Can the people won are deciding on $50,000+ private or public school go elsewhere?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You might prefer that your kid go to Walls vs. private school, but there's no guarantee they will get into Walls. So you apply to Walls and private schools because between private and e.g.Eastern HS, you'll definitely choose private.

Or you might anticipate getting more financial aid than you get or hoping your kid will win one of the rare merit scholarships. Your child gets in but it's going to cost more than anticipated,so you don't know if you should choose private.

Funny how it's never couched in those terms, however. That would be garner a lot more sympathy. One thread creator talked about differences in workload between a public magnet and a number of privates, and we couldn't even help them, because the actual schools were not mentioned. That OP just wanted to show off.

Why do you think people are looking for sympathy from you in particular?

[Anonymous]

No, it’s the private school parents who put down more than one deposit and hold more than one seat you should be complaining about. That’s privilege and yet people here seem to think that’s ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You might prefer that your kid go to Walls vs. private school, but there's no guarantee they will get into Walls. So you apply to Walls and private schools because between private and e.g.Eastern HS, you'll definitely choose private.

Or you might anticipate getting more financial aid than you get or hoping your kid will win one of the rare merit scholarships. Your child gets in but it's going to cost more than anticipated,so you don't know if you should choose private.

Funny how it's never couched in those terms, however. That would be garner a lot more sympathy. One thread creator talked about differences in workload between a public magnet and a number of privates, and we couldn't even help them, because the actual schools were not mentioned. That OP just wanted to show off.

As soon as that question was asked, it was answered.

[Anonymous]

Someone's mad that Larlo Larlington III didn't get into a T3.

Be thankful, maybe they'll choose public and your underwhelming kid will have a chance off the waitlist.

[Anonymous]

OP, sounds like your waitlist frustration better directed at school - whether for not offering admission right away or for giving accepted families a lot of time to decide.

[Anonymous]

OP - when it comes down to it - you both have the right to do what you want. They are not doing anything wrong, or even anything rude. They are lucky to have a public option that is good enough for them to consider as being "in the running". If you do not have that luxury, then it is your responsibility to apply to enough private schools so that you will have a private option. If you didn't do that, that's on you.

If my kid has to go to their safety-school private for HS because they got denied by their top-tier private choices - that's the way it goes. That is exactly why the safety school was on the list (and if we had needed multiple safeties, we would have done that). Sure, it'll be sad for them (and us) compared to getting into one of those top-tier schools - but I'm not mad that someone whose child was accepted to the top-tier school is on the fence about the private vs public magnet vs public boundary.

Hoping it works out for you and your child though! And for ours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - when it comes down to it - you both have the right to do what you want. They are not doing anything wrong, or even anything rude. They are lucky to have a public option that is good enough for them to consider as being "in the running". If you do not have that luxury, then it is your responsibility to apply to enough private schools so that you will have a private option. If you didn't do that, that's on you.

If my kid has to go to their safety-school private for HS because they got denied by their top-tier private choices - that's the way it goes. That is exactly why the safety school was on the list (and if we had needed multiple safeties, we would have done that). Sure, it'll be sad for them (and us) compared to getting into one of those top-tier schools - but I'm not mad that someone whose child was accepted to the top-tier school is on the fence about the private vs public magnet vs public boundary.

Hoping it works out for you and your child though! And for ours.

This is OP. I am zoned for a W school so have fantastic options. My kid applied to 3 private schools and got into all three of them. But there was a lot of research and asking questions before we even applied. So no sour grapes here - just shaking my head about all of the poor planning and research public school parents seem to have done on their options.

[Anonymous]

Things change over the course of the application year.
Walls and TJ both notify too late for families to decide in advance. Plenty of other reasons too. Private schools are better for somethings; certainly not everything.

It’s not your problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - when it comes down to it - you both have the right to do what you want. They are not doing anything wrong, or even anything rude. They are lucky to have a public option that is good enough for them to consider as being "in the running". If you do not have that luxury, then it is your responsibility to apply to enough private schools so that you will have a private option. If you didn't do that, that's on you.

If my kid has to go to their safety-school private for HS because they got denied by their top-tier private choices - that's the way it goes. That is exactly why the safety school was on the list (and if we had needed multiple safeties, we would have done that). Sure, it'll be sad for them (and us) compared to getting into one of those top-tier schools - but I'm not mad that someone whose child was accepted to the top-tier school is on the fence about the private vs public magnet vs public boundary.

Hoping it works out for you and your child though! And for ours.

This is OP. I am zoned for a W school so have fantastic options. My kid applied to 3 private schools and got into all three of them. But there was a lot of research and asking questions before we even applied. So no sour grapes here - just shaking my head about all of the poor planning and research public school parents seem to have done on their options.

You should be shaking your head if only to get all that water or earwax or whatever is in there making it hard for you to hear what many people are saying.

You don’t know what you are talking about. Parents have done their research. They are waiting until they have all the pertinent information before deciding. They do not have all that info yet. Would you have your child decide before they got all the answers on their applications? No, I didn’t think so.

Now go ask the private school parents you know who have all acceptances in hand but have put down two or more deposits because they simply cannot make up their minds despite having ALL the info they need.

[Anonymous]

This post is a new level of obnoxious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This post is a new level of obnoxious.

Not possible. This is DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - when it comes down to it - you both have the right to do what you want. They are not doing anything wrong, or even anything rude. They are lucky to have a public option that is good enough for them to consider as being "in the running". If you do not have that luxury, then it is your responsibility to apply to enough private schools so that you will have a private option. If you didn't do that, that's on you.

If my kid has to go to their safety-school private for HS because they got denied by their top-tier private choices - that's the way it goes. That is exactly why the safety school was on the list (and if we had needed multiple safeties, we would have done that). Sure, it'll be sad for them (and us) compared to getting into one of those top-tier schools - but I'm not mad that someone whose child was accepted to the top-tier school is on the fence about the private vs public magnet vs public boundary.

Hoping it works out for you and your child though! And for ours.

This is OP. I am zoned for a W school so have fantastic options. My kid applied to 3 private schools and got into all three of them. But there was a lot of research and asking questions before we even applied. So no sour grapes here - just shaking my head about all of the poor planning and research public school parents seem to have done on their options.

I'm glad you are in great shape. I think you need to just let it go though. People arrive at private school in many ways and for many reasons. Count your blessings that you have the outcome you are comfortable with and be thankful that this part of your life is not complicated. You don't have hard decisions to make on this one. That leaves you more time for other facets of life that may take up your mental energy.

[Anonymous]

100%

Anonymous wrote:No, it’s the private school parents who put down more than one deposit and hold more than one seat you should be complaining about. That’s privilege and yet people here seem to think that’s ok.

[Anonymous]

So basically you're frustrated that someone might be swayed by the opportunity to save $50,000+? You feel like they're less "committed" than you are? Should private only be available to those for whom money is no object? I'm not even talking about FA, but perhaps a family who sacrifices to pay tuition? You live in a bubble, OP. If a family applies to multiple safety privates is that ok? Or is that also not allowed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You might prefer that your kid go to Walls vs. private school, but there's no guarantee they will get into Walls. So you apply to Walls and private schools because between private and e.g.Eastern HS, you'll definitely choose private.

Or you might anticipate getting more financial aid than you get or hoping your kid will win one of the rare merit scholarships. Your child gets in but it's going to cost more than anticipated,so you don't know if you should choose private.

This describes our situation almost perfectly. Not getting in to a selective public - or not knowing, as decisions in DC don’t come down until April 1st - and getting less aid than hoped (but still hoping on a reconsideration) makes the decision very difficult.