I'm panicked

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you attending an Admitted Student Day or traveling on your own? I found AS days very helpful to both student, as well as parents. My oldest has long graduated, but I had to Fed Ex a deposit check because he waited until the last day possible 😫

UGA is for their spring football game and tailgate - a big event. He will also hang w guy he knows at an informal rush event. And tour business school. Madison is more informal because no set events. Will go out, meet some kids, walk around campus again etc. I didn't see a way to set up a business school tour. They do have admitted student days in April but one he can't go cause sports and one is week after he plans to visit - prefer he goes sooner. This is ignoring he could get into Michigan.

This sounds like a pretty ideal UGA visit! If he doesn’t love it after that, maybe that means he’s leaning in a different direction.

[Anonymous]

OP, I get it. I have a really indecisive kid who is deciding between a few schools that are very similar and all great options for him. If he could combine a piece of all of them, he would have the perfect school. I think it's hard to choose one that is lacking in certain areas and also hard to let go of a school that is so great in a lot of ways.

A lot of people are telling you to relax, but I find it hard to believe that parents (especially on this board) are just sitting back, letting their child make this decision without an ounce of worry or thought on their part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm pp who's dc is deciding between UGA Wisconsin and possibly Michigan. He is visiting all again mid to late April. Do people really cut it this close? I'm having such anxiety about the rushed timing, or if he gets sick and can't visit when he plans and him not being able to decide. I can't believe it's come down ot the wire. He has travel and a senior spring break trip and then a sports thing he doesn't want to miss first weekend in April. Do these second visits and/or tours once they're admitted really help seal the deal? He visited both a year ago w just us went out briefly. The return visits are for games, meeting kids in frat, one seeing tour of business school, and I guess just more overnight w kids who are students there.

How is this even a choice?

Michigan is the only school on that list to pick.

UGA is no where near the other two in terms of getting a job after college. Parents are just stupid.

I know Michigan is in it's own league here, but why is UW so far ahead of UGA as far as postgrad outcomes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you attending an Admitted Student Day or traveling on your own? I found AS days very helpful to both student, as well as parents. My oldest has long graduated, but I had to Fed Ex a deposit check because he waited until the last day possible 😫

UGA is for their spring football game and tailgate - a big event. He will also hang w guy he knows at an informal rush event. And tour business school. Madison is more informal because no set events. Will go out, meet some kids, walk around campus again etc. I didn't see a way to set up a business school tour. They do have admitted student days in April but one he can't go cause sports and one is week after he plans to visit - prefer he goes sooner. This is ignoring he could get into Michigan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm pp who's dc is deciding between UGA Wisconsin and possibly Michigan. He is visiting all again mid to late April. Do people really cut it this close? I'm having such anxiety about the rushed timing, or if he gets sick and can't visit when he plans and him not being able to decide. I can't believe it's come down ot the wire. He has travel and a senior spring break trip and then a sports thing he doesn't want to miss first weekend in April. Do these second visits and/or tours once they're admitted really help seal the deal? He visited both a year ago w just us went out briefly. The return visits are for games, meeting kids in frat, one seeing tour of business school, and I guess just more overnight w kids who are students there.

How is this even a choice?

Michigan is the only school on that list to pick.

UGA is no where near the other two in terms of getting a job after college. Parents are just stupid.

He's not in Michigan yet. And it's doing the cost. UGA and Wisconsin have similar job placements just some in different areas. I know plenty from both with great jobs. Wisconsin better in real estate or science. DC is business major and not direct admit at either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you attending an Admitted Student Day or traveling on your own? I found AS days very helpful to both student, as well as parents. My oldest has long graduated, but I had to Fed Ex a deposit check because he waited until the last day possible 😫

UGA is for their spring football game and tailgate - a big event. He will also hang w guy he knows at an informal rush event. And tour business school. Madison is more informal because no set events. Will go out, meet some kids, walk around campus again etc. I didn't see a way to set up a business school tour. They do have admitted student days in April but one he can't go cause sports and one is week after he plans to visit - prefer he goes sooner. This is ignoring he could get into Michigan.

I think you are making a mistake by not going to an admitted students day at Wisconsin. It is only a week after when you are going but you “prefer he goes sooner”? You have until May 1st! His coach will be completely understanding as all seniors are doing re-visits all through April. You are not doing your DS any favors by skipping the planned programming.

[Anonymous]

Totally normal. It will make zero difference if he clicks accept today or on May 1. As long as he makes the deadline, he’s going.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you attending an Admitted Student Day or traveling on your own? I found AS days very helpful to both student, as well as parents. My oldest has long graduated, but I had to Fed Ex a deposit check because he waited until the last day possible 😫

UGA is for their spring football game and tailgate - a big event. He will also hang w guy he knows at an informal rush event. And tour business school. Madison is more informal because no set events. Will go out, meet some kids, walk around campus again etc. I didn't see a way to set up a business school tour. They do have admitted student days in April but one he can't go cause sports and one is week after he plans to visit - prefer he goes sooner. This is ignoring he could get into Michigan.

I think you are making a mistake by not going to an admitted students day at Wisconsin. It is only a week after when you are going but you “prefer he goes sooner”? You have until May 1st! His coach will be completely understanding as all seniors are doing re-visits all through April. You are not doing your DS any favors by skipping the planned programming.

+100
The experience of the admitted students event at UGA will be over the top. It is hard to compare in the 18 YO brain - unless you want to influence the choice and UGA is what you want.

[Anonymous]

OP most of the admitted students days are in April. Totally normal and in fact most common to still be evaluating through end of April. Given your anxiety your kid prob should do the commit a few days before the deadline to confirm no system snafus and that the commit went through.

[Anonymous]

Perfectly normal. With FAFSA screw ups many schools giving more time to decide.

[Anonymous]

I’m continually amazed at how enmeshed DCUM parents are in their kids’ lives! This is HIS decision. If something happens and he can’t visit and makes the decision with a little less information, that’s fine. Your kid has two great college acceptances. There’s literally zero for you to be anxious about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to calm down.

+1

You have an anxiety problem.

You and PP have a problem being nasty. Go away if you have nothing to contribute. OP is fine.

[Anonymous]

Do you not have to worry about financial aid? Because many of us are waiting to see what happens there before any decisions can be made. One of the choices on my daughter’s list has told us that they don’t expect financial aid packages to be ready until late April. I just don’t understand how any schools can stick to the May 1st deadline.

We’re in a spot where my daughter has a top choice, but without any further financial info, it is close to twice the cost of her other 2 choices. She would commit right now if money weren’t a consideration.

At this moment, one school has already moved decision day to June 1. I assume the others will do the same. And until we figure out the money, no commitment can be made.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP most of the admitted students days are in April. Totally normal and in fact most common to still be evaluating through end of April. Given your anxiety your kid prob should do the commit a few days before the deadline to confirm no system snafus and that the commit went through.

Agreed. OP, your irrationality is doing this kid no favors and leading to some pretty illogical decision-making.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to calm down.

+1

You have an anxiety problem.

You and PP have a problem being nasty. Go away if you have nothing to contribute. OP is fine.

It’s not nasty to point out something. OP’s anxiety is popping off the page and she has only responded to fight with people. She needs to take a huge breath, there’s another month before decisions are due. Let the kid go to the admitted students day and then make a decision. It’s not rocket science.