Dating is hard post divorce...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to date women in the same phase of life. I’m a 48 yo divorced woman with one tween and I’d love a low-key relationship where we saw each other once a week. Later on if appropriate I’d be happy to go to sports games and do other kid stuff.

Yeah, but OP isn't going to be remotely attracted to you. Real talk.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does she have her own kids?

If she doesn’t have kids, it’s not going to work with her. It’s very normal for 35 year old women to want someone they can spend a lot of time with and settle down with. She’ll also probably want her own kids.

A better option for you is a woman your age (mid 40s) who is an empty nester and has her own life.

It is pretty rare in this area for mid-40s people to be empty nester. Sure, it can happen but most mid-40s people I know (including me) still have kids and some still in elementary school. I am 47--my youngest kid is in fourth grade. Her dad is 51. This is pretty normal where I live. I don't know a single 40s empty nester. Not one.

I was an empty nester at 47. I had three kids and was 29 when my youngest was born. So we are out there but probably in the minority.

Dude, just date your own age. Enough with the 10 year younger 30 somethings. They are in a different stage in life. Divorced, never married, empty nester, doesn’t matter but just be honest and age appropriate. Mid 40s and up are still as attractive as 30 something and you’ll just have more in common.

The average maternal age in dmv was 27 yo , so there are plenty of empty nester 40s women and they are a statistical majority. It’s just this forum is probably a selection of higher income grad degree women who delay having kids till mid-late 30s.

Yeah and for Hispanics is age 22 and 3.86 kids per childbearing aged woman. Read the MoCo county report, has demographics.

[Anonymous]

I believe it PP.

[Anonymous]

I meant for the step mom in the porch saying that. I believe it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I meant for the step mom in the porch saying that. I believe it

She hates those kids. And acts sickly sweet in front of the guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to date women in the same phase of life. I’m a 48 yo divorced woman with one tween and I’d love a low-key relationship where we saw each other once a week. Later on if appropriate I’d be happy to go to sports games and do other kid stuff.

Yeah, but OP isn't going to be remotely attracted to you. Real talk.

Ok then he can continue dating mismatches.

[Anonymous]

I'm 44 and just a couple of months into my husband leaving suddenly. I do NOT want a serious boyfriend. But when the time is right, I'd like someone to have sex with and go to dinner with like once or twice a week. I don't want to be responsible for his life and expected to attend all his kids' events or whatnot, or vice versa. I don't want to get married again (I'd lose my alimony).

I don't know if this is realistic or not, but it's what I'm hoping for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to date women in the same phase of life. I’m a 48 yo divorced woman with one tween and I’d love a low-key relationship where we saw each other once a week. Later on if appropriate I’d be happy to go to sports games and do other kid stuff.

Yeah, but OP isn't going to be remotely attracted to you. Real talk.

I'm seven years younger than my almost 50 year old girlfriend and I'm very attracted to her. Is she flawless? Of course not, but neither am I. She takes good care of herself, is comfortable with her body, and is AMAZING in bed.

Am I also attracted to some of the 20 and 30 somethings I work with? Sure. But in the off chance any of them or their peers would want to date me, it would likely not be sustainable. Some people want to date around and enjoy young bodies. I don't want to date around. Not only do I find familiarity and love very rewarding, dating is a lot of time and energy. I don't have a lot of either. I work a lot and I'm devoted to my kids. Sometimes there's a stretch when all she and I can manage is 30 minutes to go for a walk together. That can be really nice for us, but that would not impress a 35 year old with no children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 44 and just a couple of months into my husband leaving suddenly. I do NOT want a serious boyfriend. But when the time is right, I'd like someone to have sex with and go to dinner with like once or twice a week. I don't want to be responsible for his life and expected to attend all his kids' events or whatnot, or vice versa. I don't want to get married again (I'd lose my alimony).

I don't know if this is realistic or not, but it's what I'm hoping for.

It might take work to find it. Depending on how picky you are you might go on dozens of dates. But you can find it.

There are plenty of guys looking for the same.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Bring a divorced dad in your 40s you don't have that many options sadly. Its easier for women because younger men are more likely to not want anything serious.

This

I don't know I look young I'm 43 no kids and single and I don't lose my age on the date apps and I just say that I'm older than I look and I get a ton a ton of guys in their 30s and late 20s who say they don't care what age I am. And I am not looking to hook up and I won't hook up I'm way too scared of STDs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does she have her own kids?

If she doesn’t have kids, it’s not going to work with her. It’s very normal for 35 year old women to want someone they can spend a lot of time with and settle down with. She’ll also probably want her own kids.

A better option for you is a woman your age (mid 40s) who is an empty nester and has her own life.

It is pretty rare in this area for mid-40s people to be empty nester. Sure, it can happen but most mid-40s people I know (including me) still have kids and some still in elementary school. I am 47--my youngest kid is in fourth grade. Her dad is 51. This is pretty normal where I live. I don't know a single 40s empty nester. Not one.

I was an empty nester at 47. I had three kids and was 29 when my youngest was born. So we are out there but probably in the minority.

Dude, just date your own age. Enough with the 10 year younger 30 somethings. They are in a different stage in life. Divorced, never married, empty nester, doesn’t matter but just be honest and age appropriate. Mid 40s and up are still as attractive as 30 something and you’ll just have more in common.

The average maternal age in dmv was 27 yo , so there are plenty of empty nester 40s women and they are a statistical majority. It’s just this forum is probably a selection of higher income grad degree women who delay having kids till mid-late 30s.

Yeah and for Hispanics is age 22 and 3.86 kids per childbearing aged woman. Read the MoCo county report, has demographics.

Those are typically Hispanics who were not born in the US. I was born in the US and I know other girls I went to high school with who were also Hispanic and some Mexican-American relatives who don't even have kids in their '50s or 40s. I'm attractive petite skinny big old booty and I am just shy but educated

[Anonymous]

I get needing 2 days to decompress from your kids. I agree you should date someone closer to your age, but it's not a great age for women from late 40's to early 50's because they're dealing with perimenopause and menopause, and all that entails. I don't think you should lead someone on who might want to pop out a kid before age 40. You sound like the kids you have are all you'll ever need.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to date women in the same phase of life. I’m a 48 yo divorced woman with one tween and I’d love a low-key relationship where we saw each other once a week. Later on if appropriate I’d be happy to go to sports games and do other kid stuff.

Yeah, but OP isn't going to be remotely attracted to you. Real talk.

DP here. Oh, please. I am 47. I am going out with a 29 year old this weekend. I have dated 27-47. It 100% depends on how attractive you are. However, I would likely not be attracted to OP. I date men without kids because I don't want to deal with someone else's custody schedule and I can date younger without any issue. I won't remarry ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get needing 2 days to decompress from your kids. I agree you should date someone closer to your age, but it's not a great age for women from late 40's to early 50's because they're dealing with perimenopause and menopause, and all that entails. I don't think you should lead someone on who might want to pop out a kid before age 40. You sound like the kids you have are all you'll ever need.

How does a parent magically get two days to decompress from their kids?

They have to either check out of their marriage/ household, or divorce and carve up custody time.

Fascinating

[Anonymous]

She’s trying to fast track your dating so she can have 2-3 kids quickly. Plan on funding that and your own two kids and likely her retirement in addition to yours.