daughter is taking a way older man

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you saying taking? Twice? Do you mean dating?

Please answer this. What do you mean by taking? Is she taking him somewhere?

meant to say Talking/ dating him. I am not sure what term they are using when they are dating someone.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, is your daughter's guy at least super rich? Also, I had a college roommate who was a sugar baby. She grew up affluent, so she was accustomed to the best, but her parents wanted her to learn to work, so they didn't give her any spending money in college. None of those siutationships lasted, though.

I don't believe he is super rich, My daughter is a pre-school (head start) teacher at the school he is the 5th grade teacher, but he just got a divorced so maybe its May-December relationship? We haven't meet him yet, but seems like a nice guy the age gap is still strange.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:daughter is taking a way older man.

She is 25 year old and dating a 50 something year old dude.. Is there anything we can do?

If you or your daughter dated someone who was your parents age how long did it last? Should we say something?

Don't interfere or you will just push her away.

Maybe it's a real match, and they will have a great life together, or maybe she is just kicking up her heels some for fun. Either way, it's her decision.

It's normal for younger women to want an older man with a 10-20 year age gap, because men act like children until their late 30s or older, and some never grow up. With todays zoomers and millennials, they all act like man-children, playing video games and other childish behaviors.

10 years I can see...especially since many 22 yo guys are still immature. But much more than that when you are in your 20s seems strange

Sure, it increases as one ages. A 10 year age gap for a girl in her mid 20s is very normal. A 20 year age gap when a woman is in her mid 40s is very normal.
15 year age gap with the man older, is the overall sweet spot, as a 30 year old woman looks about the same as a 45 year old man, and a 50 year old woman about the same as a 65 year old man, etc.

Nah. My DH is a bit younger and we’re very happy with each other. Close in age works well. I bet the PP is a dude trying to get younger women.

[Anonymous]

I did this some years ago, as the older man dating the younger woman. We both understood it wasn't forever, it was just fun. She told me she was tired of the immaturity and financial instability of men her age.

We both moved on, but we still text every couple months to see how each other is doing. I think she has a new BF around her age now, and I'm happy for her if she's happy.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d try to arrange for a can’t-miss family vacation, internship, study abroad, mission trip, or something else to get her out of town from him. Take her somewhere young, preferably with a time zone change that makes it hard for her to call him. Maybe a beach vacation near a college town? Don’t bring him up at all. Same at Christmas. Family is thinking of going to Hawaii for two weeks and she needs to come. (Again, the time difference will make it harder for them to text.) Plan board games, movie nights, hot chocolate, etc. make it magical on your budget.

She is 25, presumably with a job, and likely living on her own. And yu want then to arrange an internship for her?

I can't tell if you didn't read carefully or are just an idiot.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op, is your daughter's guy at least super rich? Also, I had a college roommate who was a sugar baby. She grew up affluent, so she was accustomed to the best, but her parents wanted her to learn to work, so they didn't give her any spending money in college. None of those siutationships lasted, though.

I don't believe he is super rich, My daughter is a pre-school (head start) teacher at the school he is the 5th grade teacher, but he just got a divorced so maybe its May-December relationship? We haven't meet him yet, but seems like a nice guy the age gap is still strange.

50-something is not "December." JFC, OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:daughter is taking a way older man.

She is 25 year old and dating a 50 something year old dude.. Is there anything we can do?

If you or your daughter dated someone who was your parents age how long did it last? Should we say something?

Don't interfere or you will just push her away.

Maybe it's a real match, and they will have a great life together, or maybe she is just kicking up her heels some for fun. Either way, it's her decision.

It's normal for younger women to want an older man with a 10-20 year age gap, because men act like children until their late 30s or older, and some never grow up. With todays zoomers and millennials, they all act like man-children, playing video games and other childish behaviors.

10 years I can see...especially since many 22 yo guys are still immature. But much more than that when you are in your 20s seems strange

Sure, it increases as one ages. A 10 year age gap for a girl in her mid 20s is very normal. A 20 year age gap when a woman is in her mid 40s is very normal.
15 year age gap with the man older, is the overall sweet spot, as a 30 year old woman looks about the same as a 45 year old man, and a 50 year old woman about the same as a 65 year old man, etc.

Nah. My DH is a bit younger and we’re very happy with each other. Close in age works well. I bet the PP is a dude trying to get younger women.

He will likely leave you for a younger woman as you get old looking.

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Anonymous wrote:daughter is taking a way older man.

She is 25 year old and dating a 50 something year old dude.. Is there anything we can do?

If you or your daughter dated someone who was your parents age how long did it last? Should we say something?

Don't interfere or you will just push her away.

Maybe it's a real match, and they will have a great life together, or maybe she is just kicking up her heels some for fun. Either way, it's her decision.

It's normal for younger women to want an older man with a 10-20 year age gap, because men act like children until their late 30s or older, and some never grow up. With todays zoomers and millennials, they all act like man-children, playing video games and other childish behaviors.

No. It’s not.

History and human relations says yes it is.
You are either out of touch or pushing an agenda.

History?

Yes, past and present. Majority of women worldwide marry a man several years her senior.

It's basic evolutionary science to do so, as women mature faster and also age faster, than men. Also for stability.

Here in the USA many women have been duped into thinking they should marry their own age or younger men, but that's one of the big reasons for the increasing divorce rates.

My husband and I are the same age and we have been married for 40 years. We know at least five other couples from our college who also have been married 40 years or longer. We all feel feel that being a similar age has been a big advantage in creating strong bonds as a married couple.

That's simply splendid, dear.

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I know someone who married a guy 25 years older. She is in her 60s now and still supporting him. He is in his 80s with ill health. He didn’t want kids because he was too old. So she after he dies, she had no family and it on her own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know someone who married a guy 25 years older. She is in her 60s now and still supporting him. He is in his 80s with ill health. He didn’t want kids because he was too old. So she after he dies, she had no family and it on her own.

That is not an age thing, but a personal preference of that man.

SHE CHOSE to be with a man who didn't want kids, so it's on her.

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Anonymous wrote:So gross. Hopefully she realizes how much of a loser he is and moves on.

How sexist and judgmental of you.
Why is that? Jealousy?

Are you a predatory old man going after young women?

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Anonymous wrote:daughter is taking a way older man.

She is 25 year old and dating a 50 something year old dude.. Is there anything we can do?

If you or your daughter dated someone who was your parents age how long did it last? Should we say something?

Don't interfere or you will just push her away.

Maybe it's a real match, and they will have a great life together, or maybe she is just kicking up her heels some for fun. Either way, it's her decision.

It's normal for younger women to want an older man with a 10-20 year age gap, because men act like children until their late 30s or older, and some never grow up. With todays zoomers and millennials, they all act like man-children, playing video games and other childish behaviors.

10 years I can see...especially since many 22 yo guys are still immature. But much more than that when you are in your 20s seems strange

Sure, it increases as one ages. A 10 year age gap for a girl in her mid 20s is very normal. A 20 year age gap when a woman is in her mid 40s is very normal.
15 year age gap with the man older, is the overall sweet spot, as a 30 year old woman looks about the same as a 45 year old man, and a 50 year old woman about the same as a 65 year old man, etc.

Nah. My DH is a bit younger and we’re very happy with each other. Close in age works well. I bet the PP is a dude trying to get younger women.

He will likely leave you for a younger woman as you get old looking.

You’re projecting. I’m so sorry.

[Anonymous]

Don't blame her. Most 'men' 20s-30s are basically children themselves. I am a man.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:daughter is taking a way older man.

She is 25 year old and dating a 50 something year old dude.. Is there anything we can do?

If you or your daughter dated someone who was your parents age how long did it last? Should we say something?

Don't interfere or you will just push her away.

Maybe it's a real match, and they will have a great life together, or maybe she is just kicking up her heels some for fun. Either way, it's her decision.

It's normal for younger women to want an older man with a 10-20 year age gap, because men act like children until their late 30s or older, and some never grow up. With todays zoomers and millennials, they all act like man-children, playing video games and other childish behaviors.

No. It’s not.

History and human relations says yes it is.
You are either out of touch or pushing an agenda.

History?

Yes, past and present. Majority of women worldwide marry a man several years her senior.

It's basic evolutionary science to do so, as women mature faster and also age faster, than men. Also for stability.

Here in the USA many women have been duped into thinking they should marry their own age or younger men, but that's one of the big reasons for the increasing divorce rates.

Uh...no. The median ages of men and women marrying in all 1st world countries (US, Europe, Japan, Korea) is roughly the same. It's like 28 for women and 29 for men.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op, is your daughter's guy at least super rich? Also, I had a college roommate who was a sugar baby. She grew up affluent, so she was accustomed to the best, but her parents wanted her to learn to work, so they didn't give her any spending money in college. None of those siutationships lasted, though.

I don't believe he is super rich, My daughter is a pre-school (head start) teacher at the school he is the 5th grade teacher, but he just got a divorced so maybe its May-December relationship? We haven't meet him yet, but seems like a nice guy the age gap is still strange.

I don't think you need to do much if it doesn't look headed for something serious.

If it does, you need to show her the countless stories of how miserable couples are when one of the partners becomes elderly/infirmed, and now the other is just their nurse, yet the younger one is only like 40. It can happen sooner than you expect if the older spouse isn't in great physical shape.