My husband doesn't want kids

[Anonymous]

Divorce. You deserve to have kids and be happy with a partner who has the same life goals that you do. He deserves happiness too, not being with a partner that resents him or forced him into having children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Interesting that no one has focused on OPS language: “I couldn’t have been clearer and he agreed.” Note that she doesn’t say “and he said he wanted them too.“

Not so sure he “changed his mind.”

Who gives a shit? She’s 31 and can still have kids elsewhere!!! Run OP!!

I am not saying she should or shouldn’t. What I am saying is that it’s not necessarily fair to blame the guy. It sounds like OP went into the marriage with a lot of wishful thinking.

Who cares about blame. She is on the tail end of fertility and he is playing games and wasting her time.

[Anonymous]

First, I’d ask him why had he lied to me over and over? Then I’d divorce him.

[Anonymous]

Divorce. Under a year and no kids will be cheap & easy.

The fact that he lied to trap you is a huge red flag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is no way he changed his mind in 8 months which means he was lying to you all along and trapped you into marriage.

Divorce. This is a big thing to lie about on his part. It’s only been 8 months, it and run. Do not have kids with this guy thinking he’ll change his mind when he sees how cute they are or sees himself in them.

+1 million

You have a clean break. End it and find someone new. This isn’t the man for you and you’re SO young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Break up. At your age and with no kids yet - you have time to meet someone new and start afresh. This would be a deal breaker to me no question. If you really want to be a parent, it's a desire and fulfillment that trumps all else.

+1

Leave.

[Anonymous]

Move out this weekend. Get a divorce. Only 6 months without kids.

I had the opposite problem. We agreed no kids and then he "changed his mind" and pushed a pregnancy I did not want. I don't believe in abortion. I was 34. I am now late 40s and divorced. It ruined my life. We did not have the same life goals. Get out now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:31? You're out of time. You're not likely to find someone else in the next 4 years.

This is complete nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Divorce, good luck and I'm sorry

[Anonymous]

Divorce. Don’t forget that not only is he your partner but he is the parent. Which means you’re subjecting your future kids to a life with a shitty, uncaring parent. You have time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Divorce. You deserve to have kids and be happy with a partner who has the same life goals that you do. He deserves happiness too, not being with a partner that resents him or forced him into having children.

Agreed. It's best for both parties to separate.

[Anonymous]

Those of us saying 'divorce' have either been there or watched our friends be there. Parenting w/ someone who isn't ALL IN is going to be a nightmare.

[Anonymous]

This is the beginning of the end of your marriage. He won’t change.

[Anonymous]

Divorce him and move on.

[Anonymous]

Leave asap. File divorce papers. If you can afford freeze eggs while you are looking for another partner.