeup, keep up with grooming, sleep. You are not going quietly into the good night. You will go valiantly.

FWIW, muscles that don't get sufficient estrogen begin to rapidly atrophy, and muscle stem cells disappear. Without estrogen, bone loss also accelerates (estrogen preserves osteoblasts and reduces bone deterioration). It's a bit more complicated than "oh hell no, I'm not old."

OP, I keep Madison Reed root touch-ups on-hand for when the grays emerge just a little too quickly. One of these days I'll bite the bullet and go gray, but not yet.

I like the idea of finding something you like (eyes, whatever), and really focusing on that.

Nope, you can keep your bones and muscle without hormones, plus what is your plan when you can't take it? You can't take it forever. Secondly, I can show you what it looks like when chemo affects your muscles. It's not risk free, and that is the current narrative, sadly.

It’s not risk free but neither is NOT taking it.

None of this is what OP has asked for so I won’t continue this argument. She’s not asking for medical advice from some rando — and that’s what you gave to her. Start your own thread with peer-reviewed data if you like.

Np. Yes, op is asking for ‘advice from some rando!’ That’s exactly what this board is.

This is a thread about how she feels about her appearance. Again, start your own thread with peer-reviewed data. But saying a blanket "Get off HRT -- a decision she made with her physician, based on data, is not helpful.

Have a nice day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get off HRT for starters. It sees to be doing you zero favours. Evaluate your diet--make sure you are hydrating, drink green juice daily, sow yoghurt with fresh fruit is a nice ight breakfast, bone broth makes an excellent lunch/snack, and eat a veggie and protein paced dinner. Or switch and make lunch your bigger meal and have the bone broth before bed.

Exercise--waking, yoga, pilates will help you keep mobile, work your balance and help you stay fit. Weight lifting need not be more than your body weight or 2-5lb hand weights.

Sometimes it's easier to work with the gray hair, but certainly look into getting a little color blended in to add some contrast/color. Deep conditioning treatments will help keep the hair smooth, along with more moisturizing shampoo and conditioners. The Dyson Air wraps and Air Straight can make a significant difference when used with the right products--Color WOW, Amika the Shield, and Olaplex 9 are great options.

Make sure to moisturise with a body oil after your shower. Sesame and castor oil are excellent. I always treat my feet at bedtime with a foot cream and put cotton socks on.

Electric toothbrush may help your teeth, you can also get cosmetic bleach trays made at your dentist. They are not super expensive.

Get an eval from a cosmetic surgeon if you are interested in having work done on your face. Consults are free and they can have some god ideas/timelines for procedures.

The bolded is incorrect. At our age we need to life heavy. Google Dr Stacy Simms. She can explain better than I can.

+1. Heavy on this, no pun intended.

[Anonymous]

At your age do you seriously not know how to not be so self-loathing and also how to write a subject line for a post?

Do some basic maintenance and except your "condition. ". And try to age gracefully by not being so disgustingly self-loathing