Seeking Advice: Nanny Refuses to Drive Teen After Weed Incident

[Anonymous]

Team nanny. I would also not feel comfortable driving the teen.

That said, you are within your rights to terminate the nanny, but if you get a new nanny and don't disclose the weed issue, you are setting that nanny up for trouble.

[Anonymous]

Nanny's in the right. Teen figures out how to get there himself, you pay for an uber, or you raise her salary enough to make it worth her while. Everyone has a price.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the teen needs new parents.

Agreed. OP seems to be very (VERY) hands off, and their children are obviously suffering. Drug use at this age should be extremely concerning, but OP is so nonchalant about it? Maybe if this kid had a parent caring about them instead of a substitute nanny the parents would see some of these warning signs and step in before this child becomes a delinquent. But OP is too worried about camps . Way to miss the forest for the trees!

[Anonymous]

So back to the main question, would you get another nanny? Her job description is to drive and cook meals.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, 100% team nanny.

Sounds like your kid isn't old enough to drive (<16?) and you dont seem to GAF that your child had drugs? And you dont GAF that your nanny could have had her car impounded? Because of your POS kid? How dare you call her paranoid. I hope she quits on you with 0 notice. You sound like an awful person to work for.

It's our car and we don't side with our teen the nanny is refusing to drive the teen anymore

What do you mean you don’t side with your teen? This whole post is about how to keep your teen’s schedule (driving) on track. Not a mention that maybe it shouldn’t on track anymore.

We already setup and paid for camps, and other summer activities that need to be driven to while we work. Not doing them aren't punishments, punishments are already handled.

Teen can work around the home, earn the cost of the camps and pay you back. He doesn't need to go to camp.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So back to the main question, would you get another nanny? Her job description is to drive and cook meals.

How can you hire a driving position knowing OPs f***-up will endanger the next person?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, 100% team nanny.

Sounds like your kid isn't old enough to drive (<16?) and you dont seem to GAF that your child had drugs? And you dont GAF that your nanny could have had her car impounded? Because of your POS kid? How dare you call her paranoid. I hope she quits on you with 0 notice. You sound like an awful person to work for.

It's our car and we don't side with our teen the nanny is refusing to drive the teen anymore

What do you mean you don’t side with your teen? This whole post is about how to keep your teen’s schedule (driving) on track. Not a mention that maybe it shouldn’t on track anymore.

We already setup and paid for camps, and other summer activities that need to be driven to while we work. Not doing them aren't punishments, punishments are already handled.

Teen can work around the home, earn the cost of the camps and pay you back. He doesn't need to go to camp.

Good idea. I'd maybe even include some nanny severance that he has to earn back as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So back to the main question, would you get another nanny? Her job description is to drive and cook meals.

What are you going to do when the next nanny is arrested for your kid's weed?

[Anonymous]

I haven't read all the replies, but it seems like you are not getting much helpful advice, OP.

Personally, I would offer to reimburse nanny for consulting with a lawyer on what her responsibility would be if the child had weed in their possession while she was driving.

This will either reassure the nanny or she will dig in her heels, and either way you have your answer.

[Anonymous]

If you are going to fire your nanny over this, then you need to specify in the new chauffeur job ad that duties include driving around a druggie teen who might carry drugs in the car. Someone is probably willing to do this job for the right price, and that someone is probably not a woman because women generally have lower tolerance for risk. Are you open to hiring a man for the job of carting your kids around?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So back to the main question, would you get another nanny? Her job description is to drive and cook meals.

I would only suggest getting another nanny if you intend to be honest about why you ended things with your first nanny.

[Anonymous]

Another Team Nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So back to the main question, would you get another nanny? Her job description is to drive and cook meals.

Yes. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't read all the replies, but it seems like you are not getting much helpful advice, OP.

Personally, I would offer to reimburse nanny for consulting with a lawyer on what her responsibility would be if the child had weed in their possession while she was driving.

This will either reassure the nanny or she will dig in her heels, and either way you have your answer.

thanks this is helpful the rest is focused on the teen which is already handled

[Anonymous]

This sounds like an excellent nanny. It takes guts to set boundaries. She is in the right here. Teen should just deal with not being driven anywhere since teen feels the need to endanger himself and others by incrimination