Coaches, do you stonewall parents on level discussions?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Follow up on this. I've taken notes from practices and some video of both my kid and the others. I'm still not getting anywhere with the team. Daughter does not want to switch clubs. Has anyone successfully litigated this type of situation?

Litigated? What would the cause of action be? What are the damages? Do you know how long litigation takes? And even if you sued and won (which isn't happening) and a court issued some kind of order that forced the club to put your DD on the team, how do you think that would be received by the coach and the other players/families?

I really hope this is someone trolling...

The kid is upset to tears that she is not on the team she deserves. It is making her anxious. Should I not try everything to get this corrected? This is traumatic and damaging to her well-being.

It will also be damaging to her well being if you keep on this. I know it’s very hard to see. We’ve had disappointments like this. But that’s life! I agree she either moves clubs or tries hard to improve.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone ever successfully sued for this sort of thing?

You have to be a troll.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Follow up on this. I've taken notes from practices and some video of both my kid and the others. I'm still not getting anywhere with the team. Daughter does not want to switch clubs. Has anyone successfully litigated this type of situation?

Litigated? What would the cause of action be? What are the damages? Do you know how long litigation takes? And even if you sued and won (which isn't happening) and a court issued some kind of order that forced the club to put your DD on the team, how do you think that would be received by the coach and the other players/families?

I really hope this is someone trolling...

The kid is upset to tears that she is not on the team she deserves. It is making her anxious. Should I not try everything to get this corrected? This is traumatic and damaging to her well-being.

It will also be damaging to her well being if you keep on this. I know it’s very hard to see. We’ve had disappointments like this. But that’s life! I agree she either moves clubs or tries hard to improve.

We are paying. Shouldn't we get to choose the team. If she is this upset, they should be understanding of her mental health and move her. If they decide not to, isn't it worth it to try yo force their hand for my kids best interest.

[Anonymous]

This thread started out as B level trolling. This is D level. I hope this isn't the original OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread started out as B level trolling. This is D level. I hope this isn't the original OP

Not a troll, very seriously exploring my options. Looking for advice from been there done that parents and back end insight from coaches.

[Anonymous]

You as the parent do not get to decide what level team your DC plays on. Period. You continuing to argue to the contrary will not get you anywhere positive and could potentially have negative consequences on your kid. Stop. If they don’t think your kid should be on the team you think they should be on, move on. We all face disappointments and getting cut or not being on the same team with friends is part of life. Focus on helping your kid learn this lesson.

[Anonymous]

Wow. Just wow. No, I have no experience suing a sports team because they don’t think my kid is as special as I think my kid is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Follow up on this. I've taken notes from practices and some video of both my kid and the others. I'm still not getting anywhere with the team. Daughter does not want to switch clubs. Has anyone successfully litigated this type of situation?

Litigated? What would the cause of action be? What are the damages? Do you know how long litigation takes? And even if you sued and won (which isn't happening) and a court issued some kind of order that forced the club to put your DD on the team, how do you think that would be received by the coach and the other players/families?

I really hope this is someone trolling...

The kid is upset to tears that she is not on the team she deserves. It is making her anxious. Should I not try everything to get this corrected? This is traumatic and damaging to her well-being.

It will also be damaging to her well being if you keep on this. I know it’s very hard to see. We’ve had disappointments like this. But that’s life! I agree she either moves clubs or tries hard to improve.

We are paying. Shouldn't we get to choose the team. If she is this upset, they should be understanding of her mental health and move her. If they decide not to, isn't it worth it to try yo force their hand for my kids best interest.

This isn’t how it works. You tryout. They make you an offer. You accept offer and pay. If you don’t like the team placement, you go elsewhere. Go where your child is appreciated, even if it means leaving mid-year. But it’s not fair to the other families who also paid to move your child up when she hasn’t earned her spot. DS has played on a wide range of teams - A and B. Honestly, he had some great experiences when young on a B team. He has worked really hard to earn his spot on his current A team. He has never expected to be moved or to have friends moved so they can stay together. If you want to play with friends, you form a rec team or consider an MSI classic team. Beyond those levels, nobody cares about placing you with friends.

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Wow, if this is not a troll, then OP needs some serious parenting lessons. Your DD needs to learn resilience. What are you going to do if your child in HS runs for student government and loses? Sue the school? What if she doesn't make first chair in orchestra? Sue the orchestra? What if in college she doesn't get into the sorority she wants, are you going to sue the sorority? You are a prime example of what is wrong in today's society. You should be dealing with her anxiety, not by fixing this situation, but by teaching her how to deal with life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Follow up on this. I've taken notes from practices and some video of both my kid and the others. I'm still not getting anywhere with the team. Daughter does not want to switch clubs. Has anyone successfully litigated this type of situation?

Litigated? What would the cause of action be? What are the damages? Do you know how long litigation takes? And even if you sued and won (which isn't happening) and a court issued some kind of order that forced the club to put your DD on the team, how do you think that would be received by the coach and the other players/families?

I really hope this is someone trolling...

The kid is upset to tears that she is not on the team she deserves. It is making her anxious. Should I not try everything to get this corrected? This is traumatic and damaging to her well-being.

It will also be damaging to her well being if you keep on this. I know it’s very hard to see. We’ve had disappointments like this. But that’s life! I agree she either moves clubs or tries hard to improve.

We are paying. Shouldn't we get to choose the team. If she is this upset, they should be understanding of her mental health and move her. If they decide not to, isn't it worth it to try yo force their hand for my kids best interest.

I really, really hope you are a troll.

Team sports are one of the last few places in life where effort and skill matter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread started out as B level trolling. This is D level. I hope this isn't the original OP

Not a troll, very seriously exploring my options. Looking for advice from been there done that parents and back end insight from coaches.

You have gotten advice from been there done that parents. If it's truly unfair, you move your kid. In the process of moving your kid you might find out it's not truly unfair.

You're just looking for the advice you want, which no one is willing to give.

Remember DCUM never comes to a consensus. But they have this time. That tells you something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Follow up on this. I've taken notes from practices and some video of both my kid and the others. I'm still not getting anywhere with the team. Daughter does not want to switch clubs. Has anyone successfully litigated this type of situation?

Travel baseball coach again.

I am now like 90% sure you are trolling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Follow up on this. I've taken notes from practices and some video of both my kid and the others. I'm still not getting anywhere with the team. Daughter does not want to switch clubs. Has anyone successfully litigated this type of situation?

Litigated? What would the cause of action be? What are the damages? Do you know how long litigation takes? And even if you sued and won (which isn't happening) and a court issued some kind of order that forced the club to put your DD on the team, how do you think that would be received by the coach and the other players/families?

I really hope this is someone trolling...

The kid is upset to tears that she is not on the team she deserves. It is making her anxious. Should I not try everything to get this corrected? This is traumatic and damaging to her well-being.

Make that 95%

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Follow up on this. I've taken notes from practices and some video of both my kid and the others. I'm still not getting anywhere with the team. Daughter does not want to switch clubs. Has anyone successfully litigated this type of situation?

Litigated? What would the cause of action be? What are the damages? Do you know how long litigation takes? And even if you sued and won (which isn't happening) and a court issued some kind of order that forced the club to put your DD on the team, how do you think that would be received by the coach and the other players/families?

I really hope this is someone trolling...

The kid is upset to tears that she is not on the team she deserves. It is making her anxious. Should I not try everything to get this corrected? This is traumatic and damaging to her well-being.

It will also be damaging to her well being if you keep on this. I know it’s very hard to see. We’ve had disappointments like this. But that’s life! I agree she either moves clubs or tries hard to improve.

We are paying. Shouldn't we get to choose the team. If she is this upset, they should be understanding of her mental health and move her. If they decide not to, isn't it worth it to try yo force their hand for my kids best interest.

98%

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread started out as B level trolling. This is D level. I hope this isn't the original OP

Not a troll, very seriously exploring my options. Looking for advice from been there done that parents and back end insight from coaches.

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