Why can’t people who’ve reached a ripe old age be more grateful?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until you're there, OP. Comeuppance.

With any luck.

I'll make sure I have no such "luck". Like I've already said, I'm going to make sure I'm dead by the age of 75.

You'll be a PITA to those around you long before that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until you're there, OP. Comeuppance.

With any luck.

I'll make sure I have no such "luck". Like I've already said, I'm going to make sure I'm dead by the age of 75.

What if you're feeling good at age 75?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until you're there, OP. Comeuppance.

With any luck.

I'll make sure I have no such "luck". Like I've already said, I'm going to make sure I'm dead by the age of 75.

Why 75?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're in pain and pain is not treated in older people. Your friends are pinging off, one by one. You go shopping and will be ignored, so you become invisible.

I was in a grocery store where the woman behind me complained that there were too many old people in the store. So going out in public offends younger people.

At my doctor's office another woman complained that "92% of the patients were old" so was upset that he had too many old patients. Why, because he's patient and kind and treats them with respect unlike so many doctors.

Put up with that every single day of your life and see how today's snowflakes will handle not being attractive, having no friends, being invisible and being in pain. I'm sure they will "be grateful."

Can we please stop with the “pinging off?” This isn’t actually a phrase. Just say dying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until you're there, OP. Comeuppance.

With any luck.

I'll make sure I have no such "luck". Like I've already said, I'm going to make sure I'm dead by the age of 75.

Why 75?

Because most men are dead by then. If I continued to live beyond that, I would be saying that I’m special and important.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until you're there, OP. Comeuppance.

With any luck.

I'll make sure I have no such "luck". Like I've already said, I'm going to make sure I'm dead by the age of 75.

Why 75?

Because most men are dead by then. If I continued to live beyond that, I would be saying that I’m special and important.

Well played.

This whole thread is weird. The initial premise is that people over a certain age don’t deserve dignity or respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until you're there, OP. Comeuppance.

With any luck.

I'll make sure I have no such "luck". Like I've already said, I'm going to make sure I'm dead by the age of 75.

What if you're feeling good at age 75?

Even if I’m feeling physically good, I still won’t want to live with the guilt of being alive again while most men my age are dead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until you're there, OP. Comeuppance.

With any luck.

I'll make sure I have no such "luck". Like I've already said, I'm going to make sure I'm dead by the age of 75.

Why 75?

Because most men are dead by then. If I continued to live beyond that, I would be saying that I’m special and important.

Well played.

This whole thread is weird. The initial premise is that people over a certain age don’t deserve dignity or respect.

Being ungrateful when you’ve had the good luck of living longer than most people doesn’t warrant dignity or respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until you're there, OP. Comeuppance.

With any luck.

I'll make sure I have no such "luck". Like I've already said, I'm going to make sure I'm dead by the age of 75.

What if you're feeling good at age 75?

Even if I’m feeling physically good, I still won’t want to live with the guilt of being alive again while most men my age are dead.

* “alive while”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're in pain and pain is not treated in older people. Your friends are pinging off, one by one. You go shopping and will be ignored, so you become invisible.

I was in a grocery store where the woman behind me complained that there were too many old people in the store. So going out in public offends younger people.

At my doctor's office another woman complained that "92% of the patients were old" so was upset that he had too many old patients. Why, because he's patient and kind and treats them with respect unlike so many doctors.

Put up with that every single day of your life and see how today's snowflakes will handle not being attractive, having no friends, being invisible and being in pain. I'm sure they will "be grateful."

Can we please stop with the “pinging off?” This isn’t actually a phrase. Just say dying.

It doesn’t matter what you call it. If these old people are so sad about the loss of their friends, they can end that sadness. If they choose not to, they shouldn’t complain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're in pain and pain is not treated in older people. Your friends are pinging off, one by one. You go shopping and will be ignored, so you become invisible.

I was in a grocery store where the woman behind me complained that there were too many old people in the store. So going out in public offends younger people.

At my doctor's office another woman complained that "92% of the patients were old" so was upset that he had too many old patients. Why, because he's patient and kind and treats them with respect unlike so many doctors.

Put up with that every single day of your life and see how today's snowflakes will handle not being attractive, having no friends, being invisible and being in pain. I'm sure they will "be grateful."

Can we please stop with the “pinging off?” This isn’t actually a phrase. Just say dying.

It doesn’t matter what you call it. If these old people are so sad about the loss of their friends, they can end that sadness. If they choose not to, they shouldn’t complain.

Why old people specifically? At what age does complaining or having some dissatisfaction about something require suicide? I’m assuming you don’t apply that to yourself. Why are you complaining about old people? Why can’t you have more gratitude?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're in pain and pain is not treated in older people. Your friends are pinging off, one by one. You go shopping and will be ignored, so you become invisible.

I was in a grocery store where the woman behind me complained that there were too many old people in the store. So going out in public offends younger people.

At my doctor's office another woman complained that "92% of the patients were old" so was upset that he had too many old patients. Why, because he's patient and kind and treats them with respect unlike so many doctors.

Put up with that every single day of your life and see how today's snowflakes will handle not being attractive, having no friends, being invisible and being in pain. I'm sure they will "be grateful."

Can we please stop with the “pinging off?” This isn’t actually a phrase. Just say dying.

It doesn’t matter what you call it. If these old people are so sad about the loss of their friends, they can end that sadness. If they choose not to, they shouldn’t complain.

Why old people specifically? At what age does complaining or having some dissatisfaction about something require suicide? I’m assuming you don’t apply that to yourself. Why are you complaining about old people? Why can’t you have more gratitude?

Not the person you are responding to and I can only speak from my own experience. My elderly mother has a massive sense of entitlement and feels she deserved the golden child status she had growing up and enormous privilege she enjoyed throughout her marriage. Her marriage to dad included extensive international travel, fancy restaurants, never having to contribute toward bills, many indulgences and special treatment as the wife which she used to her advantage. She complained incessantly when she needed to care for dad even with day programs, 24-7 care otherwise and finally with memory care. Multiple times she insisted I should take over what little she had to do. (Keep in mind she was 15 years younger than dad and in great health so it wasn't that she was too old.) She wanted endless sympathy for what she had lost and refused therapy or support groups. She still had more freedom that most women because there were caregivers, housekeepers, etc and she didn't have to work. Once he passed the complaining went up 10 fold and she would not stick with therapy or medication. Now there may be people like that who aren't elderly, but I don't hang out with them and I don't know their whole life story. I only have so much patience for hearing how she will never stay at world class hotels again, or visit Monte Carlo again, cry me a river!! I've been through cancer (granted I was fortunate and only needed surgery), one of my kids has special needs, my husband has health issues, and so much more and I rarely complain to those around me because I can always find the blessings in my life. She knows all of that and still thinks I should spend my time catering to her and giving her a pity party. She would be thrilled if I divorced my husband (a wonderful man), abandoned my kids (her grandkids!) and dedicated my life to trying to make her happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're in pain and pain is not treated in older people. Your friends are pinging off, one by one. You go shopping and will be ignored, so you become invisible.

I was in a grocery store where the woman behind me complained that there were too many old people in the store. So going out in public offends younger people.

At my doctor's office another woman complained that "92% of the patients were old" so was upset that he had too many old patients. Why, because he's patient and kind and treats them with respect unlike so many doctors.

Put up with that every single day of your life and see how today's snowflakes will handle not being attractive, having no friends, being invisible and being in pain. I'm sure they will "be grateful."

Can we please stop with the “pinging off?” This isn’t actually a phrase. Just say dying.

It doesn’t matter what you call it. If these old people are so sad about the loss of their friends, they can end that sadness. If they choose not to, they shouldn’t complain.

Why old people specifically? At what age does complaining or having some dissatisfaction about something require suicide? I’m assuming you don’t apply that to yourself. Why are you complaining about old people? Why can’t you have more gratitude?

Not the person you are responding to and I can only speak from my own experience. My elderly mother has a massive sense of entitlement and feels she deserved the golden child status she had growing up and enormous privilege she enjoyed throughout her marriage. Her marriage to dad included extensive international travel, fancy restaurants, never having to contribute toward bills, many indulgences and special treatment as the wife which she used to her advantage. She complained incessantly when she needed to care for dad even with day programs, 24-7 care otherwise and finally with memory care. Multiple times she insisted I should take over what little she had to do. (Keep in mind she was 15 years younger than dad and in great health so it wasn't that she was too old.) She wanted endless sympathy for what she had lost and refused therapy or support groups. She still had more freedom that most women because there were caregivers, housekeepers, etc and she didn't have to work. Once he passed the complaining went up 10 fold and she would not stick with therapy or medication. Now there may be people like that who aren't elderly, but I don't hang out with them and I don't know their whole life story. I only have so much patience for hearing how she will never stay at world class hotels again, or visit Monte Carlo again, cry me a river!! I've been through cancer (granted I was fortunate and only needed surgery), one of my kids has special needs, my husband has health issues, and so much more and I rarely complain to those around me because I can always find the blessings in my life. She knows all of that and still thinks I should spend my time catering to her and giving her a pity party. She would be thrilled if I divorced my husband (a wonderful man), abandoned my kids (her grandkids!) and dedicated my life to trying to make her happy.

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It doesn’t matter what you call it. If these old people are so sad about the loss of their friends, they can end that sadness. If they choose not to, they shouldn’t complain

So I was responding to a poster saying that old people who are sad about losing their friends should off themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're in pain and pain is not treated in older people. Your friends are pinging off, one by one. You go shopping and will be ignored, so you become invisible.

I was in a grocery store where the woman behind me complained that there were too many old people in the store. So going out in public offends younger people.

At my doctor's office another woman complained that "92% of the patients were old" so was upset that he had too many old patients. Why, because he's patient and kind and treats them with respect unlike so many doctors.

Put up with that every single day of your life and see how today's snowflakes will handle not being attractive, having no friends, being invisible and being in pain. I'm sure they will "be grateful."

Can we please stop with the “pinging off?” This isn’t actually a phrase. Just say dying.

It doesn’t matter what you call it. If these old people are so sad about the loss of their friends, they can end that sadness. If they choose not to, they shouldn’t complain.

Why old people specifically? At what age does complaining or having some dissatisfaction about something require suicide? I’m assuming you don’t apply that to yourself. Why are you complaining about old people? Why can’t you have more gratitude?

Not the person you are responding to and I can only speak from my own experience. My elderly mother has a massive sense of entitlement and feels she deserved the golden child status she had growing up and enormous privilege she enjoyed throughout her marriage. Her marriage to dad included extensive international travel, fancy restaurants, never having to contribute toward bills, many indulgences and special treatment as the wife which she used to her advantage. She complained incessantly when she needed to care for dad even with day programs, 24-7 care otherwise and finally with memory care. Multiple times she insisted I should take over what little she had to do. (Keep in mind she was 15 years younger than dad and in great health so it wasn't that she was too old.) She wanted endless sympathy for what she had lost and refused therapy or support groups. She still had more freedom that most women because there were caregivers, housekeepers, etc and she didn't have to work. Once he passed the complaining went up 10 fold and she would not stick with therapy or medication. Now there may be people like that who aren't elderly, but I don't hang out with them and I don't know their whole life story. I only have so much patience for hearing how she will never stay at world class hotels again, or visit Monte Carlo again, cry me a river!! I've been through cancer (granted I was fortunate and only needed surgery), one of my kids has special needs, my husband has health issues, and so much more and I rarely complain to those around me because I can always find the blessings in my life. She knows all of that and still thinks I should spend my time catering to her and giving her a pity party. She would be thrilled if I divorced my husband (a wonderful man), abandoned my kids (her grandkids!) and dedicated my life to trying to make her happy.

Why not just cut her off?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m talking about over 75 and women over 80. Most of their same-gender peers are dead and yet a lot of these lucky people do nothing but complain, and also seem to expect favors from much younger who probably aren’t going to live to be their age.

I think my mom is very grateful. Yet she complains a lot. She's just uncomfortable being old. Complaining is her way of connecting. I am committed to not complaining, but who knows. We change when we are old and in pain.