Stop commenting on my weight

[Anonymous]

I have lost a bunch of weight in the last year. I see three friends on a regular basis. I have talked about my weight and their weight to two on occasion and they mentioned it once or twice and seemed happy for me. But no big focus on it. I have another friend who won't stop talking about it. Every time I see her she mentions it at least three times. Why? What does she want me to say? It's not said like she's happy for me; she doesn't say I look better or anything. It feels almost aggressive. I've never discussed my weight with her before. I find that I'm feeling like I don't want to see her.

Say nothing about people's weight or only do so if you feel a lot of trust and are happy for them abd for gosh sakess, don't dwell on it!

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP. I learned that years ago when I complimented my endocrinologist on her weight loss... only to realize from her pained expression that she was probably seriously ill.

But a lot of people don't have the life experience to realize they're not being sensitive.

[Anonymous]

While I wouldn’t comment at all, I’d assume you went on semiglutide injectibles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly OP, you are being way too sensitive. People mean well and are trying to say something nice to you. Feel free to explain, but take it with the kindness it is intended..

This

Be authentic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have lost about 35 lbs in the past two years. I'm not a tall woman, so it's very noticeable. However, most of it was lost because of medical reasons (thyroid, medication change, etc.) and some were lost due to not eating during a depressive episode. People are assuming I changed my eating habits, and even go as far as to say they are proud of me for eating healthy and losing weight. I know they mean to be kind. I know they think they're being complimentary. But I'm so over people commenting on my weight. My weight gain was largely out of my control in the first place (went from a size zero to a size 14), and it makes me feel self conscious. So PSA - think twice before commenting on someone's weight loss - it may be a sensitive topic for them.

I agree to a point. But then we get mixed messages. A person will come on say I lost so much weight from eating right/exercising and no one commented!

So most people are just trying to have basic human interactions and yes sometimes will put their foot in their mouth. So now, I don't want to have any idle chit chat because either way you are wrong. Better to say nothing.

Normal people would not say anything.

The only reason for the mixed messages is because of all the toxic masculinity out there.

What? What a truly stupid response.

[Anonymous]

Once I told an acquaintance how great she looked after having her baby. I didn't mention her weight - I simply said, "You look fantastic!" She proceeded to snap, "How am I SUPPOSED to look? Why do people keep saying that??"

I thought her reaction was incredibly childish and uncalled for. People are telling her she looks great and she jumps down their throats? Grow the hell up.

[Anonymous]

You sound wretched!

[Anonymous]

Accept the compliment and get over yourselves!

[Anonymous]

Only in America would a harpy taking a weight loss drug be offended by this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Once I told an acquaintance how great she looked after having her baby. I didn't mention her weight - I simply said, "You look fantastic!" She proceeded to snap, "How am I SUPPOSED to look? Why do people keep saying that??"

I thought her reaction was incredibly childish and uncalled for. People are telling her she looks great and she jumps down their throats? Grow the hell up.

Unless someone brings up their looks/body first, I don't bring it up. I don't understand people who initiate comments about other people's looks or bodies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While I wouldn’t comment at all, I’d assume you went on semiglutide injectibles.

And this is the issue. Don't assume at all.

[Anonymous]

OP, may I suggest therapy? You have held this grudge for an unhealthy amount of time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:While I wouldn’t comment at all, I’d assume you went on semiglutide injectibles.

And this is the issue. Don't assume at all.

Ok I’ll assume you have a fatal disease and are on a radical treatment.

I’ll be able to tell you’re not a gym rat. And the first thing your doctor would do a run thyroid tests so no one’s ignorant there, so that’s not it. I can back into if you’re drinking too many sugary drinks at an older age and packing it on.

In OP’s case she claims she was a Size 0, then went to Size 12 for a long time, now is some size in the middle.

Unclear what she’s moaning and groaning about if people say she looks good. She must have nothing else going on in life to ruminate on this.

[Anonymous]

Someone once commented on how great I looked since I had lost weight. She asked what diet I was on. I was getting divorced. It was a grief diet. She did feel embarrassed, at least.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:While I wouldn’t comment at all, I’d assume you went on semiglutide injectibles.

And this is the issue. Don't assume at all.

Ok I’ll assume you have a fatal disease and are on a radical treatment.

I’ll be able to tell you’re not a gym rat. And the first thing your doctor would do a run thyroid tests so no one’s ignorant there, so that’s not it. I can back into if you’re drinking too many sugary drinks at an older age and packing it on.

In OP’s case she claims she was a Size 0, then went to Size 12 for a long time, now is some size in the middle.

Unclear what she’s moaning and groaning about if people say she looks good. She must have nothing else going on in life to ruminate on this.

Small correction - went from Size 0 to Size 14. And short. So, a 35 lbs. weight loss is hard to miss. But, best to never comment on another's body.