Husband told me he doesn’t like my cooking

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Take turns. You eat what the other makes and appreciate it, that's how it works.

He doesn’t cook and has no interest in learning.

And yet he’s interested in eating (along with being a critic.) That would not fly with me. Wait til you have kids. Bet he won’t be interested in learning to care for them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I are newlyweds and just got married. He told me yesterday that he doesn’t like my cooking very much. I was a little taken back because he has always eaten what I’ve made. I’m a little hurt, but more so, unsure of what to do. Do I keep cooking for him or just cooking for myself?

They can do what they want. Maybe ask if they want it a few times. Then move on and focus on yourself. They can also cook for you both if you like their cooking.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you are freestyling and don’t have the cooking chops to do that yet. You need to get some good recipes and FOLLOW THEM.

Rubbery chicken breasts means they are over cooked. Get the meatloaf mix (beef, pork, veal) for your meatloaf. Use a recipe and follow it. Get a meat thermometer and learn what correctly cooked meat temps are - it will help a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't listen to the shrews here. The sky is not falling, and your husband is not an ahole. My wife did cook more to my liking over time, but what ALSO happened is that my palate developed over time to like a much broader range of dishes, thanks to her.

Shrew. You tell on yourself when you use words like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of a sudden… Ugh! I’d inquire as to what changed.
Also, maybe suggest he cook. Or simply cook for yourself.

We just got married. We lived together while engaged but he was gone most weeks for work. He‘s in a different job and now we eat dinner together every night.

He can’t and doesn’t care to cook. He has no interest in ever trying.

This is the problem. Not cool. Not fair.
Revisit this with your husband..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of a sudden… Ugh! I’d inquire as to what changed.
Also, maybe suggest he cook. Or simply cook for yourself.

We just got married. We lived together while engaged but he was gone most weeks for work. He‘s in a different job and now we eat dinner together every night.

He can’t and doesn’t care to cook. He has no interest in ever trying.

People who don’t cook don’t get to complain about the food. Eat it or starve.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of a sudden… Ugh! I’d inquire as to what changed.
Also, maybe suggest he cook. Or simply cook for yourself.

We just got married. We lived together while engaged but he was gone most weeks for work. He‘s in a different job and now we eat dinner together every night.

He can’t and doesn’t care to cook. He has no interest in ever trying.

People who don’t cook don’t get to complain about the food. Eat it or starve.

Agreed. He can't throw stones if he's unwilling to share the load.

[Anonymous]

Without any more details it’s hard to give you advice.

Your feelings are hurt and I get it but could he factually correct that you are not a good cook? Maybe watch cooking shows, read recipe books and get the techniques down. Ex. You have to learn how to brown your fake instead of it being gray and an appetizing. follow tried and true recipes to get good results.

Or is it a situation where it’s a matter of preference of cuisines or taste? Is he a chicken tenders and mac & cheese kinda guy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of a sudden… Ugh! I’d inquire as to what changed.
Also, maybe suggest he cook. Or simply cook for yourself.

We just got married. We lived together while engaged but he was gone most weeks for work. He‘s in a different job and now we eat dinner together every night.

He can’t and doesn’t care to cook. He has no interest in ever trying.

People who don’t cook don’t get to complain about the food. Eat it or starve.

Agreed. He can't throw stones if he's unwilling to share the load.

Agree.
Funny how she/OP should improve her cooking skills but he gets to bypass cooking or learning to
As adults we all have to do stuff we don't like -- no option to simply skip things that are challenging or new.

Red flag

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of a sudden… Ugh! I’d inquire as to what changed.
Also, maybe suggest he cook. Or simply cook for yourself.

We just got married. We lived together while engaged but he was gone most weeks for work. He‘s in a different job and now we eat dinner together every night.

He can’t and doesn’t care to cook. He has no interest in ever trying.

People who don’t cook don’t get to complain about the food. Eat it or starve.

Agreed. He can't throw stones if he's unwilling to share the load.

Agree.
Funny how she/OP should improve her cooking skills but he gets to bypass cooking or learning to
As adults we all have to do stuff we don't like -- no option to simply skip things that are challenging or new.

Red flag

My husband and I were definitely not great at cooking when we first started living together out of college, but we learned together. If he'd demanded I learned to cook without him also putting in the effort, I wouldn't have married him.

I mean, my Dad would make his famous lasagna for parties, my granddad would take us fishing and then cook a fish dinner with us. Men who can't do basic tasks and refuse to learn are just pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of a sudden… Ugh! I’d inquire as to what changed.
Also, maybe suggest he cook. Or simply cook for yourself.

We just got married. We lived together while engaged but he was gone most weeks for work. He‘s in a different job and now we eat dinner together every night.

He can’t and doesn’t care to cook. He has no interest in ever trying.

People who don’t cook don’t get to complain about the food. Eat it or starve.

Agreed. He can't throw stones if he's unwilling to share the load.

Agree.
Funny how she/OP should improve her cooking skills but he gets to bypass cooking or learning to
As adults we all have to do stuff we don't like -- no option to simply skip things that are challenging or new.

Red flag

I’m 8:19 and you’re right. I meant to add a paragraph about how they should take cooking classes together so they can both cook and contribute to meals. I got lazy and did not. He does not get a pass and he should be contributing and cooking as well.

[Anonymous]

He needs to be in charge of 2 meals a week. Be it him cooking or takeout that he comes up with and orders etc and then you get to comment on how he does. One doesn't get to veto someone else's continuous efforts. If DH didn't like what I cooked out marriage would not have worked out. I like to be creative in the kitchen and before kids we had 3 course meals. Admittedly I have had a few flops over the years and we laughed about them. But overall he has always been extremely thankful for the effort I make. I don't cook breakfasts so he took that over and now with kids they help him and it really brings the effort full circle as he's responsible for one meal a day at minimum. When I make breakfast it's yogurt and toast. When he does it's eggs and Premal and pancakes etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He needs to be in charge of 2 meals a week. Be it him cooking or takeout that he comes up with and orders etc and then you get to comment on how he does. One doesn't get to veto someone else's continuous efforts. If DH didn't like what I cooked out marriage would not have worked out. I like to be creative in the kitchen and before kids we had 3 course meals. Admittedly I have had a few flops over the years and we laughed about them. But overall he has always been extremely thankful for the effort I make. I don't cook breakfasts so he took that over and now with kids they help him and it really brings the effort full circle as he's responsible for one meal a day at minimum. When I make breakfast it's yogurt and toast. When he does it's eggs and Premal and pancakes etc.

Why only 2? OP makes the other 5??

OP - this is a Come To Jesus moment. You need to have a serious talk about this.

[Anonymous]

Take cooking classes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I are newlyweds and just got married. He told me yesterday that he doesn’t like my cooking very much. I was a little taken back because he has always eaten what I’ve made. I’m a little hurt, but more so, unsure of what to do. Do I keep cooking for him or just cooking for myself?

Nothing personal. Everyone's taste is different. It'll grown on him or he'll learn to live with it or learn to cook himself. Do let him know that you are happy to share your cooking but don't want critical reviews.