Thinking I need to break up with boyfriend

[Anonymous]

this will only get worse if you get married. hardly anything ever gets better!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:this will only get worse if you get married. hardly anything ever gets better!

Agreed. When people talk about a "honeymoon period?" Yours is already over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How long have you been together?

18 months

Do you live together?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How long have you been together?

18 months

Do you live together?

No thank god.

[Anonymous]

DTMF today!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DTMF today!

Agree. Make today Independence Day!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How long have you been together?

18 months

Do you live together?

No thank god.

This just got so much easier! Do you want some talking points/ help with a script? Are you worried that when you drop the bomb he will try (and maybe succeed) to convince you to give him another chance?

I get that you see marriage in your future, but don't let the fantasy box you into a miserable future and a certain divorce. This isn't the guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How long have you been together?

18 months

Do you live together?

No thank god.

This just got so much easier! Do you want some talking points/ help with a script? Are you worried that when you drop the bomb he will try (and maybe succeed) to convince you to give him another chance?

I get that you see marriage in your future, but don't let the fantasy box you into a miserable future and a certain divorce. This isn't the guy.

Aww, thank you. I am just venting. I want kids and I'm worried this will set me back in that regard.

I did laugh at the "are you worried he will try to convince you to give him another chance." I genuinely don't think he'd care. He'd act sad for like ten minutes and then probably go out binge drinking.

[Anonymous]

Let us know how it goes! And line up some IRL friends to post-mortem with.

[Anonymous]

What inspired this realization

[Anonymous]

Defintiely break up. You sound high maintenance.

Plenty of men out there looking for a women in here 30s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What inspired this realization

Nothing in particular. I talked to him at lunchtime and it was fine. He actually is incredibly smart and funny, I didn't just fall in love with a loser. So we had a nice chat about what we were doing at work for 15 minutes.

I have been thinking about this for a while.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We can't judge the situation without you saying why you need to break up.

He just does not give a single shit about me. He dismisses me, ignores my emotional needs, and frankly half the time he is literally ignoring me. (Bailing on plans last minute to stay out until 4am with his "bois.") Every time I point this out he guilt trips like my 55 year old Catholic mother "Oh, I guess I'm just awful, I'm the worst bf in the whole world."

I don't even know how to deal with it at this point because every time I bring it up - "Hey, I need more X from you," "It would be great if you did Y more" he rolls his eyes and says "I'm not doing this right now." So, the first line of defense for relationship problems which is "Just talk about it" doesn't even apply because he refuses to talk about it.

You know this relationship isn’t working.

End the relationship & move on ASAP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Defintiely break up. You sound high maintenance.

Plenty of men out there looking for a women in here 30s.

She sounds high maintenance???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Defintiely break up. You sound high maintenance.

Plenty of men out there looking for a women in here 30s.

She sounds high maintenance???

All complaints, brings nothing to the table.