Can the people won are deciding on $50,000+ private or public school go elsewhere?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - when it comes down to it - you both have the right to do what you want. They are not doing anything wrong, or even anything rude. They are lucky to have a public option that is good enough for them to consider as being "in the running". If you do not have that luxury, then it is your responsibility to apply to enough private schools so that you will have a private option. If you didn't do that, that's on you.

If my kid has to go to their safety-school private for HS because they got denied by their top-tier private choices - that's the way it goes. That is exactly why the safety school was on the list (and if we had needed multiple safeties, we would have done that). Sure, it'll be sad for them (and us) compared to getting into one of those top-tier schools - but I'm not mad that someone whose child was accepted to the top-tier school is on the fence about the private vs public magnet vs public boundary.

Hoping it works out for you and your child though! And for ours.

This is OP. I am zoned for a W school so have fantastic options. My kid applied to 3 private schools and got into all three of them. But there was a lot of research and asking questions before we even applied. So no sour grapes here - just shaking my head about all of the poor planning and research public school parents seem to have done on their options.

By your own logic, you should have done better planning and research and limited yourself to 1 private school, freeing up slots at the other 2 schools for others.

[Anonymous]

This is OP. We are *not* at all wealthy and not even the “we make $450k but we are still dcurbanmoms poor humblebrag” types. Spouse and I are both long time federal government employees with advanced degrees who make average government salaries for these roles. We live in an older home and do repairs as needed, drive used cars and take very pedestrian vacations (ie, the beach and every couple of years maybe an international trip). Most of you probably have more money than we do. AND we originally came from public elementary school in late elementary school. So I am not a wealthy private school snob who doesn’t understand the value of working hard for our money.

I just can’t imagine doing what some of these posters are doing. This approach just seems very uninformed and inconsiderate of people who have narrowed their focus down to only private schools. There is a domino effect in place when you hoard spots you will likely never take and force someone who would have certainly taken that spot to come up with an alternative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. We are *not* at all wealthy and not even the “we make $450k but we are still dcurbanmoms poor humblebrag” types. Spouse and I are both long time federal government employees with advanced degrees who make average government salaries for these roles. We live in an older home and do repairs as needed, drive used cars and take very pedestrian vacations (ie, the beach and every couple of years maybe an international trip). Most of you probably have more money than we do. AND we originally came from public elementary school in late elementary school. So I am not a wealthy private school snob who doesn’t understand the value of working hard for our money.

I just can’t imagine doing what some of these posters are doing. This approach just seems very uninformed and inconsiderate of people who have narrowed their focus down to only private schools. There is a domino effect in place when you hoard spots you will likely never take and force someone who would have certainly taken that spot to come up with an alternative.

This is literally why there's a waitlist. I'm not seeing the issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. We are *not* at all wealthy and not even the “we make $450k but we are still dcurbanmoms poor humblebrag” types. Spouse and I are both long time federal government employees with advanced degrees who make average government salaries for these roles. We live in an older home and do repairs as needed, drive used cars and take very pedestrian vacations (ie, the beach and every couple of years maybe an international trip). Most of you probably have more money than we do. AND we originally came from public elementary school in late elementary school. So I am not a wealthy private school snob who doesn’t understand the value of working hard for our money.

I just can’t imagine doing what some of these posters are doing. This approach just seems very uninformed and inconsiderate of people who have narrowed their focus down to only private schools. There is a domino effect in place when you hoard spots you will likely never take and force someone who would have certainly taken that spot to come up with an alternative.

Why did you apply to more than one private school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. We are *not* at all wealthy and not even the “we make $450k but we are still dcurbanmoms poor humblebrag” types. Spouse and I are both long time federal government employees with advanced degrees who make average government salaries for these roles. We live in an older home and do repairs as needed, drive used cars and take very pedestrian vacations (ie, the beach and every couple of years maybe an international trip). Most of you probably have more money than we do. AND we originally came from public elementary school in late elementary school. So I am not a wealthy private school snob who doesn’t understand the value of working hard for our money.

I just can’t imagine doing what some of these posters are doing. This approach just seems very uninformed and inconsiderate of people who have narrowed their focus down to only private schools. There is a domino effect in place when you hoard spots you will likely never take and force someone who would have certainly taken that spot to come up with an alternative.

I am the OP of the post asking about workload. I don't understand how your kid applying to a variety of slots, knowing you'll only pick one, is OK, but my kid applying to a variety of schools, knowing we'll only pick one is terrible, just because I had a mix of public and private schools on my list. It would make about as much sense if I posted a diatribe about how people who have W options, or people who didn't show their commitment to private school by starting in Kindergarten, shouldn't be allowed to take slots. Except I wouldn't do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. We are *not* at all wealthy and not even the “we make $450k but we are still dcurbanmoms poor humblebrag” types. Spouse and I are both long time federal government employees with advanced degrees who make average government salaries for these roles. We live in an older home and do repairs as needed, drive used cars and take very pedestrian vacations (ie, the beach and every couple of years maybe an international trip). Most of you probably have more money than we do. AND we originally came from public elementary school in late elementary school. So I am not a wealthy private school snob who doesn’t understand the value of working hard for our money.

I just can’t imagine doing what some of these posters are doing. This approach just seems very uninformed and inconsiderate of people who have narrowed their focus down to only private schools. There is a domino effect in place when you hoard spots you will likely never take and force someone who would have certainly taken that spot to come up with an alternative.

OP - this is really a mind your own business scenario. Many people have given you legitimate reasons for their thought process - but even if they didn't - you don't get to control what other people do. They have done nothing wrong - you don't have to like it - but you are the one looking a bad here. Not them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. We are *not* at all wealthy and not even the “we make $450k but we are still dcurbanmoms poor humblebrag” types. Spouse and I are both long time federal government employees with advanced degrees who make average government salaries for these roles. We live in an older home and do repairs as needed, drive used cars and take very pedestrian vacations (ie, the beach and every couple of years maybe an international trip). Most of you probably have more money than we do. AND we originally came from public elementary school in late elementary school. So I am not a wealthy private school snob who doesn’t understand the value of working hard for our money.

I just can’t imagine doing what some of these posters are doing. This approach just seems very uninformed and inconsiderate of people who have narrowed their focus down to only private schools. There is a domino effect in place when you hoard spots you will likely never take and force someone who would have certainly taken that spot to come up with an alternative.

I am the OP of the post asking about workload. I don't understand how your kid applying to a variety of slots, knowing you'll only pick one, is OK, but my kid applying to a variety of schools, knowing we'll only pick one is terrible, just because I had a mix of public and private schools on my list. It would make about as much sense if I posted a diatribe about how people who have W options, or people who didn't show their commitment to private school by starting in Kindergarten, shouldn't be allowed to take slots. Except I wouldn't do that.

You articulated just what I was thinking. Why is OP trying to draw some bright universal line at those who have already "narrowed their focus" to private schools versus those who have not? It's a false and meaningless category. You're not a protected class. Schools are schools, and it's very valid to be deciding among different schools AFTER seeing where the chips fell, whether that be public magnet vs. public boundary vs. Catholic vs. independent day vs. boarding etc.

[Anonymous]

I had been ignoring this thread but the glaring typo in the thread title keeps grabbing my attention, so here I am.

OP, what other people do wrt school decisions is NUNYA BUSINESS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - when it comes down to it - you both have the right to do what you want. They are not doing anything wrong, or even anything rude. They are lucky to have a public option that is good enough for them to consider as being "in the running". If you do not have that luxury, then it is your responsibility to apply to enough private schools so that you will have a private option. If you didn't do that, that's on you.

If my kid has to go to their safety-school private for HS because they got denied by their top-tier private choices - that's the way it goes. That is exactly why the safety school was on the list (and if we had needed multiple safeties, we would have done that). Sure, it'll be sad for them (and us) compared to getting into one of those top-tier schools - but I'm not mad that someone whose child was accepted to the top-tier school is on the fence about the private vs public magnet vs public boundary.

Hoping it works out for you and your child though! And for ours.

This is OP. I am zoned for a W school so have fantastic options. My kid applied to 3 private schools and got into all three of them. But there was a lot of research and asking questions before we even applied. So no sour grapes here - just shaking my head about all of the poor planning and research public school parents seem to have done on their options.

Yikes OP. Your disdain for public school parents is palpable - and yet you were one until late elementary? Also, you are aware that those who are still debating public/private include current private school parents, correct? Based on all your responses, you have got to be a troll.

[Anonymous]

Apply to public and private, just don’t put down multiple deposits and/or take the magnet spot. Ie say yes to multiple schools. Those that do think it’s completely ok….. ://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1191848.page

[Anonymous]

If I understand this correctly, I have money and can write the check. If you are considering your PS or want FA, please do take yourself out of the game so my paying kid has a chance? Sounds squarely UNfair and like a You/OP problem.

[Anonymous]

We put a deposit on parochial then accepted private. Wrote it off (this was possible under the rules). If parochial thought it could play fair it would have not set the early deadline on purpose

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - when it comes down to it - you both have the right to do what you want. They are not doing anything wrong, or even anything rude. They are lucky to have a public option that is good enough for them to consider as being "in the running". If you do not have that luxury, then it is your responsibility to apply to enough private schools so that you will have a private option. If you didn't do that, that's on you.

If my kid has to go to their safety-school private for HS because they got denied by their top-tier private choices - that's the way it goes. That is exactly why the safety school was on the list (and if we had needed multiple safeties, we would have done that). Sure, it'll be sad for them (and us) compared to getting into one of those top-tier schools - but I'm not mad that someone whose child was accepted to the top-tier school is on the fence about the private vs public magnet vs public boundary.

Hoping it works out for you and your child though! And for ours.

This is OP. I am zoned for a W school so have fantastic options. My kid applied to 3 private schools and got into all three of them. But there was a lot of research and asking questions before we even applied. So no sour grapes here - just shaking my head about all of the poor planning and research public school parents seem to have done on their options.

Yikes OP. Your disdain for public school parents is palpable - and yet you were one until late elementary? Also, you are aware that those who are still debating public/private include current private school parents, correct? Based on all your responses, you have got to be a troll.

Wow, this is right, but so obviously wrong?! Good for OP to say this stupidity out loud

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We put a deposit on parochial then accepted private. Wrote it off (this was possible under the rules). If parochial thought it could play fair it would have not set the early deadline on purpose

Did you release the one private spot when you accepted the other private? IOW, did you have two deposits down at the same time? No? Then you are fine. Especially if you are already a private parent because, acc to OP, it’s only the public school parents who are bad bad bad.

BTW, sounds like the parochial dodged a bullet given your attitude toward a school happy to welcome your child.

[Anonymous]

Go easy on the wine OP. Yours wins for dumbest post ever.