When can you call yourself a single mother?

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Anonymous wrote:When the father has minimal custody (like over the summer or a few times per year or less) and doesn't really help financially. Otherwise you are a coparent. Hell, "single parenting" 50% of the time sounds like a freakin' vacation compared to my life. I fantasize about it often.

You have a full other human in your house and you think she has it easier?

Let me guess “mental load”?

Too controlling?
Go to the gym girl and work that out the kids will be fine alone with dad.

Queue the bemoaning … but they won’t get veggies with dinner trooe.

Yeah actually having 3-4 days completely off from parenting would be much easier than being the primary parent all the time.

Oh, you sweet summer child. "days off" when trying to co-parent with a narcissistic ex?

No parent trying to parent with an ex has days off. If your ex could functionally co-parent, he wouldn't be your ex! The amount of logistics and "mental load" increases when families split. This isn't a perk, and healthy people wouldn't be jealous of this scenario.

Get your burnout and butthurt to a therapist and leave your poor friend out of it!

Also? DROP THE ROCK!!!

Actually I am a widow…have my kids all the time. Not really burned out or butthurt and I dunno why you’d assume those very negative things about me.

You're the one complaining, hunty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Slightly different take on answering the question, but it’s ridiculous when married parents use the term “single parenting” for when one of the spouses are out of town for work or a girls or guys trip. It’s almost disrespectful to real single parents.

They usually say I'm solo parenting this weekend or week or whatever.

[Anonymous]

Widow here - I sometimes refer to myself as an only parent. Not a badge of honor at all, but I realize some have it harder (financially, SN, etc,) But yes it is a challenge I didn't sign up for and "time off" is hard to come by.

[Anonymous]

OP that's a divorced mom, not a single mom.

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Anonymous wrote:When the father has minimal custody (like over the summer or a few times per year or less) and doesn't really help financially. Otherwise you are a coparent. Hell, "single parenting" 50% of the time sounds like a freakin' vacation compared to my life. I fantasize about it often.

You have a full other human in your house and you think she has it easier?

Let me guess “mental load”?

Too controlling?
Go to the gym girl and work that out the kids will be fine alone with dad.

Queue the bemoaning … but they won’t get veggies with dinner trooe.

Yeah actually having 3-4 days completely off from parenting would be much easier than being the primary parent all the time.

Oh, you sweet summer child. "days off" when trying to co-parent with a narcissistic ex?

No parent trying to parent with an ex has days off. If your ex could functionally co-parent, he wouldn't be your ex! The amount of logistics and "mental load" increases when families split. This isn't a perk, and healthy people wouldn't be jealous of this scenario.

Get your burnout and butthurt to a therapist and leave your poor friend out of it!

Also? DROP THE ROCK!!!

Actually I am a widow…have my kids all the time. Not really burned out or butthurt and I dunno why you’d assume those very negative things about me.

You're the one complaining, hunty.

I think you may be confusing my posts with someone else’s? I haven’t complained about anything.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When the father has minimal custody (like over the summer or a few times per year or less) and doesn't really help financially. Otherwise you are a coparent. Hell, "single parenting" 50% of the time sounds like a freakin' vacation compared to my life. I fantasize about it often.

You have a full other human in your house and you think she has it easier?

+1

Single mom who’s the breadwinner.

Let me guess “mental load”?

Too controlling?
Go to the gym girl and work that out the kids will be fine alone with dad.

Queue the bemoaning … but they won’t get veggies with dinner trooe.

Yeah actually having 3-4 days completely off from parenting would be much easier than being the primary parent all the time.

Some people like their kids.

Nobody said they didn't like their kids. It would simply be EASIER. I love my kids. a LOT! But if you think lugging a diaper bag and two children under 5 to the grocery store is easier than going by myself you are wrong.

I think it would be harder to be separated from my kids. But I guess some errands would be easier, yay?

Mom with 80/20 custody here. Being away from your kids regularly, especially for holidays, birthdays, etc. is by far worse than having to drag both kids to the grocery store FFS. PP sounds like an ungrateful a$$hole.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When the father has minimal custody (like over the summer or a few times per year or less) and doesn't really help financially. Otherwise you are a coparent. Hell, "single parenting" 50% of the time sounds like a freakin' vacation compared to my life. I fantasize about it often.

You have a full other human in your house and you think she has it easier?

Let me guess “mental load”?

Too controlling?
Go to the gym girl and work that out the kids will be fine alone with dad.

Queue the bemoaning … but they won’t get veggies with dinner trooe.

Yeah actually having 3-4 days completely off from parenting would be much easier than being the primary parent all the time.

Some people like their kids.

Nobody said they didn't like their kids. It would simply be EASIER. I love my kids. a LOT! But if you think lugging a diaper bag and two children under 5 to the grocery store is easier than going by myself you are wrong.

I think it would be harder to be separated from my kids. But I guess some errands would be easier, yay?

Mom with 80/20 custody here. Being away from your kids regularly, especially for holidays, birthdays, etc. is by far worse than having to drag both kids to the grocery store FFS. PP sounds like an ungrateful a$$hole.

+1

Single mom who’s the breadwinner

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Widow here - I sometimes refer to myself as an only parent. Not a badge of honor at all, but I realize some have it harder (financially, SN, etc,) But yes it is a challenge I didn't sign up for and "time off" is hard to come by.

You can call yourself whatever you want. What you are doing is not easy and everyone knows it!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Widow here - I sometimes refer to myself as an only parent. Not a badge of honor at all, but I realize some have it harder (financially, SN, etc,) But yes it is a challenge I didn't sign up for and "time off" is hard to come by.

You can call yourself whatever you want. What you are doing is not easy and everyone knows it!

I refer to myself as a solo parent because if I say single parent they assume my spouse has left or we are divorced.

[Anonymous]

She IS a single mom. She is not married. She is paying her own bills. What is wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP that's a divorced mom, not a single mom.

It is the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you have shared custody then you are a single parent 50% of the time and childless 50% of the time. Really you are coparenting, not a single parent.

A single parent to me is someone who has no other parent who contributes to the responsiblities of having a child - as in you are the single (only) person or parent responsible for this child. If mom or dad is out of the picture and not involved in any way - then you are a single parent.

A single parent doesn't mean there is no other parent in the house. You don't become a single parent when your spouse travels for work. You don't become a single parent when your spouse (or ex spouse)s is just in a different location but still actively involved as a parent.

LOLOLOL

[Anonymous]

you married ladies need to get divorced since the divorced mothers have it so great. Why aren't you?

[Anonymous]

Uh oh watch out! It's the jealous married mom "are you single enough" police!

Is she married? No. That means she's single.

Are there different lifestyles for single people? Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Uh oh watch out! It's the jealous married mom "are you single enough" police!

Is she married? No. That means she's single.

Are there different lifestyles for single people? Yes.

BUT SHE'S NOT SUFFERING ENOUGH!!!!