Why can’t people who’ve reached a ripe old age be more grateful?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They hurt all over, all of the time.

I think this is it. My mom is like this. She hurts, her eyesight is going (macular degeneration), her hearing isn't great, she falls down a lot, and wears a diaper. She's not grateful because she's miserable.

[Anonymous]

Just wait until you're there, OP. Comeuppance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until you're there, OP. Comeuppance.

I'm planning on being dead by the time I'm 75.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m talking about over 75 and women over 80. Most of their same-gender peers are dead and yet a lot of these lucky people do nothing but complain, and also seem to expect favors from much younger who probably aren’t going to live to be their age.

Why are you specfically talking about older women? You do realize all the crap they had to deal with?

I mean to say "I'm talking about men over 75."

[Anonymous]

Another reason is something that annoys most people: gross generalizations. Many elders have mixed feelings about how life is going. So do people of all ages. I haven’t known many who are across the board “ungrateful.” And age alone is not necessarily something for which to be thankful.

[Anonymous]

I live with many of the issues that older people have - no one ever gave me a pass in life for it, including those people who are now old and complain about being a little sicker than before. It’s not a good look on those people and I have to really muster a lot of energy to feel empathy for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I live with many of the issues that older people have - no one ever gave me a pass in life for it, including those people who are now old and complain about being a little sicker than before. It’s not a good look on those people and I have to really muster a lot of energy to feel empathy for them.

I suspect you have to muster a lot of energy to have empathy for anyone. "No one ever gave me a pass in life," guess what? No one got that. We all have hard things and many of us have unspeakable trauma, terrible health problems. You're not special in that way.

[Anonymous]

Please let me know the most grateful response that will make you feel better about yourself, after all that is the point right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until you're there, OP. Comeuppance.

I'm planning on being dead by the time I'm 75.

Too bad you won’t be able to report back when you hit 76 and are still hanging around.

[Anonymous]

They are sick, in pain, all their friends are dead, and their younger family members are unfeeling.

This.

[Anonymous]

Wtf?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m talking about over 75 and women over 80. Most of their same-gender peers are dead and yet a lot of these lucky people do nothing but complain, and also seem to expect favors from much younger who probably aren’t going to live to be their age.

What are they specifically complaining about ? Do they posts on sites like this to complain about other generations?

[Anonymous]

I think most people over the age of 70 should be on an anti-depressant. They should at least try it for a year and then evaluate if they are still miserable.

In my family the old people are very cheery. Mostly.

[Anonymous]

I know a lot of 20 30 y.o who could learn to practice a little gratitude!

[Anonymous]

My parents are in their 70's and they are very grateful to be healthy and alive. I know a lot of their friends and they are the same way. There are plenty of people my age who aren't grateful and are always whining.