Can the people won are deciding on $50,000+ private or public school go elsewhere?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP - when it comes down to it - you both have the right to do what you want. They are not doing anything wrong, or even anything rude. They are lucky to have a public option that is good enough for them to consider as being "in the running". If you do not have that luxury, then it is your responsibility to apply to enough private schools so that you will have a private option. If you didn't do that, that's on you.

If my kid has to go to their safety-school private for HS because they got denied by their top-tier private choices - that's the way it goes. That is exactly why the safety school was on the list (and if we had needed multiple safeties, we would have done that). Sure, it'll be sad for them (and us) compared to getting into one of those top-tier schools - but I'm not mad that someone whose child was accepted to the top-tier school is on the fence about the private vs public magnet vs public boundary.

Hoping it works out for you and your child though! And for ours.

This is OP. I am zoned for a W school so have fantastic options. My kid applied to 3 private schools and got into all three of them. But there was a lot of research and asking questions before we even applied. So no sour grapes here - just shaking my head about all of the poor planning and research public school parents seem to have done on their options.

My goodness. What an incredible post. DCUM should have some sort of sticky thread for amazing contributions like this. I’ll have to bookmark this for posterity. If I could only have a printout of the post signed by the precious individual who authored it, I’d die a happy DCUMer. Never should anyone question why I spend so many hours a week on this site with quality content like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my jurisdiction, we have to apply to specialty programs in the public school. We are weighing the public specialty option {which was not a guarantee) with the private options.

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Some of us are currently private parents applying to selective publics and privates. We wouldn't choose our neighborhood school and have to wait for acceptance from both before we have anything to decide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree with OP. Or that an anonymous board is going to give you reliable information. Do the work, ask people that you know actually have kids in the school.

Some of us don't know parents of kids in the selective schools - public or private.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You might prefer that your kid go to Walls vs. private school, but there's no guarantee they will get into Walls. So you apply to Walls and private schools because between private and e.g.Eastern HS, you'll definitely choose private.

Or you might anticipate getting more financial aid than you get or hoping your kid will win one of the rare merit scholarships. Your child gets in but it's going to cost more than anticipated,so you don't know if you should choose private.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, it’s the private school parents who put down more than one deposit and hold more than one seat you should be complaining about. That’s privilege and yet people here seem to think that’s ok.

I do all the above. We applied selective public, paid deposit on current private, applied for additional 2 privates. My child got into one private, WL at the other, and I don’t have the decision on the selective public. Child has a ranking and wants the WL school first, followed by the public, then the other 2 privates where child is “occupying a space”. We will absolutely free these spaces if child gets one of the other 2 options. Truth is, we are only looking out for our kid, not yours. We follow the contract rules. Deal with it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, sounds like your waitlist frustration better directed at school - whether for not offering admission right away or for giving accepted families a lot of time to decide.

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It sounds like they got in to places your child did not like Sidwell, GDS, Maret and others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - when it comes down to it - you both have the right to do what you want. They are not doing anything wrong, or even anything rude. They are lucky to have a public option that is good enough for them to consider as being "in the running". If you do not have that luxury, then it is your responsibility to apply to enough private schools so that you will have a private option. If you didn't do that, that's on you.

If my kid has to go to their safety-school private for HS because they got denied by their top-tier private choices - that's the way it goes. That is exactly why the safety school was on the list (and if we had needed multiple safeties, we would have done that). Sure, it'll be sad for them (and us) compared to getting into one of those top-tier schools - but I'm not mad that someone whose child was accepted to the top-tier school is on the fence about the private vs public magnet vs public boundary.

Hoping it works out for you and your child though! And for ours.

This is OP. I am zoned for a W school so have fantastic options. My kid applied to 3 private schools and got into all three of them. But there was a lot of research and asking questions before we even applied. So no sour grapes here - just shaking my head about all of the poor planning and research public school parents seem to have done on their options.

My goodness. What an incredible post. DCUM should have some sort of sticky thread for amazing contributions like this. I’ll have to bookmark this for posterity. If I could only have a printout of the post signed by the precious individual who authored it, I’d die a happy DCUMer. Never should anyone question why I spend so many hours a week on this site with quality content like this.

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I think most people are considering private versus magnet and you can't do shadow days for a magnet until you are admitted so you don't even know if it's a possibility. Also staff, curriculums, student bodies change from year to year at private or public so it's worth it to get the latest information. What's it to you anyway? Your child did not get into a magnet right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

This comes off as being bitter about being on the WL or taking up seats, maybe you should have done something to make your child more competitive?

THIS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree with OP. Or that an anonymous board is going to give you reliable information. Do the work, ask people that you know actually have kids in the school.

Not everyone knows people with kids in the school. Or perhaps they have concerns they’d rather not express or share with those who know them personally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, it’s the private school parents who put down more than one deposit and hold more than one seat you should be complaining about. That’s privilege and yet people here seem to think that’s ok.

I do all the above. We applied selective public, paid deposit on current private, applied for additional 2 privates. My child got into one private, WL at the other, and I don’t have the decision on the selective public. Child has a ranking and wants the WL school first, followed by the public, then the other 2 privates where child is “occupying a space”. We will absolutely free these spaces if child gets one of the other 2 options. Truth is, we are only looking out for our kid, not yours. We follow the contract rules. Deal with it!

Acc to OP, you are good. It’s only the ignorant, lazy public school parents who don’t value education as much as you do who need to make way for you and all the other private school parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After you’ve applied and been admitted to a top private school isn’t the time to finally decide whether your public school is a suitable option. You can figure all of that out before applying. Really you can! All of the information is already there.

It’s annoying to people who have committed to private school, ONLY applied to private schools and properly assessed their options before applying. It’s not like the random public school you are considering just randomly popped up over night. You have the data you need. You’re taking up seats for kids who definitely know they want private school while you twiddle your thumbs asking dumb questions and asking people to make comparisons for you.

If I'd already decided I wouldn't have been able to consider this late breaking evidence of how stupid some private school parents are.

[Anonymous]

I think for some people, it is a question of finances, OP. They may think for example that if their kid gets into the coveted Sidwell or the likes, they may be able to shame grandma into paying when they know they cannot afford it themselves. Or, they may be hoping for a big raise or bonus to help pay.
Others here have raised other good points.

[Anonymous]

This is the dumbest thread ever. People can do whatever they want within the rules.

[Anonymous]

OP, do you believe every thread on this DCUM forum has to appeal to every possible poster? Or only to you specifically? I'm trying to make sense of your post, grievances, and doubling-down response. You must not have read any replies that didn't already fit with your opinion. It's very valid to be deciding now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, it’s the private school parents who put down more than one deposit and hold more than one seat you should be complaining about. That’s privilege and yet people here seem to think that’s ok.

I do all the above. We applied selective public, paid deposit on current private, applied for additional 2 privates. My child got into one private, WL at the other, and I don’t have the decision on the selective public. Child has a ranking and wants the WL school first, followed by the public, then the other 2 privates where child is “occupying a space”. We will absolutely free these spaces if child gets one of the other 2 options. Truth is, we are only looking out for our kid, not yours. We follow the contract rules. Deal with it!

Acc to OP, you are good. It’s only the ignorant, lazy public school parents who don’t value education as much as you do who need to make way for you and all the other private school parents.

No, because PP considered a public option which is an indication that they aren’t really committed to educational quality compared to OP who made a point to let us know they are in a W school and didn’t consider it.