"Don't Text Me So Early!"

[Anonymous]

OP you were wrong.

Unless you KNOW that the text recipient is up or has do not disturb, then wait until at least 8am.

If I were your SIL, I would set your text tone to none.

[Anonymous]

She has made a request. You should follow her request.
Op, there is no need, and no good will come of judging a request. That's all it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work 7p-7a. I realize I'm the odd one out so keep my texts 8a-9p. She could have handled this better, but you really shouldn't text so early, especially for family members who probably have your numbers on the list of contacts to go around the DND

Who keeps their SIL as a break through emergency contact?

[Anonymous]

Op, there is no reasonable explanation as to why you should be bothered by her simple statement.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why was this so urgent at 6:45 AM? Rude as eff.

This may come as a shock, but lots of people have different schedules. When my DH was a rookie LEO he worked 11pm to 8am. So, 645 in the morning was like 4pm for most people. When our DD was in nursing school her ER shifts were overnight as well. Do you think the world turns off when you go to bed?

NP. Oh, please. As a nurse myself with odd, ever-changing hours, you need to sit down. Our society has normal hours. Go to any school, public park, restaurant, bank, department store, or pediatric practice. There are weekday hours and weekend hours. There are social norms and social hours, we all know this, don’t act cute.

Yes, SIL should adjust the settings on her phone. But it’s rude to text before 8 a.m. and after 9/10 p.m.

We believe you!!!

[Anonymous]

I never text people before 9am or after 10pm. It’s very rude. Some people don’t want to silence phone so they would be woken if there’s an emergency with their kids or parents. Don’t forget that for most people these days, their cell phone is their only phone. They need to be contactable in emergencies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work 7p-7a. I realize I'm the odd one out so keep my texts 8a-9p. She could have handled this better, but you really shouldn't text so early, especially for family members who probably have your numbers on the list of contacts to go around the DND

Who keeps their SIL as a break through emergency contact?

NP. I do. She lives close to my elderly ILs. DH and I would want to know if anything is going on, and she’d likely text both of us if something were happening. Yes, she would call if one of them died, but she’d probably text if it was, like, “We just arrived at the ER because FIL was having chest pains; they’re doing his initial checks now. Will update soon.”

[Anonymous]

I turn on DND on individual people who I know lack the social graces not to contact me early in the morning, late at night, or will continuously blow up my phone during the workday. That’s not a problem with most and there are legitimate business reasons why my phone needs to alert me to things out of the social grace timeframes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why was this so urgent at 6:45 AM? Rude as eff.

This may come as a shock, but lots of people have different schedules. When my DH was a rookie LEO he worked 11pm to 8am. So, 645 in the morning was like 4pm for most people. When our DD was in nursing school her ER shifts were overnight as well. Do you think the world turns off when you go to bed?

NP. Oh, please. As a nurse myself with odd, ever-changing hours, you need to sit down. Our society has normal hours. Go to any school, public park, restaurant, bank, department store, or pediatric practice. There are weekday hours and weekend hours. There are social norms and social hours, we all know this, don’t act cute.

Yes, SIL should adjust the settings on her phone. But it’s rude to text before 8 a.m. and after 9/10 p.m.

We believe you!!!

It’s so encouraging to see people in their late 60s and 70s being active on DCUM, keeping themselves entertained and being able to participate online. Your use of emojis is super cute and I hope you have a fun morning on DCUM! Did you guess the Wordle today?

[Anonymous]

I don’t text anyone (besides my husband) before 8 am or after 8 pm. I wouldn’t be mad if someone else texted me though.

[Anonymous]

Her response was rude.

Sometimes I schedule the text to send at a better time. So if I think of something at 6am, I can type up the text, schedule it to go out at 9am, and click send.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work 7p-7a. I realize I'm the odd one out so keep my texts 8a-9p. She could have handled this better, but you really shouldn't text so early, especially for family members who probably have your numbers on the list of contacts to go around the DND

Who keeps their SIL as a break through emergency contact?

NP. I do. She lives close to my elderly ILs. DH and I would want to know if anything is going on, and she’d likely text both of us if something were happening. Yes, she would call if one of them died, but she’d probably text if it was, like, “We just arrived at the ER because FIL was having chest pains; they’re doing his initial checks now. Will update soon.”

This SIL is married to her brother. She'd want to know if something happened to him. Think about this from her perspective. She was probably jolted out of bed thinking there was an emergency. Now she can't go back to sleep due to adrenaline and might have been woken up at at bad part of the sleep cycle that will affect her whole day. That's what she was reacting to.

Plus it was rude to text her about a non-emergency that early. Her only potential rudeness was not saying please, but setting the boundary itself was not rude.

[Anonymous]

That is way too early to text someone ESPECIALLY on a weekend. They probably thought it was an emergency.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Her response was rude.

Sometimes I schedule the text to send at a better time. So if I think of something at 6am, I can type up the text, schedule it to go out at 9am, and click send.

It wasn't rude, it was direct. I would appreciate someone being upfront with me instead of privately stewing and getting annoyed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You have to keep other people's life circumstances in mind. Think about people with teens who might be out late at night, want to go to sleep but still hear their phones in case of emergency. Or an elderly parent who may need to contact them in an emergency. These are the reasons I don't completely silence my phone. So I agree, do not text people in off hours. It's no differen than calling them, which you wouldn't do.

+1 No texts before 8AM

Agree with this.

This come on op. 6:51?