Thinking I need to break up with boyfriend

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Anonymous wrote:I turn 32 tomorrow. I really did not picture being single at 32.

What's wrong with being single at 32?

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Anonymous wrote:We can't judge the situation without you saying why you need to break up.

He just does not give a single shit about me. He dismisses me, ignores my emotional needs, and frankly half the time he is literally ignoring me. (Bailing on plans last minute to stay out until 4am with his "bois.") Every time I point this out he guilt trips like my 55 year old Catholic mother "Oh, I guess I'm just awful, I'm the worst bf in the whole world."

I don't even know how to deal with it at this point because every time I bring it up - "Hey, I need more X from you," "It would be great if you did Y more" he rolls his eyes and says "I'm not doing this right now." So, the first line of defense for relationship problems which is "Just talk about it" doesn't even apply because he refuses to talk about it.

How old is this guy?

He turned 39 in April which makes the fact that he's out with his friends until 4am even dumber. And then the next morning is too hungover to do anything. But simultaneously has time to judge other people's eating habits or lifestyle choices. (Can you tell I am frustrated.)

Of course you are frustrated OP. I am frustrated for you. But you should also be angry. Angry at yourself. This man is not the type to spend your life with as he already treats you poorly. Actually, he is being more honest about how he feels about you than you are being with yourself. You deserve better.

Why. She said that he blatantly told her he doesn't need to impress her anymore. It's not like he treated her like shit from the get-go.

I remember her thread months ago when he first said he didn’t need to impress her anymore. And it sounds like it’s gone very steadily downhill. OP, you are too good for him!! It’s not even close. Save yourself!!

[Anonymous]

Break up tomorrow you’re still young. Don’t waste any more time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s not a reason to stay with someone if it’s not working. 32 is still young.

Average age is 76 so 38 is middle age. However, you shouldn't settle because its late and tgen make yours and his and possibly two kids miserable, break up if you aren't willing to accept him as he is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We can't judge the situation without you saying why you need to break up.

He just does not give a single shit about me. He dismisses me, ignores my emotional needs, and frankly half the time he is literally ignoring me. (Bailing on plans last minute to stay out until 4am with his "bois.") Every time I point this out he guilt trips like my 55 year old Catholic mother "Oh, I guess I'm just awful, I'm the worst bf in the whole world."

I don't even know how to deal with it at this point because every time I bring it up - "Hey, I need more X from you," "It would be great if you did Y more" he rolls his eyes and says "I'm not doing this right now." So, the first line of defense for relationship problems which is "Just talk about it" doesn't even apply because he refuses to talk about it.

It sounds like you a demanding person and wants things your way.

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Anonymous wrote:We can't judge the situation without you saying why you need to break up.

He just does not give a single shit about me. He dismisses me, ignores my emotional needs, and frankly half the time he is literally ignoring me. (Bailing on plans last minute to stay out until 4am with his "bois.") Every time I point this out he guilt trips like my 55 year old Catholic mother "Oh, I guess I'm just awful, I'm the worst bf in the whole world."

I don't even know how to deal with it at this point because every time I bring it up - "Hey, I need more X from you," "It would be great if you did Y more" he rolls his eyes and says "I'm not doing this right now." So, the first line of defense for relationship problems which is "Just talk about it" doesn't even apply because he refuses to talk about it.

How old is this guy?

He turned 39 in April which makes the fact that he's out with his friends until 4am even dumber. And then the next morning is too hungover to do anything. But simultaneously has time to judge other people's eating habits or lifestyle choices. (Can you tell I am frustrated.)

I take my words back, he has all the red flags, move on.

[Anonymous]

I met my husband at 35, married at 37. We have two kids and have been married for 20 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I met my husband at 35, married at 37. We have two kids and have been married for 20 years.

Lol good lord in 30 years the entire population is going to be on the spectrum from all these geriatric births

[Anonymous]

The sooner you’re single, the sooner you can start dating again. Don’t waste time with him. I met my DH at 32, but I wasn’t tied down in a dead-end relationship.

[Anonymous]

In some ways you are lucky, OP. Your BF’s behavior is so poor that you shouldn’t question that braking up with him is the right decision.

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Anonymous wrote:I met my husband at 35, married at 37. We have two kids and have been married for 20 years.

Lol good lord in 30 years the entire population is going to be on the spectrum from all these geriatric births

You know that before birth control “geriatric” women got pregnant all the time, right? My grandmother had a baby at 40 and another at 43 and my great grandmother got pregnant at 40.

That’s not to say everyone should plan on getting pregnant naturally at 40 but having kids in late 30s/early 40s is nothing new.

[Anonymous]

Rather be single at 32 than stuck in a dead end abusive relationship.

[Anonymous]

Dont let your bf hold you back from finding your husband!

[Anonymous]

Update?

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I hope she DTMFA.