Tween going from private to public for middle school - what does she need to know?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:what is wrong with using the bathroom?

Some publics, especially large ones lock them due to drugs, sex, vaping, rapes, violence.

And if they don't, you run the risk of all of the above.

for middle school?!!!

sadly, yes

Yes absolutely 100 percent large public middle schools are locking the bathroom due to rapes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Learn the late work/retest policy early. Kids who master this really use it to their advantage.

this is fantastic advice. thank you!

We moved to private from public for HS and really miss having even a small level of this! Not that I fully agree with it but it was nice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:what is wrong with using the bathroom?

Some publics, especially large ones lock them due to drugs, sex, vaping, rapes, violence.

Um. Which ones do that?

Our middle school does close some bathrooms because of vandalism. The rest of that story sounds like urban legend.

Well, Loudon didn't close them but perhaps should have. Also, you just admitted closing bathrooms happens due to crime, so I'm not sure what your point is.

Okay you just lost all credibility.

If you can’t see the difference between vandalism and “rapes” “sex,” and “drugs,” you should not be giving advice to someone about public school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:what is wrong with using the bathroom?

Some publics, especially large ones lock them due to drugs, sex, vaping, rapes, violence.

Um. Which ones do that?

Our middle school does close some bathrooms because of vandalism. The rest of that story sounds like urban legend.

Well, Loudon didn't close them but perhaps should have. Also, you just admitted closing bathrooms happens due to crime, so I'm not sure what your point is.

Okay you just lost all credibility.

If you can’t see the difference between vandalism and “rapes” “sex,” and “drugs,” you should not be giving advice to someone about public school.

Why did I lose credibility? And what's wrong with taken vandalism seriously? Yeah, maybe I shouldn't be talking about public school if brushing off that kind of thing is the norm.

[Anonymous]

Regarding clothing - my best friend's daughter is in middle school and I was going to bring her along to do back to school shopping. She (my friend's daughter) is thriving in her middle school (out of state).

I am the OP of the thread a few weeks ago asking when my tween is going to care about her hair being brushed/shirts without stains down the front. At this point, she does not care.

We have established a skin care routine that really works, but it's driven by me.

Thanks to the MIT mom. We currently have a weekly tutor for math, 1 hour. maybe we need to increase. The teacher is very chill, my child likes her. but it's a relaxed environment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:what is wrong with using the bathroom?

Some publics, especially large ones lock them due to drugs, sex, vaping, rapes, violence.

Um. Which ones do that?

Our middle school does close some bathrooms because of vandalism. The rest of that story sounds like urban legend.

Well, Loudon didn't close them but perhaps should have. Also, you just admitted closing bathrooms happens due to crime, so I'm not sure what your point is.

Okay you just lost all credibility.

If you can’t see the difference between vandalism and “rapes” “sex,” and “drugs,” you should not be giving advice to someone about public school.

Why did I lose credibility? And what's wrong with taken vandalism seriously? Yeah, maybe I shouldn't be talking about public school if brushing off that kind of thing is the norm.

You clearly know nothing about public school. Or the real world.

Most people see a big difference between paper towels strewn on the floor, writing on a mirror, or a broken sink handle, on the one hand, and tweens getting raped, on the other.

[Anonymous]

I would strongly encourage her to join 1-2 afterschool activities, or a sport and an after school activity. Public middle schools are huge and activities were the primary way my kid made friends, especially after switching schools.

[Anonymous]

You should homeschool her if you can’t afford private, it’s all downhill from here if you don’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should homeschool her if you can’t afford private, it’s all downhill from here if you don’t.

Yeah, everyone knows that every kid from every public school in the entire nation ends up as some sort of druggie loser or miscreant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:what is wrong with using the bathroom?

Some publics, especially large ones lock them due to drugs, sex, vaping, rapes, violence.

Um. Which ones do that?

Our middle school does close some bathrooms because of vandalism. The rest of that story sounds like urban legend.

Well, Loudon didn't close them but perhaps should have. Also, you just admitted closing bathrooms happens due to crime, so I'm not sure what your point is.

Okay you just lost all credibility.

If you can’t see the difference between vandalism and “rapes” “sex,” and “drugs,” you should not be giving advice to someone about public school.

Why did I lose credibility? And what's wrong with taken vandalism seriously? Yeah, maybe I shouldn't be talking about public school if brushing off that kind of thing is the norm.

You clearly know nothing about public school. Or the real world.

Most people see a big difference between paper towels strewn on the floor, writing on a mirror, or a broken sink handle, on the one hand, and tweens getting raped, on the other.

Minor bad behavior, left unchecked, usually leads to more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:what is wrong with using the bathroom?

Some publics, especially large ones lock them due to drugs, sex, vaping, rapes, violence.

And if they don't, you run the risk of all of the above.

for middle school?!!!

NP. But yes, definitely

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:what is wrong with using the bathroom?

Some publics, especially large ones lock them due to drugs, sex, vaping, rapes, violence.

And if they don't, you run the risk of all of the above.

for middle school?!!!

sadly, yes

Yes absolutely 100 percent large public middle schools are locking the bathroom due to rapes.

I haven’t heard of rapes..

But drugs (edibles), vaping, vandalism, bullying, is definitely happening in middle school bathrooms. Ours our locked, except during hall time and then emptied by security when the bell rings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:what is wrong with using the bathroom?

Some publics, especially large ones lock them due to drugs, sex, vaping, rapes, violence.

And if they don't, you run the risk of all of the above.

for middle school?!!!

sadly, yes

Yes absolutely 100 percent large public middle schools are locking the bathroom due to rapes.

I haven’t heard of rapes..

But drugs (edibles), vaping, vandalism, bullying, is definitely happening in middle school bathrooms. Ours our locked, except during hall time and then emptied by security when the bell rings.

Wow.

And like usual, it's the girls who suffer from this.

[Anonymous]

My kid switched in 6th. It was the perfect year. She got involved, made friends, and found her place. She is a little more “innocent”and it took a full year to “catch up.”

Advocating for yourself is the biggest switch. Private schools parents usually call teachers or administrators. That’s a no-no in public unless there’s a special need, health issue or bullying. Kids will have to learn to go to the teacher on their own when it comes to assignments.

Try to make a friend or two before school starts. It’s nice to have someone who can introduce your kid around or a place to sit at lunch.

Kids make friends in their classes. There’s a lot of group work. They start text chains so your kid should have a smart phone to participate.

Highly encourage sports or activities. You want to engaged, but not so busy where she doesn’t have time to spend with friends. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:what is wrong with using the bathroom?

Some publics, especially large ones lock them due to drugs, sex, vaping, rapes, violence.

And if they don't, you run the risk of all of the above.

for middle school?!!!

Yes, unfortunately. Vaping and violence for sure.