Missing Princeton student

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Princeton has had 7 student suicide since 2022. I do hope they consider whether they need to make some culture changes. Suicides have not historically been an issue ar the school so it’s something unique to the current culture at the school.

God, that's awful. These kids are under far too much pressure. It is beyond unhealthy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Remember that one YouTube from that Princeton kid that was posted here last year?

Wow eye-opening.

Immediately took it off of my kids list. It is not a happy place. Buyer beware

Lol my dc is there and is pretty happy

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Curious what is your HHI?

$350k
My kid gets aid.

From Princeton.

You aren’t getting a Pell grant. You can easily afford eating clubs, ski trip weekends, and walking around money for food or NYC nights.

You do know that financial aid provides junior and seniors with a dining credit sufficient to fund eating club meal plans? And only a few still have bucket, the rest are open to whomever want to join.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Remember that one YouTube from that Princeton kid that was posted here last year?

Wow eye-opening.

Immediately took it off of my kids list. It is not a happy place. Buyer beware

Lol my dc is there and is pretty happy

m
Curious what is your HHI?

$350k
My kid gets aid.

From Princeton.

You aren’t getting a Pell grant. You can easily afford eating clubs, ski trip weekends, and walking around money for food or NYC nights.

You do know that financial aid provides junior and seniors with a dining credit sufficient to fund eating club meal plans? And only a few still have bucket, the rest are open to whomever want to join.

Bicker, not bucket.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Perfectionistic kids who struggle in such a competitive environment. Little resilience, poor mental health after years of competing and being valued for external accomplishments.

Is this just guessing? Gross

The school attracts kids whose identity is primarily based on their academic achievements. It is hard to become a small fish in a big pond: get Bs or Cs, have to actually learn how to study, mke new friends, be poor among rich kids, figure oneself out at the age of 18, etc….

Hope he is safe!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Remember that one YouTube from that Princeton kid that was posted here last year?

Wow eye-opening.

Immediately took it off of my kids list. It is not a happy place. Buyer beware

Lol my dc is there and is pretty happy

m
Curious what is your HHI?

$350k
My kid gets aid.

How much aid do you get with $350k?

We are paying half our in state tuition costs. We are grateful.

[Anonymous]

how do you get aid on $350k?
We got zero aid at that level from 10 schools including an Ivy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:how do you get aid on $350k?
We got zero aid at that level from 10 schools including an Ivy.

NP. I'm guessing they have A. low/no assets; B. more than one kid in college or C. divorced household

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:how do you get aid on $350k?
We got zero aid at that level from 10 schools including an Ivy.

I know. We got 0 from Brown and Northwestern. About $35k from both Columbia and Penn. So we couldn’t believe Princeton’s generosity.
We have two kids in college, not sure if that plays a role.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:how do you get aid on $350k?
We got zero aid at that level from 10 schools including an Ivy.

NP. I'm guessing they have A. low/no assets; B. more than one kid in college or C. divorced household

Yes, you guessed it : no assets and 2 kids in college.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Perfectionistic kids who struggle in such a competitive environment. Little resilience, poor mental health after years of competing and being valued for external accomplishments.

Is this just guessing? Gross

The school attracts kids whose identity is primarily based on their academic achievements. It is hard to become a small fish in a big pond: get Bs or Cs, have to actually learn how to study, mke new friends, be poor among rich kids, figure oneself out at the age of 18, etc….

Hope he is safe!

This. We all have read the stats of the kids getting into the top 10 schools these days. Heck, even what is needed to get into UVA. We do not allow kids to fail and reinvent themselves during their teen years. They are expected to be perfect and do it all. No down time. No “hanging out” all weekend with friends or family. They must volunteer, research, play a sport, make an impact, get all As (no A-s!!). It is insane. This is the result.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:how do you get aid on $350k?
We got zero aid at that level from 10 schools including an Ivy.

NP. I'm guessing they have A. low/no assets; B. more than one kid in college or C. divorced household

Yes, you guessed it : no assets and 2 kids in college.

How do you earn $350 and have no assets?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Remember that one YouTube from that Princeton kid that was posted here last year?

Wow eye-opening.

Immediately took it off of my kids list. It is not a happy place. Buyer beware

Lol my dc is there and is pretty happy

m
Curious what is your HHI?

$350k
My kid gets aid.

From Princeton.


You aren’t getting a Pell grant. You can easily afford eating clubs, ski trip weekends, and walking around money for food or NYC nights.

not if you live in a high COL area, you can't

Get real. Eating clubs are $10k a year, that’s 3% of your HHI you can comfortably pay for that and walking around money.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Remember that one YouTube from that Princeton kid that was posted here last year?

Wow eye-opening.

Immediately took it off of my kids list. It is not a happy place. Buyer beware

Lol my dc is there and is pretty happy

m
Curious what is your HHI?

$350k
My kid gets aid.

From Princeton.

You aren’t getting a Pell grant. You can easily afford eating clubs, ski trip weekends, and walking around money for food or NYC nights.

You do know that financial aid provides junior and seniors with a dining credit sufficient to fund eating club meal plans? And only a few still have bucket, the rest are open to whomever want to join.

Bicker, not bucket.

Those are both great developments!!

Do they give a stipend for walking work money for such a rich campus it’s needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Perfectionistic kids who struggle in such a competitive environment. Little resilience, poor mental health after years of competing and being valued for external accomplishments.

Kids who have been pushed for years to be perfectionists and told they are not 100% worthy unless they achieve high success. That is what you get after 12 years of that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Perfectionistic kids who struggle in such a competitive environment. Little resilience, poor mental health after years of competing and being valued for external accomplishments.

Is this just guessing? Gross

The school attracts kids whose identity is primarily based on their academic achievements. It is hard to become a small fish in a big pond: get Bs or Cs, have to actually learn how to study, mke new friends, be poor among rich kids, figure oneself out at the age of 18, etc….

Hope he is safe!

This. We all have read the stats of the kids getting into the top 10 schools these days. Heck, even what is needed to get into UVA. We do not allow kids to fail and reinvent themselves during their teen years. They are expected to be perfect and do it all. No down time. No “hanging out” all weekend with friends or family. They must volunteer, research, play a sport, make an impact, get all As (no A-s!!). It is insane. This is the result.

The young man who is missing graduated from high school in 2019 but is a current junior. Even assuming he took off a Covid year, he is taking a long time to graduate, and that’s not a typical Princeton experience. It’s quite possible that the university had been working with him for years to try and accommodate his needs. Some other schools might not have been so generous.

The amount of projection on these threads from people who want to feel better about not having attended a top school like Princeton or their kids not getting into a top school is bonkers.