What is your biggest stressor in life right now?

[Anonymous]

Personally: spouse has a very demanding new job that requires a lot of work and is very emotionally distant and stressed and often in a mood. I am not sure if our marriage will survive.

Macro level: so awful and disappointing about current events in the US. I see the country going downhill fast and I wish I could live abroad for a while, it is like a constant nightmare to read the news and realize how many people don't care about others and just want to power grab and make themselves profit at the expense of everyone else.

[Anonymous]

1. Dh has just been diagnosed with cancer and will hav surgery. Guess we will see what they find and go from there, hopefully it has stayed contained.

2. US democracy collapsing in front of our eyes. Not much I can do about this one, didn't vote for it. Just trying to spend as little money as possible.

[Anonymous]

Side effects of my cancer treatment. I cannot wait for this to be over. That is all I am thinking about right now. I am not thinking about the state of the world right now. I don't have the bandwidth for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH just got a major promotion and has a crazy schedule of travel every week until infinity. DH had promised to WFH so DD and I could go on a last-minute trip but he decided he has to go see clients instead. I had to cancel the trip with because all the dogsitter and dog boarding spots are booked by us. We have been flexing around his intense work schedule for months/years so DD was really excited to do something spontaneous.

But that’s minor compared to the fact that DH announced that he’s going to probably get an apartment close to work this fall and “needs some space”.

Because of his erratic and frequent work travel I haven’t been working. I’m very clear on what this means for me, my future, and my finances. Dog is a German Shepherd and therefore a restricted breed, I am quietly trying to find a rental to no avail, and it’s clear that I won’t qualify for a mortgage for a while if ever and I definitely can’t assume the mortgage on our current house.

How convenient that this is all happening just as DH enters a very different level of compensation!

. Lots of red flags from your DH. He may be having an affair????

[Anonymous]

Lost my job due to DOGE cuts. I have found another job, but it is a pay cut, and there are lots of short term debts to repay. Grateful to have found something, though.

[Anonymous]

We retired just over a year ago. So worried about what is happening to our country and that our little nest egg will be destroyed along with the entire US economy, and then what? Will we be in our 70s and have to go back to work?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH just got a major promotion and has a crazy schedule of travel every week until infinity. DH had promised to WFH so DD and I could go on a last-minute trip but he decided he has to go see clients instead. I had to cancel the trip with because all the dogsitter and dog boarding spots are booked by us. We have been flexing around his intense work schedule for months/years so DD was really excited to do something spontaneous.

But that’s minor compared to the fact that DH announced that he’s going to probably get an apartment close to work this fall and “needs some space”.

Because of his erratic and frequent work travel I haven’t been working. I’m very clear on what this means for me, my future, and my finances. Dog is a German Shepherd and therefore a restricted breed, I am quietly trying to find a rental to no avail, and it’s clear that I won’t qualify for a mortgage for a while if ever and I definitely can’t assume the mortgage on our current house.

How convenient that this is all happening just as DH enters a very different level of compensation!

. Lots of red flags from your DH. He may be having an affair????

This. Get and attorney and your financials in order.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex husband. Watching the demise of someone who tried to kill you isn’t as much fun as I thought it might be, even when they deserve it- deeply.

Darn it. I was hoping this would be fun.

[Anonymous]

My roommate woke up four weeks ago and hasn't really been able to walk since. Her sister and I are now kinda fulltime caregivers. We are not sleeping enough. So many doctors appointments.

I got frustrated and lost it on my summer job new boss. I feel like I am over here trying yo save the world, and I could not handle her B.S. I was a teacher the last few years. Spent time in special ed. Not going back this year. Sigh. Too much trauma.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sending ASD 1 child to college. Fingers crossed.

Ah, I’m right there with you, PP.

[Anonymous]

I need a baseline mammogram. I have put it off for over a year. My mom died recently and it has sent me into a total health anxiety spiral, so I'm dealing by...avoiding it. On the plus side, I drugged myself into getting a colonoscopy, which was fine.
Losing a parent sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sending ASD 1 child to college. Fingers crossed.

Ah, I’m right there with you, PP.

Thanks, PP. Hang in there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While work is stressful, my biggest stress is watching what's happening to our country under this administration and feeling helpless. I see women's rights being stripped away one at a time, our president openly taking bribes, alienating our allies, targeting those with the political party that does not align with his views, and treating immigrants as if they are all criminals and dehumanizing them,and worst of all, people still support him. I don't know what stresses me out more. Him or those that support him and allowed this to happen to our country and seem gleeful about it. I'm 61, I don't recognize our country anymore. I see job of prospects are horrible for my children, companies are laying off rather than hiring. I can go on and on. I feel like I'm watching a train wreck and I can't stop it.

Please list the women’s rights that are being stripped away, one at a time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:While work is stressful, my biggest stress is watching what's happening to our country under this administration and feeling helpless. I see women's rights being stripped away one at a time, our president openly taking bribes, alienating our allies, targeting those with the political party that does not align with his views, and treating immigrants as if they are all criminals and dehumanizing them,and worst of all, people still support him. I don't know what stresses me out more. Him or those that support him and allowed this to happen to our country and seem gleeful about it. I'm 61, I don't recognize our country anymore. I see job of prospects are horrible for my children, companies are laying off rather than hiring. I can go on and on. I feel like I'm watching a train wreck and I can't stop it.

Please list the women’s rights that are being stripped away, one at a time.

REPRODUCTIVE RIGHTS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m recovering from a stroke at 48. It’s changed my outlook on life. Luckily I have good support (family, social, medical) and I am improving.

I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. My mom had a stroke when she was 55. She recovered and went on to work for 10+ more years. She's retired now and still doing well. Prayers for you.