DD is upset about her race

[Anonymous]

There is a children's book about this very situation! A favorite of my (now grown) children.


https://www.amazon.com/Yoko-Rosemary-Wells/dp/0786803959

[Anonymous]

We teach our 3.5 DD not to call food “ yucky” or “gross” for this reason. You don’t have to like the food, but food is not “yucky.” Please teach your kids better.

[Anonymous]

Yeh, totally. You may say “I don’t prefer the food.” I’m wondering how people educate their kids about people from different backgrounds.

Anonymous wrote:We teach our 3.5 DD not to call food “ yucky” or “gross” for this reason. You don’t have to like the food, but food is not “yucky.” Please teach your kids better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a children's book about this very situation! A favorite of my (now grown) children.


https://www.amazon.com/Yoko-Rosemary-Wells/dp/0786803959

Rosemary Wells is a great author.

The food "ick" is kind of normal for little kids. But racial mocking is not in this day and age. Keep an eye on whether that goes away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a children's book about this very situation! A favorite of my (now grown) children.


https://www.amazon.com/Yoko-Rosemary-Wells/dp/0786803959

Yes! I LOVE Yoko. Ask the teacher of you can read it to the class one day and bring some yummy for like seaweed snacks or something from your culture

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Former preschool teacher here. Kids do notice differences, and if parents don’t ever talk about them (we are color blind! We don’t see differences!) then kids come up with their own conclusions. Read the book Nurtureshock, it has a great section on this matter. All parents should talk to their kids about physical differences AND say how great it is that we ARE different, but that inside we are the same( we have the same hearts and lungs and muscles and teeth. That we should celebrate those differences and backgrounds. If I were your daughter’s teacher I wouldn’t have punished anyone, but I would have made a lesson about different backgrounds. Where your family is originally from, show them on a globe, show them traditional food and dress. I’m a first generation American, I would show them information about my home country even though I was born here and speak only English. Kids are curious and if we don’t give them the information and help them with the mindset then they can inadvertently hurt someone’s feelings.

This is great advice. And I got really interested in my family heritage at an early age. It has been something of a lifelong interest and hobby in a way. It will help her love herself and love her background. I also think kids that age say clueless things.

[Anonymous]

Disagree w PPs (maybe from the other double-post) who say this is innocuous because everyone is young. This is the kind of othering that leads to exclusion, that eventually develops into racism.

I grew up w a similar experience, and it only got worse over time, not better. There might be a chance for your DD if your family can keep up socioeconomically with the richest girls in the class. I switched to a diverse, super-elite school and it changed everything for me. Like experiencing sunshine after the longest, dreariest rain.

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Anonymous wrote:Op you are lying. What a f g joke.

No, actually, you are disgusting. I am not Asian, but I am a minority. I grew up a military brat so I attended many different schools. Until my sophomore year of high school, when I moved to a school where I was no longer the minority, I was teased, mocked, and the butt of jokes. My brother, who is 8 years younger than me, had similar experiences when he was in elementary school. You should ask yourself why you don't believe that the OPs child has had this experience. You really should reflect on that.

[Anonymous]

Just teach her to respond. She will be dealing with this her whole life.

"No, my food is not yucky, you're just ignorant. Enjoy your processed meat and plastic cheese."

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Anonymous wrote:My white son was sad in 1st grade that his hair isn’t black because he was at a majority Hispanic school. I had a conversation with him but for 3rd grade we jumped at the chance to transfer to a more diverse school with more kids who looked like him.

Wow so glad you got away from brown people since they make you uncomfortable!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a children's book about this very situation! A favorite of my (now grown) children.


https://www.amazon.com/Yoko-Rosemary-Wells/dp/0786803959

Rosemary Wells is a great author.

The food "ick" is kind of normal for little kids. But racial mocking is not in this day and age. Keep an eye on whether that goes away.

Not liking food is normal. Saying “ick” in response to new and unusual food can be corrected. Letting it slide is how kids get bullied.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Disagree w PPs (maybe from the other double-post) who say this is innocuous because everyone is young. This is the kind of othering that leads to exclusion, that eventually develops into racism.

I grew up w a similar experience, and it only got worse over time, not better. There might be a chance for your DD if your family can keep up socioeconomically with the richest girls in the class. I switched to a diverse, super-elite school and it changed everything for me. Like experiencing sunshine after the longest, dreariest rain.

Can you say more about your experience? What did the diverse school do that the other school did not? Am in a similar situation as OP .

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Anonymous wrote:We’re white but my kids also bring different food to school (healthy meals rather than junky snack food) and kids have asked them lists of questions about it (why are you eating that, why not this, ew I don’t like vegetables, do you really eat that) and it makes my kids feel sad too. Unfortunately not many Asian kids where we live or that would probably be easier for us. Mine are tweens and I hope it gets easier as the kids get older. We’ve noticed that the kids from wealthier families tend to eat a bit healthier and also don’t ask as many rude questions, if that helps.

LOL that people only send junky snack food to daycare. You are troll x 1000!!!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’re white but my kids also bring different food to school (healthy meals rather than junky snack food) and kids have asked them lists of questions about it (why are you eating that, why not this, ew I don’t like vegetables, do you really eat that) and it makes my kids feel sad too. Unfortunately not many Asian kids where we live or that would probably be easier for us. Mine are tweens and I hope it gets easier as the kids get older. We’ve noticed that the kids from wealthier families tend to eat a bit healthier and also don’t ask as many rude questions, if that helps.

LOL that people only send junky snack food to daycare. You are troll x 1000!!!

NP but my friend has definitely said her 2nd grader has gotten bullied for bringing vegan whole-food lunches.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’re white but my kids also bring different food to school (healthy meals rather than junky snack food) and kids have asked them lists of questions about it (why are you eating that, why not this, ew I don’t like vegetables, do you really eat that) and it makes my kids feel sad too. Unfortunately not many Asian kids where we live or that would probably be easier for us. Mine are tweens and I hope it gets easier as the kids get older. We’ve noticed that the kids from wealthier families tend to eat a bit healthier and also don’t ask as many rude questions, if that helps.

LOL that people only send junky snack food to daycare. You are troll x 1000!!!

NP but my friend has definitely said her 2nd grader has gotten bullied for bringing vegan whole-food lunches.

A forced-vegan second grader should be a crime.