Tween going from private to public for middle school - what does she need to know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop by Lululemon and get her a gray Swiftly Tech and neutral leggings. My daughters enjoy shopping at Hollister, American Eagle/Aerie, Brandy Melville, and Marshall’s/TJ Maxx. I also recommend a Stanley and a North Face backpack that will last a long time.

oh please. My kid doesn't have anything from Lulu or a Stanley, and they're fine. Doesn't get made fun of.

DC has bought clothes from Old Navy, even Target. Some of the kids go to Goodwill and consignment shops.

You people are crazy.

[Anonymous]

Keep them in private for middle school. Public middle school is the absolute worst

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid switched in 6th. It was the perfect year. She got involved, made friends, and found her place. She is a little more “innocent”and it took a full year to “catch up.”

Advocating for yourself is the biggest switch. Private schools parents usually call teachers or administrators. That’s a no-no in public unless there’s a special need, health issue or bullying. Kids will have to learn to go to the teacher on their own when it comes to assignments.

Try to make a friend or two before school starts. It’s nice to have someone who can introduce your kid around or a place to sit at lunch.

Kids make friends in their classes. There’s a lot of group work. They start text chains so your kid should have a smart phone to participate.

Highly encourage sports or activities. You want to engaged, but not so busy where she doesn’t have time to spend with friends. Good luck!

Get them an iphone. Kids use imessages, and androids don't play well with imessages. My kids learned that the hard way.

FWIW, I have an android, and I hate iphones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid switched in 6th. It was the perfect year. She got involved, made friends, and found her place. She is a little more “innocent”and it took a full year to “catch up.”

Advocating for yourself is the biggest switch. Private schools parents usually call teachers or administrators. That’s a no-no in public unless there’s a special need, health issue or bullying. Kids will have to learn to go to the teacher on their own when it comes to assignments.

Try to make a friend or two before school starts. It’s nice to have someone who can introduce your kid around or a place to sit at lunch.

Kids make friends in their classes. There’s a lot of group work. They start text chains so your kid should have a smart phone to participate.

Highly encourage sports or activities. You want to engaged, but not so busy where she doesn’t have time to spend with friends. Good luck!

Get them an iphone. Kids use imessages, and androids don't play well with imessages. My kids learned that the hard way.

FWIW, I have an android, and I hate iphones.

Kids use snap now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No jeans allowed, only athletic wear. Probably only a clear backpack. Keep her eyes to herself, preferably on the floor. Learn how to hold it, so she doesn't have to use the restrooms.

What on earth are you talking about. My kids wear whatever (including jeans!), carry regular backpacks and manage to use the bathroom without issue.

[Anonymous]

Yep, this is silly advice. My kid doesn’t know anything about these brands.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop by Lululemon and get her a gray Swiftly Tech and neutral leggings. My daughters enjoy shopping at Hollister, American Eagle/Aerie, Brandy Melville, and Marshall’s/TJ Maxx. I also recommend a Stanley and a North Face backpack that will last a long time.

oh please. My kid doesn't have anything from Lulu or a Stanley, and they're fine. Doesn't get made fun of.

DC has bought clothes from Old Navy, even Target. Some of the kids go to Goodwill and consignment shops.

You people are crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:what is wrong with using the bathroom?

Some publics, especially large ones lock them due to drugs, sex, vaping, rapes, violence.

Do you even have children in public? Yes, there is vaping sometimes in the bathrooms but there was also vaping in the bathrooms at our religious private. Also, the bullying was much worse at the private.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Learn the late work/retest policy early. Kids who master this really use it to their advantage.

How so? To earn an 80? That’s the highest grade allowed on retests and late assignments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Learn the late work/retest policy early. Kids who master this really use it to their advantage.

How so? To earn an 80? That’s the highest grade allowed on retests and late assignments.

Depends on the school, and sometimes teachers. DD's teachers only allow retests on summatives, not formatives. No one allows grades higher than an 89. Some require getting permission to retest, which requires showing that they have in fact, put in effort to learn the material. Late work turned in within a week or two seem to have no penalties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop by Lululemon and get her a gray Swiftly Tech and neutral leggings. My daughters enjoy shopping at Hollister, American Eagle/Aerie, Brandy Melville, and Marshall’s/TJ Maxx. I also recommend a Stanley and a North Face backpack that will last a long time.

oh please. My kid doesn't have anything from Lulu or a Stanley, and they're fine. Doesn't get made fun of.

DC has bought clothes from Old Navy, even Target. Some of the kids go to Goodwill and consignment shops.

You people are crazy.

Exactly. My kid is mainly adidas, levis, gap (or what ever I get on clearance) with a bunch of no name stuff, including Walmart and no one cares or says anything. Sneakers are usually $30, sometimes less for adidas.

They don't want any of that non-sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Learn the late work/retest policy early. Kids who master this really use it to their advantage.

How so? To earn an 80? That’s the highest grade allowed on retests and late assignments.

Depends on the school, and sometimes teachers. DD's teachers only allow retests on summatives, not formatives. No one allows grades higher than an 89. Some require getting permission to retest, which requires showing that they have in fact, put in effort to learn the material. Late work turned in within a week or two seem to have no penalties.

Our school does't allow any retests on tests, some assignments but thats rare too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:what is wrong with using the bathroom?

Some publics, especially large ones lock them due to drugs, sex, vaping, rapes, violence.

Do you even have children in public? Yes, there is vaping sometimes in the bathrooms but there was also vaping in the bathrooms at our religious private. Also, the bullying was much worse at the private.

Yes, I believe that. The bullies from public are being sent to private to straighten them out. The parents can only handle so many calls from the AP and then realize they need to switch to private in hopes that things will improve with Larlo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:what is wrong with using the bathroom?

Some publics, especially large ones lock them due to drugs, sex, vaping, rapes, violence.

Um. Which ones do that?

Our middle school does close some bathrooms because of vandalism. The rest of that story sounds like urban legend.

+1 And that urban legend has been perpetuated for the last 40 years! I recall neighbors warning me about public middle school and how kids will be asking you to buy drugs. None of this happened and I lived in an economically depressed rough area where you might think this would have happened. The bathrooms were horribly smoking though especially as you aged up into high school. Now the bathrooms are vaped in with fruit scents. I do hear about kids holding it all day to avoid the bathrooms. Some also refuse to use lockers and carry everything, thus, they do not wear winter coats, just a hoodie.

[Anonymous]

Btw. Kids can wear jeans but most kids are opting for super comfy clothes like Athleisure styles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop by Lululemon and get her a gray Swiftly Tech and neutral leggings. My daughters enjoy shopping at Hollister, American Eagle/Aerie, Brandy Melville, and Marshall’s/TJ Maxx. I also recommend a Stanley and a North Face backpack that will last a long time.

My daughter has most of what is listed above - I feel like a sheep buying the same stuff that everyone else has, but hey it's middle school. Also don't forget the Ugg slippers and whatever the sneaker of the moment is (I can't keep up)