DD is upset about her race

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Send her with "American" style lunches - she can eat your ethnic food for the other two meals at home plus on weekends. Ask the teacher to read the class some books on how everyone's different and the same all at the same time, and ask if you can come in to class one day and bring yummy treats from your home country and tell the class some cool things about it. Maybe some awesome famous people are from there? Or a cool toy was invented from there? Or you could show beautiful pictures from there? Stuff like that.

She shouldn't have to hide her culture. It's the kids making fun of her who should have to change, not her.

[Anonymous]

Can you teach her to make PB & J?

[Anonymous]

Move to a more diverse school. Why did you sign up for an all white school anyway?

[Anonymous]

NP, Asian American who also experienced these kinds of comments as a kid, getting pretty steamed at all of the advice here that suggests that the OP needs to either segregate her daughter more (find a heritage school or more diverse school) or assimilate her more (pack "American" lunches). Yes, teach DD to have cultural pride, but overall, OP and her daughter aren't the ones who need to do better.

[Anonymous]

What about ham and cheese sandwiches, or any lunch meat??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP, Asian American who also experienced these kinds of comments as a kid, getting pretty steamed at all of the advice here that suggests that the OP needs to either segregate her daughter more (find a heritage school or more diverse school) or assimilate her more (pack "American" lunches). Yes, teach DD to have cultural pride, but overall, OP and her daughter aren't the ones who need to do better.

Except she does need to do better. She lives in America sweetheart, where school lunch matters to young kids. She either packs the American sandwich, finds an Asian school, or sucks it up and teaches the child to grow a pair while sending some Doritos for the kid to trade at lunch. The latter would be the “American” choice, but since OP seems to want to virtue signal and be woe is me so realistically she’d do better in another school where her kid isn’t the precious odd one out that everyone must cater to. That’s not an American value.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP, Asian American who also experienced these kinds of comments as a kid, getting pretty steamed at all of the advice here that suggests that the OP needs to either segregate her daughter more (find a heritage school or more diverse school) or assimilate her more (pack "American" lunches). Yes, teach DD to have cultural pride, but overall, OP and her daughter aren't the ones who need to do better.

Except she does need to do better. She lives in America sweetheart, where school lunch matters to young kids. She either packs the American sandwich, finds an Asian school, or sucks it up and teaches the child to grow a pair while sending some Doritos for the kid to trade at lunch. The latter would be the “American” choice, but since OP seems to want to virtue signal and be woe is me so realistically she’d do better in another school where her kid isn’t the precious odd one out that everyone must cater to. That’s not an American value.

It must be so "freeing" to be so openly hateful again.

[Anonymous]

Omg. So she should eat disgusting unhealthy food most days of her life for YEARS so she doesn’t get teased by nasty little girls at school?

No, that is not a solution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you teach her to make PB & J?

This is a terrible suggestion.

[Anonymous]

We are E Asian and send DD to school with usual American style food. She loves burgers and Mac and Cheese and ham and a wide range of other things.

We eat both American/Western food and E Asian food at home. We do not see any need to set our kid up for negative social interactions at school. Kid also wears conventional US kids clothes and sneakers, not some culturally-specific clothing (unless the school happens to have a heritage day).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are E Asian and send DD to school with usual American style food. She loves burgers and Mac and Cheese and ham and a wide range of other things.

We eat both American/Western food and E Asian food at home. We do not see any need to set our kid up for negative social interactions at school. Kid also wears conventional US kids clothes and sneakers, not some culturally-specific clothing (unless the school happens to have a heritage day).

PP above. I forgot to say, when DD was born, we deliberately gave her a conventional English language first name (think something like Mary or Jane) and also a middle name from our own language. Again, we do not see the point in setting up our child for social challenges at school. People will have trouble spelling non-conventional given names, even if they have the best of intentions.