Confession - I never had an issue with alcohol before I had kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your life is hard. I get it. You deserve support.

But that's not why you are an alcoholic. It's why you have trouble fighting your alcoholism. It was easy to be a functional alcoholic before you had adult responsibility.

OP it’s not an alcoholic

The OP is absolutely an alcoholic. Did you read the first post? It sounds like she's a functional alcoholic, but an alcoholic nonetheless.

Things can go down quickly from here. While her responsibilities may currently be keeping her drinking under moderate control, that could change as her kids get older.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t you ever worry that something will happen and you won’t be able to drive? I’m a single parent and I never drank because of this.

NP

My son needed stitches. I had about four glasses of wine with my neighbor.

My husband was at work and actually he was at the hospital. I was headed to.

I couldn’t drive so I called an Uber. It’s not that complicated. I ended up canceling the Uber because my neighbor called her husband and he drove me.

My friend was with me and her son fell and broke his shoulder or collarbone or something but anyway she couldn’t drive him and care for him at the same time so I drive him and if I hadn’t been there, she would’ve called an Uber. Not because she was drunk, but because she had to hold his arm.

How nice that you have money for Ubers but not everyone does. I also dint have money for alcohol so that works out for me.

Jesus Christ how often you beat your kids so hard that they need to go to a hospital? Work on that so the Uber bill isn't so daunting.

[Anonymous]

I sympathize op. But my parents became alcoholics so I can never risk that gamble. These will sound lame but I use flavored hot chocolates, chamomile tea, hot showers, and biking or running during the day to clear the adrenaline spikes that come either raising three kids without local family nearby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sure I used to get drunk sometimes in my 20s; but it was when I had my first a decade ago that my stress level got so high that I would start to have a glass of wine - for example - at home alone. I had no family nearby - I had a full time job, ds had issues. And in that decade - nothing has changed. I still am responsible for the lions share of things with my kids and work full time and don’t have a village.
I say this bc as it pertains to the warning today - that for me (parenting) was the tipping point. And it’s not about - hahah ‘mommy wine!’ - it’s - ‘oh holy cow - every hour of my day is kind of stressful now - how do I not burn out so much that I need to quit my job?’

Anyone else relate?

Parenting has always been a breeze for me. It's what humans were evolved to do. Maybe you're not cut out for it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure I used to get drunk sometimes in my 20s; but it was when I had my first a decade ago that my stress level got so high that I would start to have a glass of wine - for example - at home alone. I had no family nearby - I had a full time job, ds had issues. And in that decade - nothing has changed. I still am responsible for the lions share of things with my kids and work full time and don’t have a village.
I say this bc as it pertains to the warning today - that for me (parenting) was the tipping point. And it’s not about - hahah ‘mommy wine!’ - it’s - ‘oh holy cow - every hour of my day is kind of stressful now - how do I not burn out so much that I need to quit my job?’

Anyone else relate?

Parenting has always been a breeze for me. It's what humans were evolved to do. Maybe you're not cut out for it?

Can I send you my kids? Both ASD, one semi-verbal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your life is hard. I get it. You deserve support.

But that's not why you are an alcoholic. It's why you have trouble fighting your alcoholism. It was easy to be a functional alcoholic before you had adult responsibility.

OP it’s not an alcoholic

The OP is absolutely an alcoholic. Did you read the first post? It sounds like she's a functional alcoholic, but an alcoholic nonetheless.

Things can go down quickly from here. While her responsibilities may currently be keeping her drinking under moderate control, that could change as her kids get older.

Op - when I don’t have my kids I actually feel far less urge to drink 😂. That’s the point of the post!
Not to say you are wrong. But when I just have to take care of me and not be patient and mature at all times, the stress goes away in large part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure I used to get drunk sometimes in my 20s; but it was when I had my first a decade ago that my stress level got so high that I would start to have a glass of wine - for example - at home alone. I had no family nearby - I had a full time job, ds had issues. And in that decade - nothing has changed. I still am responsible for the lions share of things with my kids and work full time and don’t have a village.
I say this bc as it pertains to the warning today - that for me (parenting) was the tipping point. And it’s not about - hahah ‘mommy wine!’ - it’s - ‘oh holy cow - every hour of my day is kind of stressful now - how do I not burn out so much that I need to quit my job?’

Anyone else relate?

Parenting has always been a breeze for me. It's what humans were evolved to do. Maybe you're not cut out for it?

To quote Laurie frankel: ‘"If parenting feels too easy, you might be doing it wrong; the real challenges are where the true growth and learning happen for both parent and child."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your life is hard. I get it. You deserve support.

But that's not why you are an alcoholic. It's why you have trouble fighting your alcoholism. It was easy to be a functional alcoholic before you had adult responsibility.

OP it’s not an alcoholic

The OP is absolutely an alcoholic. Did you read the first post? It sounds like she's a functional alcoholic, but an alcoholic nonetheless.

Things can go down quickly from here. While her responsibilities may currently be keeping her drinking under moderate control, that could change as her kids get older.

You absolutely cannot diagnose someone through a message board. You lose all credibility when you do so, not that you likely ever had any. What are your qualifications—do you work in the field of substance abuse? Please state them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your life is hard. I get it. You deserve support.

But that's not why you are an alcoholic. It's why you have trouble fighting your alcoholism. It was easy to be a functional alcoholic before you had adult responsibility.

OP it’s not an alcoholic

The OP is absolutely an alcoholic. Did you read the first post? It sounds like she's a functional alcoholic, but an alcoholic nonetheless.

Things can go down quickly from here. While her responsibilities may currently be keeping her drinking under moderate control, that could change as her kids get older.

Op - when I don’t have my kids I actually feel far less urge to drink 😂. That’s the point of the post!
Not to say you are wrong. But when I just have to take care of me and not be patient and mature at all times, the stress goes away in large part.

I get that, but what you're saying is alcohol is your coping mechanism. Right now that's from your kids. As you age, other things will come up. And you might turn to alcohol to cope with those problems as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your life is hard. I get it. You deserve support.

But that's not why you are an alcoholic. It's why you have trouble fighting your alcoholism. It was easy to be a functional alcoholic before you had adult responsibility.

OP it’s not an alcoholic

The OP is absolutely an alcoholic. Did you read the first post? It sounds like she's a functional alcoholic, but an alcoholic nonetheless.

Things can go down quickly from here. While her responsibilities may currently be keeping her drinking under moderate control, that could change as her kids get older.

You absolutely cannot diagnose someone through a message board. You lose all credibility when you do so, not that you likely ever had any. What are your qualifications—do you work in the field of substance abuse? Please state them.

Did you even read the OP? It's textbook alcoholism. Textbook.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get it. Doesn’t alcohol make your life MORE stressful? I don’t quite buy your story.

It is known that consumption of alcohol increases anxiety contrary to popular opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get it. Doesn’t alcohol make your life MORE stressful? I don’t quite buy your story.

How would alcohol make her life more stressful? That makes no sense.

1. It costs money.
2. It is bad for your health.
3. It takes away time from other things you can be doing to make your life less stressful, such as catching up on sleep or getting ahead on a work project. My drug of choice is TV but I do recognize it makes my life more stressful in this way.
4. For many people, it has a depressing effect.

It also makes you checked out from your kids. Having the drink is the priority vs. caring for your kids. My Dad was an alcoholic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your life is hard. I get it. You deserve support.

But that's not why you are an alcoholic. It's why you have trouble fighting your alcoholism. It was easy to be a functional alcoholic before you had adult responsibility.

OP it’s not an alcoholic

The OP is absolutely an alcoholic. Did you read the first post? It sounds like she's a functional alcoholic, but an alcoholic nonetheless.

Things can go down quickly from here. While her responsibilities may currently be keeping her drinking under moderate control, that could change as her kids get older.

You absolutely cannot diagnose someone through a message board. You lose all credibility when you do so, not that you likely ever had any. What are your qualifications—do you work in the field of substance abuse? Please state them.

jfc lady. OP confessed her alcohol problem in the subject line of her post, then wrote a muddled post mixing both excuses and desperation.

No one here is "diagnosing" anything. People are making informal observations and recommendations that could save OP's life.
Take your inane pedantry elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get it. Doesn’t alcohol make your life MORE stressful? I don’t quite buy your story.

It is known that consumption of alcohol increases anxiety contrary to popular opinion.

Binging alcohol increase anxiety. Not OP's alleged "one drink" per day.


https://www.henryford.com/blog/2019/03/hangxiety-link-between-anxiety-alcohol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your life is hard. I get it. You deserve support.

But that's not why you are an alcoholic. It's why you have trouble fighting your alcoholism. It was easy to be a functional alcoholic before you had adult responsibility.

OP it’s not an alcoholic

The OP is absolutely an alcoholic. Did you read the first post? It sounds like she's a functional alcoholic, but an alcoholic nonetheless.

Things can go down quickly from here. While her responsibilities may currently be keeping her drinking under moderate control, that could change as her kids get older.

You absolutely cannot diagnose someone through a message board. You lose all credibility when you do so, not that you likely ever had any. What are your qualifications—do you work in the field of substance abuse? Please state them.

jfc lady. OP confessed her alcohol problem in the subject line of her post, then wrote a muddled post mixing both excuses and desperation.

No one here is "diagnosing" anything. People are making informal observations and recommendations that could save OP's life.
Take your inane pedantry elsewhere.

How is “the OP is absolutely an alcoholic” going to save her life? You’re just enjoying feeling superior. But you’re not.