Husband told me he doesn’t like my cooking

[Anonymous]

My husband and I are newlyweds and just got married. He told me yesterday that he doesn’t like my cooking very much. I was a little taken back because he has always eaten what I’ve made. I’m a little hurt, but more so, unsure of what to do. Do I keep cooking for him or just cooking for myself?

[Anonymous]

oh my...

[Anonymous]

Maybe ask if there are any dishes he would like, and if he can cook some of the time.

[Anonymous]

There must be be an article from the 1950s that you can google that will give you advice.

[Anonymous]

Take turns. You eat what the other makes and appreciate it, that's how it works.

[Anonymous]

Ha! I'd say "let's cook together and discover what we like as a family". It can be very bonding. My husband is great cook but got lazy when our kids became picky. I told him I don't like the things he cooks, he's not offended and understands why. Now occasionally he'll cook something more exciting than pasta and I go overboard with praise. We'll cook together again when our lives are less busy. I also cook half the time. I'm sure he's also bored with my cooking but he doesn't say anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Take turns. You eat what the other makes and appreciate it, that's how it works.

He doesn’t cook and has no interest in learning.

[Anonymous]

All of a sudden… Ugh! I’d inquire as to what changed.
Also, maybe suggest he cook. Or simply cook for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Thank god my wife never says that about my cooking. She always eats what I cook.

[Anonymous]

I did not know how to cook when I got married. I could do the occasional stirfry rice, pasta, stuffed omlettes, stuffed toasted sandwiches, tea etc, but not the hardcore cooking from scratch, the kind of daily hearty meals that my MIL or mom could conjure up effortlessly. My DH knew more cooking than me because he had been a single guy working in other countries for a number of years. He was super self-sufficient.

So, both DH and I started to learn from MIL and mom, and we then we started to cook together. We were quite broke when we immigrated here and so if we ate something we liked from a foreign cuisine at a restaurant here, we replicated it at home using cookbooks and later youtube videos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Take turns. You eat what the other makes and appreciate it, that's how it works.

He doesn’t cook and has no interest in learning.

Then it may be time to divorce. You don’t want to have kids with a man who doesn’t appreciate your cooking.

[Anonymous]

First: You were taken "aback".

Second: This is a tale as old as time, on your part and his. He pretends to like your cooking because he loves you. Finally he can't stand it anymore, so he confesses. You are hurt. He is sorry he hurt you. You learn to cook more to his liking over time. It's a process. No one screwed up here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of a sudden… Ugh! I’d inquire as to what changed.
Also, maybe suggest he cook. Or simply cook for yourself.

We just got married. We lived together while engaged but he was gone most weeks for work. He‘s in a different job and now we eat dinner together every night.

He can’t and doesn’t care to cook. He has no interest in ever trying.

[Anonymous]

I met my husband in college and choked down some borderline inedible meals he made (the time he mixed up teaspoons and tablespoons of salt being the worst). We learned to cook together. Honestly YouTube is a great resource. Foodwishes is a good place to start.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I are newlyweds and just got married. He told me yesterday that he doesn’t like my cooking very much. I was a little taken back because he has always eaten what I’ve made. I’m a little hurt, but more so, unsure of what to do. Do I keep cooking for him or just cooking for myself?

Are you my daughter? Come back home and learn some recipes from dad and I - this is for both of you. Please.