Youth sports and over scheduling

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Anonymous wrote:Alot of parents just don't want to admit that overscheduling exists or how bad it is for kids

Citation?

Why do you need a citation? You can't see why overscheduling is a bad thing?

No I can’t see why Katie Ledeky’s schedule is a bad thing.

She didn't get to have a childhood. I don't believe in kids having careers.

So you are against kids pursuing their passions if at that level? What is the right amount?

Yes, I'm against kids doing activities at extremely high levels. I'd never let my kid do that.

So we should get rid of the Olympics because it’s unhealthy for children.

lol, what is going on with you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Alot of parents just don't want to admit that overscheduling exists or how bad it is for kids

Citation?

Why do you need a citation? You can't see why overscheduling is a bad thing?

No I can’t see why Katie Ledeky’s schedule is a bad thing.

She didn't get to have a childhood. I don't believe in kids having careers.

So you disagree with how her parents raised her?

I guess I do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am tired of parents who pride themselves on how busy they and their kids are. It's grating.

Yes, it's some weird bage of honor. You're only hurting yourself and your kids.

And of course the parents who pride themselves on not doing activities for their kids are also exhausting. But of course what YOU choose to do is the perfect thing, right?

Exactly. There is over scheduling, under scheduling, and just right scheduling. And not only is the sweet spot different for each family, it is different for each kid!

The only reason to criticize another family’s scheduled activities or lack thereof is good old fashioned insecurity.

Underscheduling? Nothing wrong with not having extracurriculars or having a ton of them.

Of course there is something wrong with not providing an appropriate amount of structured activities for your individual child’s needs.

Some kids are fine with none. Some kids need that structure. Again, it is completely child-dependent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Alot of parents just don't want to admit that overscheduling exists or how bad it is for kids

Citation?

Why do you need a citation? You can't see why overscheduling is a bad thing?

No I can’t see why Katie Ledeky’s schedule is a bad thing.

She turned into a man

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Anonymous wrote:Alot of parents just don't want to admit that overscheduling exists or how bad it is for kids

Citation?

Why do you need a citation? You can't see why overscheduling is a bad thing?

No I can’t see why Katie Ledeky’s schedule is a bad thing.

She didn't get to have a childhood. I don't believe in kids having careers.

So you are against kids pursuing their passions if at that level? What is the right amount?

Yes, I'm against kids doing activities at extremely high levels. I'd never let my kid do that.

So we should get rid of the Olympics because it’s unhealthy for children.

lol, what is going on with you?

No I didn't say that. It's not something I'd let my own kids do. Other can do what they want. And I never said all kids are forced, but some are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Alot of parents just don't want to admit that overscheduling exists or how bad it is for kids

Citation?

Why do you need a citation? You can't see why overscheduling is a bad thing?

No I can’t see why Katie Ledeky’s schedule is a bad thing.

She didn't get to have a childhood. I don't believe in kids having careers.

So you are against kids pursuing their passions if at that level? What is the right amount?

And also, how do you know she didn't have a childhood? Are you saying she didn't have fun with friends, play, try other things etc etc when she was a kid?

Who do people think she was swimming with at practice… Adults?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Alot of parents just don't want to admit that overscheduling exists or how bad it is for kids

Citation?

Why do you need a citation? You can't see why overscheduling is a bad thing?

No I can’t see why Katie Ledeky’s schedule is a bad thing.

She didn't get to have a childhood. I don't believe in kids having careers.

So you are against kids pursuing their passions if at that level? What is the right amount?

Yes, I'm against kids doing activities at extremely high levels. I'd never let my kid do that.

So we should get rid of the Olympics because it’s unhealthy for children.

lol, what is going on with you?

No I didn't say that. It's not something I'd let my own kids do. Other can do what they want. And I never said all kids are forced, but some are.

OK, then create a thread about kids force to do things. I don’t wanna do like study for the SAT use hours on end.

This threat is about people who are jealous of other peoples successes and need to label it as overscheduled feel better about themselves

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Anonymous wrote:Alot of parents just don't want to admit that overscheduling exists or how bad it is for kids

Citation?

Why do you need a citation? You can't see why overscheduling is a bad thing?

No I can’t see why Katie Ledeky’s schedule is a bad thing.

She didn't get to have a childhood. I don't believe in kids having careers.

So you are against kids pursuing their passions if at that level? What is the right amount?

Yes, I'm against kids doing activities at extremely high levels. I'd never let my kid do that.

So we should get rid of the Olympics because it’s unhealthy for children.

lol, what is going on with you?

No I didn't say that. It's not something I'd let my own kids do. Other can do what they want. And I never said all kids are forced, but some are.

OK, then create a thread about kids force to do things. I don’t wanna do like study for the SAT use hours on end.

This threat is about people who are jealous of other peoples successes and need to label it as overscheduled feel better about themselves

No this is a thread about overscheduling kids/teens, which is a real thing and a problem.

[Anonymous]

Most posters are being extremely defensive about their choice to overschedule their kids. Its obviously your choice, but it seems to have lots of negative consequences both for the family and the child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most posters are being extremely defensive about their choice to overschedule their kids. Its obviously your choice, but it seems to have lots of negative consequences both for the family and the child.

+1 can anybody really defend overscheduling? What are the pros in your opinion?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every child is different.

Some thrive at being extremely busy and some don’t.

Parent the child you have.

The problem is parents (like OP) who are trying to shame other parents into NOT being busy so she can feel better about her kids not being busy.

OP is afraid the kid who thrives on being super busy will get into a better college and “that’s not fair”.

Parent your child in a way that is best for them.

You obviously have a very narrow view of parenting and success. I do not need my child to get into a specific highly ranked college to feel like a good parent. Nor does my child need to prove anything to me.
I feel sorry for your kids and your way of thinking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most posters are being extremely defensive about their choice to overschedule their kids. Its obviously your choice, but it seems to have lots of negative consequences both for the family and the child.

Obviously. What would you expect people to do when they are metaphorically attacked (see: this thread)? NOT defend themselves?

[Anonymous]

Why do pro overscheduling parents always feel attacked? They're the ones who "attack" parents who refuse to overschedule or who give their kids limits and boundaries on activities.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most posters are being extremely defensive about their choice to overschedule their kids. Its obviously your choice, but it seems to have lots of negative consequences both for the family and the child.

+1 can anybody really defend overscheduling? What are the pros in your opinion?

Overscheduling almost by definition is not good. However, what is considered overscheduled will vary greatly by child and family. And I find that some people make a lot of assumptions and are very judgy about certain activities and any amount that is more than what they do. I say we stop judging each others choices so much.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do pro overscheduling parents always feel attacked? They're the ones who "attack" parents who refuse to overschedule or who give their kids limits and boundaries on activities.

Do you know what thread you’re on?