What’s the point of redshirting when it cancels out the pride factor?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People think redshirting is an easy way to give your kid an advantage. But there is no long term advantage and usually only lasts through younger years when they might be less squirmy in class. As they get older some of the redshirted kids are teased as dumb and held back.

Sure, the kid failing algebra will tease as dumb the kid taking AP Calculus who is towering one head over him.

First, that’s not “teasing”, it’s just embarrassing oneself. Second there’s a high chance the “teaser” will be punched and shoved the next second. Third, this is straight up bullying that likely will get your kid expelled or worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We did redshirt, so that my son has every single advantage he can get. It may not be fair, but you know what else is fair? Life. One year of physical and brain development makes a difference. While his classmates barely do single digit addition his teacher gives him three digit addition worksheets. Since he’s a head above the other kids nobody dares to bully him and he’s bossing the other kids around.

Some sour grape moms with tiny underdeveloped kids make some snide remarks at sports events, but who cares. My son is a star and they are just envious.

The head start is super important. If this is something that matters to you, redshirt your kid. If you didn’t and missed the train, too bad. Stop whining and move on. Do better next time, lol.

Amazing trolling. Best way to deal with the crazy antiredshirter. Well done.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Our kid had adhd and dyslexia. You’re da*n right we red-shirted. They had absolutely no advantage being older in the grade. Struggle, struggle, struggle. But thanks for the derision!

I don't think OP was thinking about your kid when they posted.

DCUMs anti-redshirters are anti-social and hyper-competitive. There is absolutely no question in my mind that OP is thinking about kids like PPs. I’ve watched the casual cruelty of DCUM anti-redshirters too many times over the years. They delight in bullying children.

Also, I didn’t redshirt, although that should not matter.

Literally nobody cares about some special needs child being held back a year.

Nobody.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree OP. We have a high schooler whom we did not redshirt. Kids need to be challenged and inspired to work for their achievements. We saw many of the older redshirted kids begin to struggle socially and motivationally as they got older. We’re glad we didn’t redshirt. There was no reason to hold our kid back and we’re proud of the social development and academic achievements.

I hope your kid understands the difference between correlation and causation better than you. My red shirted student is indeed struggling socially, academically, and motivationally -- that's why we held her back (school has been a struggle each and every year). It would be even worse if she was a year younger, relative to her peers. (Don't argue with me about that -- I know her, you don't).

It's great that your child doesn't have those struggles. Really, I'm happy for you. But it's not because you decided not to red shirt -- you had the luxury of sending him because he didn't have those difficulties.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Our kid had adhd and dyslexia. You’re da*n right we red-shirted. They had absolutely no advantage being older in the grade. Struggle, struggle, struggle. But thanks for the derision!

I don't think OP was thinking about your kid when they posted.

DCUMs anti-redshirters are anti-social and hyper-competitive. There is absolutely no question in my mind that OP is thinking about kids like PPs. I’ve watched the casual cruelty of DCUM anti-redshirters too many times over the years. They delight in bullying children.

Also, I didn’t redshirt, although that should not matter.

Literally nobody cares about some special needs child being held back a year.

Nobody.

So if the kid is special needs you don’t care if he’s held back a year. But if the kid is getting better grades than yours, then it matters if he was held back, that’s shameful and proof of cheating. You don’t know what issues this kid has, maybe he has a learning disability or ADHD, that he did overcome while being redshirted. Special needs kids can also be academically talented but nope, these can’t be held back because you only approve of those who do poorly in school.

You’re such a sorry excuse of a human.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our kid had adhd and dyslexia. You’re da*n right we red-shirted. They had absolutely no advantage being older in the grade. Struggle, struggle, struggle. But thanks for the derision!

I don't think OP was thinking about your kid when they posted.

DCUMs anti-redshirters are anti-social and hyper-competitive. There is absolutely no question in my mind that OP is thinking about kids like PPs. I’ve watched the casual cruelty of DCUM anti-redshirters too many times over the years. They delight in bullying children.

Also, I didn’t redshirt, although that should not matter.

Literally nobody cares about some special needs child being held back a year.

Nobody.

My kid had no diagnosis when we made the decision to hold him back. He was diagnosed with autism several years later. So was the decision not ok at first and then it became acceptable? Is it only acceptable if I prove his diagnosis?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our kid had adhd and dyslexia. You’re da*n right we red-shirted. They had absolutely no advantage being older in the grade. Struggle, struggle, struggle. But thanks for the derision!

I don't think OP was thinking about your kid when they posted.

DCUMs anti-redshirters are anti-social and hyper-competitive. There is absolutely no question in my mind that OP is thinking about kids like PPs. I’ve watched the casual cruelty of DCUM anti-redshirters too many times over the years. They delight in bullying children.

Also, I didn’t redshirt, although that should not matter.

Literally nobody cares about some special needs child being held back a year.

Nobody.

My kid had no diagnosis when we made the decision to hold him back. He was diagnosed with autism several years later. So was the decision not ok at first and then it became acceptable? Is it only acceptable if I prove his diagnosis?

If you don’t see it before age 3 then it’s not autism. Get another opinion.

[Anonymous]

They’re still proud. It’s their peers.

[Anonymous]

What pride? Outside of September-born kids, most people I know who redshirted their kids did so because they were deficient in some way, either behaviorally or academically. They would have struggled a grade above. I have no issues with that.

My DD is an Sep-born non-redshirted kid and is still doing fine in her grade, above average in everything.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our kid had adhd and dyslexia. You’re da*n right we red-shirted. They had absolutely no advantage being older in the grade. Struggle, struggle, struggle. But thanks for the derision!

I don't think OP was thinking about your kid when they posted.

DCUMs anti-redshirters are anti-social and hyper-competitive. There is absolutely no question in my mind that OP is thinking about kids like PPs. I’ve watched the casual cruelty of DCUM anti-redshirters too many times over the years. They delight in bullying children.

Also, I didn’t redshirt, although that should not matter.

Literally nobody cares about some special needs child being held back a year.

Nobody.

My kid had no diagnosis when we made the decision to hold him back. He was diagnosed with autism several years later. So was the decision not ok at first and then it became acceptable? Is it only acceptable if I prove his diagnosis?

If you don’t see it before age 3 then it’s not autism. Get another opinion.

Oh it's autism all right. And all the signs were there before 3 -- we just didn't have a formal diagnosis.

But this totally ignorant comment is why dcum shouldn't be expressing opinions about other kids' educational needs.

[Anonymous]

Redshirting doesn't bother me because I'm secure in our choice not to redshirt. August birthday, small for age, started K at just-turned 5 and has always been above grade level academically. Excels in swimming and dance, both of which go by age instead of grade anyway, so that's no difference.

My kid has redshirted classmates and I've never felt it was unfair. Some were clearly redshirted because they have developmental issues or other special needs. Others might have been looking for an advantage but since my kid is doing great, who cares? It's impossible for me to imagine redshirting her at this point -- I never think "oh this would be better if she was in the previous grade."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, We get that you’re upset that you started your summer birthday kid in private school on time, and that you disregarded the school’s norms for an earlier “unofficial cutoff.” And now your kid is 3 months younger than the rest of the class and you’re in your feels about it. You can switch to public school at any time when there are many summer birthday kids sent on time, especially girls. Other than that, I’d suggest you take your own advice and endlessly gas up your kid about how much she’s had to overcome and isn’t struggle the whole point of living anyway.

Another post showing us that private school mommies are insufferable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We did redshirt, so that my son has every single advantage he can get. It may not be fair, but you know what else is fair? Life. One year of physical and brain development makes a difference. While his classmates barely do single digit addition his teacher gives him three digit addition worksheets. Since he’s a head above the other kids nobody dares to bully him and he’s bossing the other kids around.

Some sour grape moms with tiny underdeveloped kids make some snide remarks at sports events, but who cares. My son is a star and they are just envious.

The head start is super important. If this is something that matters to you, redshirt your kid. If you didn’t and missed the train, too bad. Stop whining and move on. Do better next time, lol.

Amazing trolling. Best way to deal with the crazy antiredshirter. Well done.

Oh no, that person was real.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our kid had adhd and dyslexia. You’re da*n right we red-shirted. They had absolutely no advantage being older in the grade. Struggle, struggle, struggle. But thanks for the derision!

I don't think OP was thinking about your kid when they posted.

DCUMs anti-redshirters are anti-social and hyper-competitive. There is absolutely no question in my mind that OP is thinking about kids like PPs. I’ve watched the casual cruelty of DCUM anti-redshirters too many times over the years. They delight in bullying children.

Also, I didn’t redshirt, although that should not matter.

Literally nobody cares about some special needs child being held back a year.

Nobody.

My kid had no diagnosis when we made the decision to hold him back. He was diagnosed with autism several years later. So was the decision not ok at first and then it became acceptable? Is it only acceptable if I prove his diagnosis?

If you don’t see it before age 3 then it’s not autism. Get another opinion.

You are a terrible person. Parents go through a lot when a child has special needs. No need to be gratuitously asinine and question their kids diagnosis and reasons for holding the child back.

Let parents decide what’s best for their child and don’t be concerned with it, not your business anyways.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our kid had adhd and dyslexia. You’re da*n right we red-shirted. They had absolutely no advantage being older in the grade. Struggle, struggle, struggle. But thanks for the derision!

I don't think OP was thinking about your kid when they posted.

DCUMs anti-redshirters are anti-social and hyper-competitive. There is absolutely no question in my mind that OP is thinking about kids like PPs. I’ve watched the casual cruelty of DCUM anti-redshirters too many times over the years. They delight in bullying children.

Also, I didn’t redshirt, although that should not matter.

Literally nobody cares about some special needs child being held back a year.

Nobody.

My kid had no diagnosis when we made the decision to hold him back. He was diagnosed with autism several years later. So was the decision not ok at first and then it became acceptable? Is it only acceptable if I prove his diagnosis?

If you don’t see it before age 3 then it’s not autism. Get another opinion.

Oh it's autism all right. And all the signs were there before 3 -- we just didn't have a formal diagnosis.

But this totally ignorant comment is why dcum shouldn't be expressing opinions about other kids' educational needs.

You know it’s all downhill after age 6- shouldn’t have waited!