Why can’t people who’ve reached a ripe old age be more grateful?

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I know a lot of 20 30 y.o who could learn to practice a little gratitude!


In theory, a 25-year-old could drop dead right now, in which case they won’t have lived anywhere near a full life.
Anonymous
I noticed it more when my mom was diagnosed with a horrible terminal illness in her mid 70s. She bore it with her typical stoicism. Some of my other relatives, meanwhile, were whining about minor health issues even though they were in their 80s with pretty decent health and quality of life. The contrast was stark.

Both my parents died from cancer and I'm mindful that I could face it someday too. I would be grateful if I could live to 80 without significant health issues.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I’m talking about over 75 and women over 80. Most of their same-gender peers are dead and yet a lot of these lucky people do nothing but complain, and also seem to expect favors from much younger who probably aren’t going to live to be their age.


OP, it sounds like you have a serious empathy deficit. You really can't figure out why some people this age might be depressed and/or living with chronic pain?
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:I’m talking about over 75 and women over 80. Most of their same-gender peers are dead and yet a lot of these lucky people do nothing but complain, and also seem to expect favors from much younger who probably aren’t going to live to be their age.


OP, it sounds like you have a serious empathy deficit. You really can't figure out why some people this age might be depressed and/or living with chronic pain?


If you live past your time, health issues are to be expected. I actually do feel empathy whenever I see someone under 30 who’s blind, in a wheelchair, etc.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:I’m talking about over 75 and women over 80. Most of their same-gender peers are dead and yet a lot of these lucky people do nothing but complain, and also seem to expect favors from much younger who probably aren’t going to live to be their age.


OP, it sounds like you have a serious empathy deficit. You really can't figure out why some people this age might be depressed and/or living with chronic pain?


If you live past your time, health issues are to be expected. I actually do feel empathy whenever I see someone under 30 who’s blind, in a wheelchair, etc.


Live past your time? What kind of awful view is this?

How about living a long wonderful life and feeling a little sad and depressed at the realization that you’re no longer able to do some of the things that you used to? Or sad because you’ve lost some independence? Or even just frustrated that you’re closer to the end of your life than you’d like to be.

Have some empathy. My gosh.
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Anonymous wrote:I’m talking about over 75 and women over 80. Most of their same-gender peers are dead and yet a lot of these lucky people do nothing but complain, and also seem to expect favors from much younger who probably aren’t going to live to be their age.


OP, it sounds like you have a serious empathy deficit. You really can't figure out why some people this age might be depressed and/or living with chronic pain?


If you live past your time, health issues are to be expected. I actually do feel empathy whenever I see someone under 30 who’s blind, in a wheelchair, etc.


Live past your time? What kind of awful view is this?

How about living a long wonderful life and feeling a little sad and depressed at the realization that you’re no longer able to do some of the things that you used to? Or sad because you’ve lost some independence? Or even just frustrated that you’re closer to the end of your life than you’d like to be.

Have some empathy. My gosh.


What I do have is a sense of fairness, which is why I’m going to make sure I’m dead by the age of 75.
Anonymous
I want to write a dystopian novel where there is an optional “early check out” program and your family gets $175K if you choose the death option at 70 to save resources
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:A lot of it is dementia. They start to regress to a child-like state.


This. With cognitive decline, people lose their filters and emotional regulation. What might have been a slight tendency towards negativity becomes constant complaining and griping.
Anonymous
The dementia is setting in. It's quite likely they don't know how they are perceived
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:They are sick, in pain, all their friends are dead, and their younger family members are unfeeling.


This! DCUM posters are shockingly nasty when it comes to their aging parents. 😱

It floors me every time.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:A lot of it is dementia. They start to regress to a child-like state.


This. With cognitive decline, people lose their filters and emotional regulation. What might have been a slight tendency towards negativity becomes constant complaining and griping.


Guess what. It’s going to happen to you too.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:They are sick, in pain, all their friends are dead, and their younger family members are unfeeling.


This! DCUM posters are shockingly nasty when it comes to their aging parents. 😱

It floors me every time.


Said posters are probably planning on being dead before they’re the age their parents are now.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I’m talking about over 75 and women over 80. Most of their same-gender peers are dead and yet a lot of these lucky people do nothing but complain, and also seem to expect favors from much younger who probably aren’t going to live to be their age.


When you get old you do not sleep and everything hurts. Even the “healthy” people that age talk about their medical problems all the time. It is not fun being that old. Do not kid yourself with oh aunt jame is 75, sharp as a tack and in great health.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:I’m talking about over 75 and women over 80. Most of their same-gender peers are dead and yet a lot of these lucky people do nothing but complain, and also seem to expect favors from much younger who probably aren’t going to live to be their age.


When you get old you do not sleep and everything hurts. Even the “healthy” people that age talk about their medical problems all the time. It is not fun being that old. Do not kid yourself with oh aunt jame is 75, sharp as a tack and in great health.


I agree, which is why I plan on dying before I’m 75. What I can’t understand is people who choose to stay alive at their old age and simultaneously complain about being that age.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m talking about over 75 and women over 80. Most of their same-gender peers are dead and yet a lot of these lucky people do nothing but complain, and also seem to expect favors from much younger who probably aren’t going to live to be their age.


When you get old you do not sleep and everything hurts. Even the “healthy” people that age talk about their medical problems all the time. It is not fun being that old. Do not kid yourself with oh aunt jame is 75, sharp as a tack and in great health.


I agree, which is why I plan on dying before I’m 75. What I can’t understand is people who choose to stay alive at their old age and simultaneously complain about being that age.

Being alive is a gift and most people feel that way, even when they’re physically suffering. No doubt it’s very hard. But their choices are none of your business. Also, you’ve exhibited the same behavior that distresses you throughout this thread. So, maybe take a look in the mirror, take a walk, get some fresh air and perspective. It’s not all about you.
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