Am I being overly sensitive?

[Anonymous]

You are not being too sensitive.

This is a known technique among shady men. The stabbing insult ("where was this a year ago"..."you just wanted a year off")
They wait for your response, you were unhappy, so he plays it off as a joke.

He wasn't joking, he actually believes this, and he thinks telling it to you in this way will degrade your self esteem even further. Now that you'll have a job, he won't have as much control over you. He is trying to keep you down, and keep you on a leash.

I would not even consider staying with this person. Not a quality person. Not a quality partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't make a life with this man if it wasn't something your brain/body told you was lighthearted and to dismiss. Something is telling you he's a jerk and wouldn't be supportive when bigger things happen down the line.

That’s exactly what my gut is telling me. It’s like what Jen said about Brad -“he’s missing a sensitivity chip”. I guess because he’s never outright mean but will say passive aggressive, insensitive things like in the OP frequently so I thought I was being hypersensitive.

His childhood friend, who came from a very wealthy family, committed suicide last year. They were clearing out his things a few weeks later and the family gave his versace robe to another mutual friend instead of my BF. My BF talked about incessantly how “unfair” it was and he “deserved” the robe because he had known him longer than their other mutual friend. It was so off putting and bizarre that the robe was his concern. Also, the childhood friend weighed about about 300 lbs and my BF is probably 160 lbs so even more bizarre that he was so upset about this robe….

He IS being mean though. You are brushing it off because he keeps saying he's joking. He is saying very very mean things, and convincing you that you are too sensitive and that its your fault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't make a life with this man if it wasn't something your brain/body told you was lighthearted and to dismiss. Something is telling you he's a jerk and wouldn't be supportive when bigger things happen down the line.

That’s exactly what my gut is telling me. It’s like what Jen said about Brad -“he’s missing a sensitivity chip”. I guess because he’s never outright mean but will say passive aggressive, insensitive things like in the OP frequently so I thought I was being hypersensitive.

His childhood friend, who came from a very wealthy family, committed suicide last year. They were clearing out his things a few weeks later and the family gave his versace robe to another mutual friend instead of my BF. My BF talked about incessantly how “unfair” it was and he “deserved” the robe because he had known him longer than their other mutual friend. It was so off putting and bizarre that the robe was his concern. Also, the childhood friend weighed about about 300 lbs and my BF is probably 160 lbs so even more bizarre that he was so upset about this robe….

OP, your time is precious and you are wasting it with this low-quality person. You do not want to make a life with him - truly, you don't.

Would you want your future children to be treated this way?

Leave and don't look back.

[Anonymous]

Yes op.

[Anonymous]

No, you're not being overly sensitive. He is an ass and I wouldn't let anyone treat me or talk to me like that.

[Anonymous]

He thinks your a loser and probably has some resentment being with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He thinks your a loser and probably has some resentment being with you.

Sounds like resentment to me too. I would not plan my life with this man. No way.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think he likes/loves you at all.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

He is an AH, OP!!! Why can’t you see that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He thinks your a loser and probably has some resentment being with you.

Why would he think I’m a loser? Before I got laid off I made more than him, had a better career, and have never asked or received a dime from him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He thinks your a loser and probably has some resentment being with you.

Why would he think I’m a loser? Before I got laid off I made more than him, had a better career, and have never asked or received a dime from him.

OP, are you taking in what everyone is saying to you?

Does it matter what he thinks? He is mean to you. He disses, dismisses, and denigrates you. He body-shames you. He is not a kind person.

Why are you with him?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes it's really hard to find a job, OP. And sometimes people get lucky, or happen to network at the right time, or take a lower-paying job to tide them over, or move somewhere for a higher-paying job...

Best wishes in your job search.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he’s holding on to some resentment and, for whatever reason, has a hard time being direct with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He thinks your a loser and probably has some resentment being with you.

Why would he think I’m a loser? Before I got laid off I made more than him, had a better career, and have never asked or received a dime from him.

Are you attractive op? I have a theory but it hinges on this answer.