I'm panicked

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You need to calm down.

+1

You have an anxiety problem.

You and PP have a problem being nasty. Go away if you have nothing to contribute. OP is fine.

It’s not nasty to point out something. OP’s anxiety is popping off the page and she has only responded to fight with people. She needs to take a huge breath, there’s another month before decisions are due. Let the kid go to the admitted students day and then make a decision. It’s not rocket science.

I didn't think I was arguing. I asked if I'm being clouded by anxiety. He will go visit and see. Even if it's not an official day - he will meet others and walk around and get a feel for the vibe. Trying to not let it all get the best of me

[Anonymous]

NP here. OP, it’s ok. My kid decided on 4/28 last year. We told them that they won’t get the best choice in housing due to the delay but that was something they were willing to forego for having more time to decide. We supported them in that too. It is fine. Next year this will seem like a distant dream.

[Anonymous]

My kid likely won’t decide until May 1.

We have several admired student events next month.

He likes a lot of schools so it’s really going to come down to his he feels after these.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like OP's kid has already visited the campuses a few times (initial visit, seeing friends at a frat etc) If so, there isn't going to be more to see that will inform the vibe and opinion of the different campuses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm pp who's dc is deciding between UGA Wisconsin and possibly Michigan. He is visiting all again mid to late April. Do people really cut it this close? I'm having such anxiety about the rushed timing, or if he gets sick and can't visit when he plans and him not being able to decide. I can't believe it's come down ot the wire. He has travel and a senior spring break trip and then a sports thing he doesn't want to miss first weekend in April. Do these second visits and/or tours once they're admitted really help seal the deal? He visited both a year ago w just us went out briefly. The return visits are for games, meeting kids in frat, one seeing tour of business school, and I guess just more overnight w kids who are students there.

I get it. I have an indecisive senior that warned us they might need up to until 5/1 to make a decision, add in FAFSA delays and trying to make a decision to sign up for admitted student visit or at least book a visit without knowing the full financial picture, and my senior staying 100% involved with every activity and adding some new ones which gave limited windows for admitted student days.

First I acknowledge that with COVID restrictions etc, the first two years of high school were tough and these experiences senior year, you don’t want to take for granted. Yes, important to make an informed decision on college, but balance that with what is missed by prioritizing college visit above these other experiences. So right now your kid has it down to two choices, as long as you can fit in both visits - they will have enough information to make a decision by the deadline. Unless there is a big advantage with housing, it doesn’t matter if they decide April 1 or May 1. Next, people think Michigan decisions will come out next Friday - they will know if they are in and there will be accepted student days dates available for the RD kids. At that point they like Michigan more than one of the other options, one visit gets dropped and replaced by a Michigan visit.

[Anonymous]

My son still hasn't heard from 9 schools, OP. You're not late on this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like OP's kid has already visited the campuses a few times (initial visit, seeing friends at a frat etc) If so, there isn't going to be more to see that will inform the vibe and opinion of the different campuses.

Op here. He's only gone to each once last year as a junior with us. Wisconsin tour only and UGA tour plus out to a bar w a friend. The visits next month will be meeting other people in fraternities and going out, game, etc. I hope different as an admitted student vs touring as a junior.

[Anonymous]

This is most common thing that happens. Kid gets in in spring, often visits, picks at end

[Anonymous]

Personally, if he gets into Michigan then no need to visit any of them, just put down the deposit for Michigan and hit accept

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like OP's kid has already visited the campuses a few times (initial visit, seeing friends at a frat etc) If so, there isn't going to be more to see that will inform the vibe and opinion of the different campuses.

Op here. He's only gone to each once last year as a junior with us. Wisconsin tour only and UGA tour plus out to a bar w a friend. The visits next month will be meeting other people in fraternities and going out, game, etc. I hope different as an admitted student vs touring as a junior.

Super odd he isn’t going to sit in on classes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like OP's kid has already visited the campuses a few times (initial visit, seeing friends at a frat etc) If so, there isn't going to be more to see that will inform the vibe and opinion of the different campuses.

Op here. He's only gone to each once last year as a junior with us. Wisconsin tour only and UGA tour plus out to a bar w a friend. The visits next month will be meeting other people in fraternities and going out, game, etc. I hope different as an admitted student vs touring as a junior.

Super odd he isn’t going to sit in on classes

Are you being sarcastic? What in the world would that do? He will try to tour each business school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm pp who's dc is deciding between UGA Wisconsin and possibly Michigan. He is visiting all again mid to late April. Do people really cut it this close? I'm having such anxiety about the rushed timing, or if he gets sick and can't visit when he plans and him not being able to decide. I can't believe it's come down ot the wire. He has travel and a senior spring break trip and then a sports thing he doesn't want to miss first weekend in April. Do these second visits and/or tours once they're admitted really help seal the deal? He visited both a year ago w just us went out briefly. The return visits are for games, meeting kids in frat, one seeing tour of business school, and I guess just more overnight w kids who are students there.

Panic is your kid has intractable pain, and you go to the MRI facility and realize that some people get bad news about MRIs.

Suspense about a choice between two great universities is part of the joy of having a thriving child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm pp who's dc is deciding between UGA Wisconsin and possibly Michigan. He is visiting all again mid to late April. Do people really cut it this close? I'm having such anxiety about the rushed timing, or if he gets sick and can't visit when he plans and him not being able to decide. I can't believe it's come down ot the wire. He has travel and a senior spring break trip and then a sports thing he doesn't want to miss first weekend in April. Do these second visits and/or tours once they're admitted really help seal the deal? He visited both a year ago w just us went out briefly. The return visits are for games, meeting kids in frat, one seeing tour of business school, and I guess just more overnight w kids who are students there.

Panic is your kid has intractable pain, and you go to the MRI facility and realize that some people get bad news about MRIs.

Suspense about a choice between two great universities is part of the joy of having a thriving child.

Good point. Panic is def dramatic choice of words.

[Anonymous]

These choices are very similar and all very good. He will be fine whichever he chooses. Yes, it is normal for April to be a bit crazy with college trips and trying to decide. Chill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I get it. I have a really indecisive kid who is deciding between a few schools that are very similar and all great options for him. If he could combine a piece of all of them, he would have the perfect school. I think it's hard to choose one that is lacking in certain areas and also hard to let go of a school that is so great in a lot of ways.

A lot of people are telling you to relax, but I find it hard to believe that parents (especially on this board) are just sitting back, letting their child make this decision without an ounce of worry or thought on their part.

No one is saying "without an ounce or worry." We're not pulling our hair either! OP is losing her mind over this and it's ridiculous. The kid can't go wrong with either choice. It's not a marriage. It's not a decision over whether to amputate a leg. It's just picking between one good college or another. Get a friggin' grip.