To my husband’s work AP

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Anonymous wrote:Good for you OP. Actions have consequences. let her burn. Make sure you burn your husband also though.

OP: Oh, he will. This is going to destroy his career.

I'm figuring you've considered this, because you sound methodical, but if this also torches things like health insurance through his work for you or for any kids you have, be ready for that. Same goes for savings for kids' college or your retirement, though I figure those finances get worked out in a divorce and custody agreement. I am NOT saying to let this go, OP! Just saying: Be prepared for his career dive to affect all aspects of family finances and coverage. (A friend's DH lost his job when they divorced; she ended up with much less robust health coverage for her and their kids, which was an issue later on when one child developed a chronic condition that has cost $$$ and always will. That's why this issue is one which occurs to me when people divorce.)

She doesn't sound methodical. She sounds unhinged and erratic.

Yup.

Affair partners are so funny. You dumb girl. You thought the wife would find out and what? Be cool with it? Scold her husband? I would go a step farther and sleep with your husband after I told him. Be thankful OP isn’t as unhinged as me.

Exhibit A for unhinged. And if OP thinks the AP is here on DCUM and actually posting identifying info... Exhibit A' for Beyond Unhinged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a better than 100% chance that this is the same OP of the “Husband and his partner” thread.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1219915.page

I thought the same but couldn’t find the thread. Totally agree. Now the question is: who is the father of the baby??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, write back letting us know how it turns out.

OP: I will someday. It might be weeks or months. I am very willing to be patient with this now that I have it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Good for you OP. Actions have consequences. let her burn. Make sure you burn your husband also though.

OP: Oh, he will. This is going to destroy his career.

Not even if he's a politician. Nobody gives a $hit.

You should leave the other husband alone, it's not your business. Your husband is your business.

Not how it works. You interfere with my marriage, I interfere with yours. Why is there a code that should be upheld by the spouse who was wronged? The wife didn’t cheat. YOU did. If my husband was caught cheating with someone I’d already expressed concern about, all bets for civility would be off.

Because the other husband didn’t do anything to you and you are gleefully looking forward to causing him pain.

[Anonymous]

Didn’t you gamble your future on a fool?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You two work together. You should know after all these years that he’s sloppy and can be less than thorough when he’s distracted.

I found evidence of your affair from your recent work trip and dug deeper to find screenshots and other useful material. It really wasn’t even that hard. You chose to gamble your future on a fool who doesn’t cover his tracks. Like I said, after the myriad of hours you spend talking and the years you’ve worked together, you should know how he is.

I’m going to share these with your husband. I don’t know when yet. I’m sitting on it and deciding. Your home situation is delicate right now, and I know this is the last thing you need. I’m going to enjoy it. Your poor husband. He has no idea. He seems like a nice man too.

Hope it was worth it. Good luck.

Why on Earth would you post this shit here? No one cares, lady.

I do! Sorry, OP! Get them!

Same. Team op.

[Anonymous]

I would say leave out the "I will enjoy it" part (seems mean to the other spouse) but otherwise you are good to go.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Good for you OP. Actions have consequences. let her burn. Make sure you burn your husband also though.

OP: Oh, he will. This is going to destroy his career.

Not even if he's a politician. Nobody gives a $hit.

You should leave the other husband alone, it's not your business. Your husband is your business.

Not how it works. You interfere with my marriage, I interfere with yours. Why is there a code that should be upheld by the spouse who was wronged? The wife didn’t cheat. YOU did. If my husband was caught cheating with someone I’d already expressed concern about, all bets for civility would be off.

Because the other husband didn’t do anything to you and you are gleefully looking forward to causing him pain.

OP: Gleefully looking forward to causing him pain? I have the unique advantage that I caught wind of his wife cheating on him. It is a kindness to share that kind of blatant disrespect when you’re investing your life in someone.

AP doesn’t get to destroy my marriage and keep her happy one. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Didn’t you gamble your future on a fool?

OP: I did.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Good for you OP. Actions have consequences. let her burn. Make sure you burn your husband also though.

OP: Oh, he will. This is going to destroy his career.

I'm figuring you've considered this, because you sound methodical, but if this also torches things like health insurance through his work for you or for any kids you have, be ready for that. Same goes for savings for kids' college or your retirement, though I figure those finances get worked out in a divorce and custody agreement. I am NOT saying to let this go, OP! Just saying: Be prepared for his career dive to affect all aspects of family finances and coverage. (A friend's DH lost his job when they divorced; she ended up with much less robust health coverage for her and their kids, which was an issue later on when one child developed a chronic condition that has cost $$$ and always will. That's why this issue is one which occurs to me when people divorce.)

She doesn't sound methodical. She sounds unhinged and erratic.

Yup.

Affair partners are so funny. You dumb girl. You thought the wife would find out and what? Be cool with it? Scold her husband? I would go a step farther and sleep with your husband after I told him. Be thankful OP isn’t as unhinged as me.

+10000

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good for you OP. Actions have consequences. let her burn. Make sure you burn your husband also though.

OP: Oh, he will. This is going to destroy his career.

Not even if he's a politician. Nobody gives a $hit.

You should leave the other husband alone, it's not your business. Your husband is your business.

Not how it works. You interfere with my marriage, I interfere with yours. Why is there a code that should be upheld by the spouse who was wronged? The wife didn’t cheat. YOU did. If my husband was caught cheating with someone I’d already expressed concern about, all bets for civility would be off.

Lady you post on every thread about affairs and you are NUTS. And no, I am not an “AP!”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Good for you OP. Actions have consequences. let her burn. Make sure you burn your husband also though.

OP: Oh, he will. This is going to destroy his career.

I'm figuring you've considered this, because you sound methodical, but if this also torches things like health insurance through his work for you or for any kids you have, be ready for that. Same goes for savings for kids' college or your retirement, though I figure those finances get worked out in a divorce and custody agreement. I am NOT saying to let this go, OP! Just saying: Be prepared for his career dive to affect all aspects of family finances and coverage. (A friend's DH lost his job when they divorced; she ended up with much less robust health coverage for her and their kids, which was an issue later on when one child developed a chronic condition that has cost $$$ and always will. That's why this issue is one which occurs to me when people divorce.)

She doesn't sound methodical. She sounds unhinged and erratic.

Yup.

Affair partners are so funny. You dumb girl. You thought the wife would find out and what? Be cool with it? Scold her husband? I would go a step farther and sleep with your husband after I told him. Be thankful OP isn’t as unhinged as me.

+10000

Really, we're resorting to calling each other dumb girl for differences of opinion on how to proceed after cheating is discovered? Wow, immature posters on this thread. Or maybe just the one sock-puppet.

[Anonymous]

Ok?

You sound pathetic and bitter and attention seeking. No wonder your DH has an AP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good for you OP. Actions have consequences. let her burn. Make sure you burn your husband also though.

OP: Oh, he will. This is going to destroy his career.

Not even if he's a politician. Nobody gives a $hit.

You should leave the other husband alone, it's not your business. Your husband is your business.

Not how it works. You interfere with my marriage, I interfere with yours. Why is there a code that should be upheld by the spouse who was wronged? The wife didn’t cheat. YOU did. If my husband was caught cheating with someone I’d already expressed concern about, all bets for civility would be off.

Because the other husband didn’t do anything to you and you are gleefully looking forward to causing him pain.

OP: Gleefully looking forward to causing him pain? I have the unique advantage that I caught wind of his wife cheating on him. It is a kindness to share that kind of blatant disrespect when you’re investing your life in someone.

AP doesn’t get to destroy my marriage and keep her happy one. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

Applies to your choice to marry the guy.

[Anonymous]

Go ahead, light the fuse and watch it blow up in your face. Keep it private but squeeze your husband for all he’s worth. That will be the best revenge.