Seeking Advice: Nanny Refuses to Drive Teen After Weed Incident

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, 100% team nanny.

Sounds like your kid isn't old enough to drive (<16?) and you dont seem to GAF that your child had drugs? And you dont GAF that your nanny could have had her car impounded? Because of your POS kid? How dare you call her paranoid. I hope she quits on you with 0 notice. You sound like an awful person to work for.

It's our car and we don't side with our teen the nanny is refusing to drive the teen anymore

What do you mean you don’t side with your teen? This whole post is about how to keep your teen’s schedule (driving) on track. Not a mention that maybe it shouldn’t on track anymore.

We already setup and paid for camps, and other summer activities that need to be driven to while we work. Not doing them aren't punishments, punishments are already handled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, 100% team nanny.

Sounds like your kid isn't old enough to drive (<16?) and you dont seem to GAF that your child had drugs? And you dont GAF that your nanny could have had her car impounded? Because of your POS kid? How dare you call her paranoid. I hope she quits on you with 0 notice. You sound like an awful person to work for.

It's our car and we don't side with our teen the nanny is refusing to drive the teen anymore

What do you mean you don’t side with your teen? This whole post is about how to keep your teen’s schedule (driving) on track. Not a mention that maybe it shouldn’t on track anymore.

We already setup and paid for camps, and other summer activities that need to be driven to while we work. Not doing them aren't punishments, punishments are already handled.

Wow. I see where your priorities are. You aren’t taking this seriously at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let's be practical here. Your nanny needs to quit and if your nanny won't drive your child (reasonable), your nanny needs to be let go.

I'd cancel the kid's activities for the summer or drive them yourself I guess.

A kid not even of driving age yet with weed...you have bigger issues than this. Focus OP.

You don't think that 14-15 year olds are getting weed and carts from vape shops? Surveys for even affluent areas show almost 1/4 do. So get out of your bubble maybe we were better at finding it.

[Anonymous]

Why do you have a nanny for a teen old enough to be interested in weed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, 100% team nanny.

Sounds like your kid isn't old enough to drive (<16?) and you dont seem to GAF that your child had drugs? And you dont GAF that your nanny could have had her car impounded? Because of your POS kid? How dare you call her paranoid. I hope she quits on you with 0 notice. You sound like an awful person to work for.

It's our car and we don't side with our teen the nanny is refusing to drive the teen anymore

As she should. Your teen clearly does not care about the consequences for your nanny, should she get pulled over with an underage kid with weed in his possession. She could get arrested and will never be able to work again. She is not being paranoid; YOU and YOUR SON do not care enough about other people. Your family seems to care more about getting your son to practice than possibly ruining your nanny's future. Are you so out-of-touch that you can't see that your nanny is 100% is the right here? You and your son owe her a big apology.

[Anonymous]

What kind of punishment did you give?

Heading off to camp sounds... not like a punishment at all...

[Anonymous]

I think the teen needs new parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let's be practical here. Your nanny needs to quit and if your nanny won't drive your child (reasonable), your nanny needs to be let go.

I'd cancel the kid's activities for the summer or drive them yourself I guess.

A kid not even of driving age yet with weed...you have bigger issues than this. Focus OP.

This. Nanny needs to quit or be terminated. You don’t continue to work there expecting to get paid but refuse to do the work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, 100% team nanny.

Sounds like your kid isn't old enough to drive (<16?) and you dont seem to GAF that your child had drugs? And you dont GAF that your nanny could have had her car impounded? Because of your POS kid? How dare you call her paranoid. I hope she quits on you with 0 notice. You sound like an awful person to work for.

It's our car and we don't side with our teen the nanny is refusing to drive the teen anymore

What do you mean you don’t side with your teen? This whole post is about how to keep your teen’s schedule (driving) on track. Not a mention that maybe it shouldn’t on track anymore.

We already setup and paid for camps, and other summer activities that need to be driven to while we work. Not doing them aren't punishments, punishments are already handled.

I think you should let the nanny go and you and the kid’s other parent make a schedule to get the kid there and home. Seems like your kid needs close attention this summer.

And don’t go on about how much you guys work and can’t do it. If your nanny and/or son were arrested, you would be changing things around at work too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, 100% team nanny.

Sounds like your kid isn't old enough to drive (<16?) and you dont seem to GAF that your child had drugs? And you dont GAF that your nanny could have had her car impounded? Because of your POS kid? How dare you call her paranoid. I hope she quits on you with 0 notice. You sound like an awful person to work for.

It's our car and we don't side with our teen the nanny is refusing to drive the teen anymore

As she should. Your teen clearly does not care about the consequences for your nanny, should she get pulled over with an underage kid with weed in his possession. She could get arrested and will never be able to work again. She is not being paranoid; YOU and YOUR SON do not care enough about other people. Your family seems to care more about getting your son to practice than possibly ruining your nanny's future. Are you so out-of-touch that you can't see that your nanny is 100% is the right here? You and your son owe her a big apology.

Clearly you don't know how teen think they aren't thinking that far ahead. But thats fine. I guess what's the legal difference of an Uber driver and a passenger with illegal things on the passenger possession?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let's be practical here. Your nanny needs to quit and if your nanny won't drive your child (reasonable), your nanny needs to be let go.

I'd cancel the kid's activities for the summer or drive them yourself I guess.

A kid not even of driving age yet with weed...you have bigger issues than this. Focus OP.

You don't think that 14-15 year olds are getting weed and carts from vape shops? Surveys for even affluent areas show almost 1/4 do. So get out of your bubble maybe we were better at finding it.

DP- yes and? It’s still a problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, 100% team nanny.

Sounds like your kid isn't old enough to drive (<16?) and you dont seem to GAF that your child had drugs? And you dont GAF that your nanny could have had her car impounded? Because of your POS kid? How dare you call her paranoid. I hope she quits on you with 0 notice. You sound like an awful person to work for.

It's our car and we don't side with our teen the nanny is refusing to drive the teen anymore

What do you mean you don’t side with your teen? This whole post is about how to keep your teen’s schedule (driving) on track. Not a mention that maybe it shouldn’t on track anymore.

We already setup and paid for camps, and other summer activities that need to be driven to while we work. Not doing them aren't punishments, punishments are already handled.

So you eat the cost.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What kind of punishment did you give?

Heading off to camp sounds... not like a punishment at all...

Agree. I’d pay the nanny for 2-3 weeks and let her move on. I’d have DS sit in on interviews for new driver. I’d cancel all activities until new nanny is found. He doesn’t get the consequences of his actions until there are consequences for his actions. Taking his phone (which I doubt OP did) isn’t it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, 100% team nanny.

Sounds like your kid isn't old enough to drive (<16?) and you dont seem to GAF that your child had drugs? And you dont GAF that your nanny could have had her car impounded? Because of your POS kid? How dare you call her paranoid. I hope she quits on you with 0 notice. You sound like an awful person to work for.

It's our car and we don't side with our teen the nanny is refusing to drive the teen anymore

As she should. Your teen clearly does not care about the consequences for your nanny, should she get pulled over with an underage kid with weed in his possession. She could get arrested and will never be able to work again. She is not being paranoid; YOU and YOUR SON do not care enough about other people. Your family seems to care more about getting your son to practice than possibly ruining your nanny's future. Are you so out-of-touch that you can't see that your nanny is 100% is the right here? You and your son owe her a big apology.

Clearly you don't know how teen think they aren't thinking that far ahead. But thats fine. I guess what's the legal difference of an Uber driver and a passenger with illegal things on the passenger possession?

Again, and? This teen is not going to think ahead when his parents don’t give a hoot.

[Anonymous]

She’s right. What kind of delinquent is your nanny raising?