daughter is taking a way older man

[Anonymous]

daughter is taking a way older man.

She is 25 year old and dating a 50 something year old dude.. Is there anything we can do?

If you or your daughter dated someone who was your parents age how long did it last? Should we say something?

[Anonymous]

I’d say nothing. Usually it ends. The girl grows up while Peter Pan doesn’t. But for MAGA Trump spokesgirl (her hubby is like 30+ years her age!)

[Anonymous]

My wife dated a 50 year old when she was 18. It lasted for a summer. Slightly different situation because she was going off to college at the end, but I still wouldn't expect this to last long.

Her parents didn't know, but there's not really anything you can do either way. There's nothing you can say that she hasn't thought of either. I'd let it burn itself out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d say nothing. Usually it ends. The girl grows up while Peter Pan doesn’t. But for MAGA Trump spokesgirl (her hubby is like 30+ years her age!)

Your life is really bizarre if you think about Trump when talking about sugar daddy’s of some internet stranger.

[Anonymous]

I lasted 2 years, until I graduated college (dated him Jr and Sr year). When I realized I wasn't going to change his mind about kids, I broke up with him (I wanted kids, he didn't).

[Anonymous]

Why are you saying taking? Twice? Do you mean dating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:daughter is taking a way older man.

She is 25 year old and dating a 50 something year old dude.. Is there anything we can do?

If you or your daughter dated someone who was your parents age how long did it last? Should we say something?

What's your analysis of why she is doing it?
Is he charismatic? Wealthy? Her professor, therapist or boss? A cult leader?

[Anonymous]

You can't stop her but you can try to reroute her to give her some time and distance to process it away from him by sending her to an all expense paid summer trip abroad or convince her to get a grad degree before marrying anyone.

[Anonymous]

Where is she taking him OP?

[Anonymous]

Dating an older man in your early twenties for a while can be fun and harmless. It’s good to connect with different types of people. It’s not good for a serious relationship because of the life phase mismatch. But not all dating needs to be going somewhere long term.

[Anonymous]

I was 45, my wife 26 when we met. Celebrated 24 years together a few weeks ago. Better every day!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can't stop her but you can try to reroute her to give her some time and distance to process it away from him by sending her to an all expense paid summer trip abroad or convince her to get a grad degree before marrying anyone.

+1

There are a lot of dreams people in their 20s cam have that older people have moved past. Remind/help her to remember that her 20s don't last forever and she should experience some of these.

Mr. 50 will still be there but by that time closer to 60 which may be not as palatable.

[Anonymous]

Worst case scenario, she'll marry him and get divorce in a couple of years. Its a free country and she is an adult so as much as you want to stop it, don't beat yourself if you can't.

[Anonymous]

The more you speak against him, the more she will defend him and their relationship. Stay neutral and let her work it out. Odds are it will end soon.

[Anonymous]

What’s with all the slutty adult children posts lately?