Missing Princeton student

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:how do you get aid on $350k?
We got zero aid at that level from 10 schools including an Ivy.

NP. I'm guessing they have A. low/no assets; B. more than one kid in college or C. divorced household

Yes, you guessed it : no assets and 2 kids in college.

How do you earn $350 and have no assets?

We only got to this HHI level recently.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Remember that one YouTube from that Princeton kid that was posted here last year?

Wow eye-opening.

Immediately took it off of my kids list. It is not a happy place. Buyer beware

Lol my dc is there and is pretty happy

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Curious what is your HHI?

$350k
My kid gets aid.

From Princeton.


You aren’t getting a Pell grant. You can easily afford eating clubs, ski trip weekends, and walking around money for food or NYC nights.

not if you live in a high COL area, you can't

Get real. Eating clubs are $10k a year, that’s 3% of your HHI you can comfortably pay for that and walking around money.

We will comfortably pay for the eating clubs and walking around money.
I am telling my kid a B is perfectly acceptable and not to sweat it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Remember that one YouTube from that Princeton kid that was posted here last year?

Wow eye-opening.

Immediately took it off of my kids list. It is not a happy place. Buyer beware

Lol my dc is there and is pretty happy

m
Curious what is your HHI?

$350k
My kid gets aid.

How much aid do you get with $350k?

We are paying half our in state tuition costs. We are grateful.

You must have very low assets. When we ran the NPC it resulted in zero aid and our HHI is lower.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Remember that one YouTube from that Princeton kid that was posted here last year?

Wow eye-opening.

Immediately took it off of my kids list. It is not a happy place. Buyer beware

Lol my dc is there and is pretty happy

m
Curious what is your HHI?

$350k
My kid gets aid.

How much aid do you get with $350k?

We are paying half our in state tuition costs. We are grateful.

You must have very low assets. When we ran the NPC it resulted in zero aid and our HHI is lower.

We do! Grateful to Princeton and grateful our kid is happy there.

[Anonymous]

You all insane. Take your debate about money elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Remember that one YouTube from that Princeton kid that was posted here last year?

Wow eye-opening.

Immediately took it off of my kids list. It is not a happy place. Buyer beware

Lol my dc is there and is pretty happy

m
Curious what is your HHI?

$350k
My kid gets aid.

From Princeton.


You aren’t getting a Pell grant. You can easily afford eating clubs, ski trip weekends, and walking around money for food or NYC nights.

not if you live in a high COL area, you can't

Get real. Eating clubs are $10k a year, that’s 3% of your HHI you can comfortably pay for that and walking around money.

We will comfortably pay for the eating clubs and walking around money.
I am telling my kid a B is perfectly acceptable and not to sweat it.

You have to pay to be in an eating club at Princeton?

[Anonymous]

This side convo feels very gross on a thread discussing a missing student.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Remember that one YouTube from that Princeton kid that was posted here last year?

Wow eye-opening.

Immediately took it off of my kids list. It is not a happy place. Buyer beware

Lol my dc is there and is pretty happy

m
Curious what is your HHI?

$350k
My kid gets aid.

From Princeton.

You aren’t getting a Pell grant. You can easily afford eating clubs, ski trip weekends, and walking around money for food or NYC nights.

You do know that financial aid provides junior and seniors with a dining credit sufficient to fund eating club meal plans? And only a few still have bucket, the rest are open to whomever want to join.

Bicker, not bucket.

Those are both great developments!!

Do they give a stipend for walking work money for such a rich campus it’s needed.

I doubt it but 60 percent of the kids get financial aid. The rich kid era of the 1990s is no more.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Perfectionistic kids who struggle in such a competitive environment. Little resilience, poor mental health after years of competing and being valued for external accomplishments.

Is this just guessing? Gross

The school attracts kids whose identity is primarily based on their academic achievements. It is hard to become a small fish in a big pond: get Bs or Cs, have to actually learn how to study, mke new friends, be poor among rich kids, figure oneself out at the age of 18, etc….

Hope he is safe!

This. We all have read the stats of the kids getting into the top 10 schools these days. Heck, even what is needed to get into UVA. We do not allow kids to fail and reinvent themselves during their teen years. They are expected to be perfect and do it all. No down time. No “hanging out” all weekend with friends or family. They must volunteer, research, play a sport, make an impact, get all As (no A-s!!). It is insane. This is the result.

The young man who is missing graduated from high school in 2019 but is a current junior. Even assuming he took off a Covid year, he is taking a long time to graduate, and that’s not a typical Princeton experience. It’s quite possible that the university had been working with him for years to try and accommodate his needs. Some other schools might not have been so generous.

The amount of projection on these threads from people who want to feel better about not having attended a top school like Princeton or their kids not getting into a top school is bonkers.

So etching


Something is wrong with you if you want to blame this on jealousy. Seven, perhaps eight, suicides in 3 years indicates something is not right for at least some kids there. MIT made a raft of changes in the early 2000s when they had a similar issues, Princeton needs to do that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Perfectionistic kids who struggle in such a competitive environment. Little resilience, poor mental health after years of competing and being valued for external accomplishments.

Is this just guessing? Gross

The school attracts kids whose identity is primarily based on their academic achievements. It is hard to become a small fish in a big pond: get Bs or Cs, have to actually learn how to study, mke new friends, be poor among rich kids, figure oneself out at the age of 18, etc….

Hope he is safe!

This. We all have read the stats of the kids getting into the top 10 schools these days. Heck, even what is needed to get into UVA. We do not allow kids to fail and reinvent themselves during their teen years. They are expected to be perfect and do it all. No down time. No “hanging out” all weekend with friends or family. They must volunteer, research, play a sport, make an impact, get all As (no A-s!!). It is insane. This is the result.

The young man who is missing graduated from high school in 2019 but is a current junior. Even assuming he took off a Covid year, he is taking a long time to graduate, and that’s not a typical Princeton experience. It’s quite possible that the university had been working with him for years to try and accommodate his needs. Some other schools might not have been so generous.

The amount of projection on these threads from people who want to feel better about not having attended a top school like Princeton or their kids not getting into a top school is bonkers.

Total speculation here, but he's from a large family and I see at least one Mormon group on FB praying for him -- maybe he took a break for mission work?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Perfectionistic kids who struggle in such a competitive environment. Little resilience, poor mental health after years of competing and being valued for external accomplishments.

Is this just guessing? Gross

The school attracts kids whose identity is primarily based on their academic achievements. It is hard to become a small fish in a big pond: get Bs or Cs, have to actually learn how to study, mke new friends, be poor among rich kids, figure oneself out at the age of 18, etc….

Hope he is safe!

This. We all have read the stats of the kids getting into the top 10 schools these days. Heck, even what is needed to get into UVA. We do not allow kids to fail and reinvent themselves during their teen years. They are expected to be perfect and do it all. No down time. No “hanging out” all weekend with friends or family. They must volunteer, research, play a sport, make an impact, get all As (no A-s!!). It is insane. This is the result.

The young man who is missing graduated from high school in 2019 but is a current junior. Even assuming he took off a Covid year, he is taking a long time to graduate, and that’s not a typical Princeton experience. It’s quite possible that the university had been working with him for years to try and accommodate his needs. Some other schools might not have been so generous.

The amount of projection on these threads from people who want to feel better about not having attended a top school like Princeton or their kids not getting into a top school is bonkers.

So etching


Something is wrong with you if you want to blame this on jealousy. Seven, perhaps eight, suicides in 3 years indicates something is not right for at least some kids there. MIT made a raft of changes in the early 2000s when they had a similar issues, Princeton needs to do that.

Concern troll is going to concern troll. Elite schools attract kids who hold themselves to very high standards and place a lot of pressure on themselves. Princeton has excellent resources for students who may be struggling, whether academically or for other reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Perfectionistic kids who struggle in such a competitive environment. Little resilience, poor mental health after years of competing and being valued for external accomplishments.

Is this just guessing? Gross

The school attracts kids whose identity is primarily based on their academic achievements. It is hard to become a small fish in a big pond: get Bs or Cs, have to actually learn how to study, mke new friends, be poor among rich kids, figure oneself out at the age of 18, etc….

Hope he is safe!

This. We all have read the stats of the kids getting into the top 10 schools these days. Heck, even what is needed to get into UVA. We do not allow kids to fail and reinvent themselves during their teen years. They are expected to be perfect and do it all. No down time. No “hanging out” all weekend with friends or family. They must volunteer, research, play a sport, make an impact, get all As (no A-s!!). It is insane. This is the result.

The young man who is missing graduated from high school in 2019 but is a current junior. Even assuming he took off a Covid year, he is taking a long time to graduate, and that’s not a typical Princeton experience. It’s quite possible that the university had been working with him for years to try and accommodate his needs. Some other schools might not have been so generous.

The amount of projection on these threads from people who want to feel better about not having attended a top school like Princeton or their kids not getting into a top school is bonkers.

So etching


Something is wrong with you if you want to blame this on jealousy. Seven, perhaps eight, suicides in 3 years indicates something is not right for at least some kids there. MIT made a raft of changes in the early 2000s when they had a similar issues, Princeton needs to do that.

Concern troll is going to concern troll. Elite schools attract kids who hold themselves to very high standards and place a lot of pressure on themselves. Princeton has excellent resources for students who may be struggling, whether academically or for other reasons.

Princeton offers free counseling and psychological support to students. Counselors are available 24/7. Free primary care as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Perfectionistic kids who struggle in such a competitive environment. Little resilience, poor mental health after years of competing and being valued for external accomplishments.

Is this just guessing? Gross

The school attracts kids whose identity is primarily based on their academic achievements. It is hard to become a small fish in a big pond: get Bs or Cs, have to actually learn how to study, mke new friends, be poor among rich kids, figure oneself out at the age of 18, etc….

Hope he is safe!

This. We all have read the stats of the kids getting into the top 10 schools these days. Heck, even what is needed to get into UVA. We do not allow kids to fail and reinvent themselves during their teen years. They are expected to be perfect and do it all. No down time. No “hanging out” all weekend with friends or family. They must volunteer, research, play a sport, make an impact, get all As (no A-s!!). It is insane. This is the result.

The young man who is missing graduated from high school in 2019 but is a current junior. Even assuming he took off a Covid year, he is taking a long time to graduate, and that’s not a typical Princeton experience. It’s quite possible that the university had been working with him for years to try and accommodate his needs. Some other schools might not have been so generous.

The amount of projection on these threads from people who want to feel better about not having attended a top school like Princeton or their kids not getting into a top school is bonkers.

So etching


Something is wrong with you if you want to blame this on jealousy. Seven, perhaps eight, suicides in 3 years indicates something is not right for at least some kids there. MIT made a raft of changes in the early 2000s when they had a similar issues, Princeton needs to do that.

Concern troll is going to concern troll. Elite schools attract kids who hold themselves to very high standards and place a lot of pressure on themselves. Princeton has excellent resources for students who may be struggling, whether academically or for other reasons.

Princeton offers free counseling and psychological support to students. Counselors are available 24/7. Free primary care as well.

Seven suicides in three years shows it’s not working.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Perfectionistic kids who struggle in such a competitive environment. Little resilience, poor mental health after years of competing and being valued for external accomplishments.

Is this just guessing? Gross

The school attracts kids whose identity is primarily based on their academic achievements. It is hard to become a small fish in a big pond: get Bs or Cs, have to actually learn how to study, mke new friends, be poor among rich kids, figure oneself out at the age of 18, etc….

Hope he is safe!

This. We all have read the stats of the kids getting into the top 10 schools these days. Heck, even what is needed to get into UVA. We do not allow kids to fail and reinvent themselves during their teen years. They are expected to be perfect and do it all. No down time. No “hanging out” all weekend with friends or family. They must volunteer, research, play a sport, make an impact, get all As (no A-s!!). It is insane. This is the result.

The young man who is missing graduated from high school in 2019 but is a current junior. Even assuming he took off a Covid year, he is taking a long time to graduate, and that’s not a typical Princeton experience. It’s quite possible that the university had been working with him for years to try and accommodate his needs. Some other schools might not have been so generous.

The amount of projection on these threads from people who want to feel better about not having attended a top school like Princeton or their kids not getting into a top school is bonkers.

So etching


Something is wrong with you if you want to blame this on jealousy. Seven, perhaps eight, suicides in 3 years indicates something is not right for at least some kids there. MIT made a raft of changes in the early 2000s when they had a similar issues, Princeton needs to do that.

Concern troll is going to concern troll. Elite schools attract kids who hold themselves to very high standards and place a lot of pressure on themselves. Princeton has excellent resources for students who may be struggling, whether academically or for other reasons.

Princeton offers free counseling and psychological support to students. Counselors are available 24/7. Free primary care as well.

Seven suicides in three years shows it’s not working.

Counseling is a bunch of BS?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Perfectionistic kids who struggle in such a competitive environment. Little resilience, poor mental health after years of competing and being valued for external accomplishments.

Is this just guessing? Gross

The school attracts kids whose identity is primarily based on their academic achievements. It is hard to become a small fish in a big pond: get Bs or Cs, have to actually learn how to study, mke new friends, be poor among rich kids, figure oneself out at the age of 18, etc….

Hope he is safe!

This. We all have read the stats of the kids getting into the top 10 schools these days. Heck, even what is needed to get into UVA. We do not allow kids to fail and reinvent themselves during their teen years. They are expected to be perfect and do it all. No down time. No “hanging out” all weekend with friends or family. They must volunteer, research, play a sport, make an impact, get all As (no A-s!!). It is insane. This is the result.

The young man who is missing graduated from high school in 2019 but is a current junior. Even assuming he took off a Covid year, he is taking a long time to graduate, and that’s not a typical Princeton experience. It’s quite possible that the university had been working with him for years to try and accommodate his needs. Some other schools might not have been so generous.

The amount of projection on these threads from people who want to feel better about not having attended a top school like Princeton or their kids not getting into a top school is bonkers.

So etching


Something is wrong with you if you want to blame this on jealousy. Seven, perhaps eight, suicides in 3 years indicates something is not right for at least some kids there. MIT made a raft of changes in the early 2000s when they had a similar issues, Princeton needs to do that.

Concern troll is going to concern troll. Elite schools attract kids who hold themselves to very high standards and place a lot of pressure on themselves. Princeton has excellent resources for students who may be struggling, whether academically or for other reasons.

Princeton offers free counseling and psychological support to students. Counselors are available 24/7. Free primary care as well.

Seven suicides in three years shows it’s not working.

Counseling is a bunch of BS?

Not what I said.