Youth sports and over scheduling

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am tired of parents who pride themselves on how busy they and their kids are. It's grating.

Yes, it's some weird bage of honor. You're only hurting yourself and your kids.

And of course the parents who pride themselves on not doing activities for their kids are also exhausting. But of course what YOU choose to do is the perfect thing, right?

Exactly. There is over scheduling, under scheduling, and just right scheduling. And not only is the sweet spot different for each family, it is different for each kid!

The only reason to criticize another family’s scheduled activities or lack thereof is good old fashioned insecurity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every child is different.

Some thrive at being extremely busy and some don’t.

Parent the child you have.

The problem is parents (like OP) who are trying to shame other parents into NOT being busy so she can feel better about her kids not being busy.

OP is afraid the kid who thrives on being super busy will get into a better college and “that’s not fair”.

Parent your child in a way that is best for them.

Of course parent the child you have, but just because some kids think they like being super busy doesn't mean you have to let them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Alot of parents just don't want to admit that overscheduling exists or how bad it is for kids

Citation?

Why do you need a citation? You can't see why overscheduling is a bad thing?

No I can’t see why Katie Ledeky’s schedule is a bad thing.

She didn't get to have a childhood. I don't believe in kids having careers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am tired of parents who pride themselves on how busy they and their kids are. It's grating.

Yes, it's some weird bage of honor. You're only hurting yourself and your kids.

And of course the parents who pride themselves on not doing activities for their kids are also exhausting. But of course what YOU choose to do is the perfect thing, right?

I didn't say that did I? I would never not let my kids do activities if they really wanted to, unless I was unable to let them for some reason. But, I'll never force them and I'll never overschedule them.

And you're sure those other parents you judge have over scheduled kids who are forced to do their activities?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Alot of parents just don't want to admit that overscheduling exists or how bad it is for kids

Citation?

Why do you need a citation? You can't see why overscheduling is a bad thing?

No I can’t see why Katie Ledeky’s schedule is a bad thing.

She didn't get to have a childhood. I don't believe in kids having careers.

So you are against kids pursuing their passions if at that level? What is the right amount?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am tired of parents who pride themselves on how busy they and their kids are. It's grating.

Yes, it's some weird bage of honor. You're only hurting yourself and your kids.

And of course the parents who pride themselves on not doing activities for their kids are also exhausting. But of course what YOU choose to do is the perfect thing, right?

Underscheduling? Nothing wrong with not having extracurriculars or having a ton of them.

Exactly. There is over scheduling, under scheduling, and just right scheduling. And not only is the sweet spot different for each family, it is different for each kid!

The only reason to criticize another family’s scheduled activities or lack thereof is good old fashioned insecurity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am tired of parents who pride themselves on how busy they and their kids are. It's grating.

Yes, it's some weird bage of honor. You're only hurting yourself and your kids.

And of course the parents who pride themselves on not doing activities for their kids are also exhausting. But of course what YOU choose to do is the perfect thing, right?

Every kid, no? But, there are kids who are. Not every kid wants activities.

I didn't say that did I? I would never not let my kids do activities if they really wanted to, unless I was unable to let them for some reason. But, I'll never force them and I'll never overschedule them.

And you're sure those other parents you judge have over scheduled kids who are forced to do their activities?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Alot of parents just don't want to admit that overscheduling exists or how bad it is for kids

Citation?

Why do you need a citation? You can't see why overscheduling is a bad thing?

No I can’t see why Katie Ledeky’s schedule is a bad thing.

She didn't get to have a childhood. I don't believe in kids having careers.

So you are against kids pursuing their passions if at that level? What is the right amount?

And also, how do you know she didn't have a childhood? Are you saying she didn't have fun with friends, play, try other things etc etc when she was a kid?

[Anonymous]

Of course not every kid is forced to do these activities, but let's not act like it's not a thing and overscheduling isn't a real thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Alot of parents just don't want to admit that overscheduling exists or how bad it is for kids

Citation?

Why do you need a citation? You can't see why overscheduling is a bad thing?

No I can’t see why Katie Ledeky’s schedule is a bad thing.

She didn't get to have a childhood. I don't believe in kids having careers.

So you are against kids pursuing their passions if at that level? What is the right amount?

And also, how do you know she didn't have a childhood? Are you saying she didn't have fun with friends, play, try other things etc etc when she was a kid?

If she was swimming at an extremely high level and then training for the Olympics, yes , that's what I'm saying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Alot of parents just don't want to admit that overscheduling exists or how bad it is for kids

Citation?

Why do you need a citation? You can't see why overscheduling is a bad thing?

No I can’t see why Katie Ledeky’s schedule is a bad thing.

She turned into a man

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Alot of parents just don't want to admit that overscheduling exists or how bad it is for kids

Citation?

Why do you need a citation? You can't see why overscheduling is a bad thing?

No I can’t see why Katie Ledeky’s schedule is a bad thing.

She didn't get to have a childhood. I don't believe in kids having careers.

So you are against kids pursuing their passions if at that level? What is the right amount?

Yes, I'm against kids doing activities at extremely high levels. I'd never let my kid do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am tired of parents who pride themselves on how busy they and their kids are. It's grating.

Yes, it's some weird bage of honor. You're only hurting yourself and your kids.

And of course the parents who pride themselves on not doing activities for their kids are also exhausting. But of course what YOU choose to do is the perfect thing, right?

I didn't say that did I? I would never not let my kids do activities if they really wanted to, unless I was unable to let them for some reason. But, I'll never force them and I'll never overschedule them.

And you're sure those other parents you judge have over scheduled kids who are forced to do their activities?

This just goes to show that you are one of those people that doesn't believe that overscheduling is a real, actual thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every child is different.

Some thrive at being extremely busy and some don’t.

Parent the child you have.

The problem is parents (like OP) who are trying to shame other parents into NOT being busy so she can feel better about her kids not being busy.

OP is afraid the kid who thrives on being super busy will get into a better college and “that’s not fair”.

Parent your child in a way that is best for them.

Of course parent the child you have, but just because some kids think they like being super busy doesn't mean you have to let them.

If it works for me and works for them why do you care?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Alot of parents just don't want to admit that overscheduling exists or how bad it is for kids

Citation?

Why do you need a citation? You can't see why overscheduling is a bad thing?

No I can’t see why Katie Ledeky’s schedule is a bad thing.

She didn't get to have a childhood. I don't believe in kids having careers.

So you disagree with how her parents raised her?