Father in 50's, Mother in 40's
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Anonymous
Not so sure about that |
Anonymous
| It's fine. One of my friends is mid fifties and her dh is 90 and filthy rich. Still has a couple kids in college. I wouldn't do it but it works for them. |
Anonymous
Is he tired often? Are you. Middle age does a number on our bodies. |
Anonymous
I know she is just waiting for him ro croak. No other reason for that age gap. |
Anonymous
What is your agenda here, troll? Why do you care so much about other folks' family lives? |
Anonymous
Dp. These people who call any and everything that they don’t like a “troll.” That would make you a troll bc someone isn’t going to like what you say. You’re a troll, I’m a troll, my neighbor is a troll, my sister’s husband’s colleague is a troll, my dog-sitter is a troll, the lady in church 3 seats behind me is a troll, the check out clerk at Safeway is a troll. |
Anonymous
Gaslighting at its finest. Have you not read this thread? PP is right. Normal people can see that. |
Anonymous
🤮 |
Anonymous
He can’t get it up |
Anonymous
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You know what, OP? It's freaking awesome.
Being an older parent is great. I'm calmer, more patient, and I understand more about myself and others. My marriage is in a mature, understanding place. I think it's harder to be older when kids are little (under 5 is hard on older parents with older bodies and older energy levels). But you outsource what you can. Also, we only had one kid, and that was a huge help. But then as your kid gets older (ours is 8) I think the extra age and wisdom, and greater financial stability, only helps. I'd much rather parent a tween in my late 40s than my late 30s (or, as my parents did, their late 20s -- what a mess). I look forward to being a mom in her 50s during my child's teenage years. I feel like we don't stress so much about college as other parents seem to, whether it's paying for it or getting into the "right" college or whatever. DH and I both have college degrees and I have a professional degree, but we've been around long enough to know people from all kinds of schools and educational backgrounds who did well in life, and to understand it's not about going to the best school or even getting the best grades. It's about understanding yourself and what you want, and living intentionally with your goals and values in mind. I did not understand that in my younger iterations. So that's my advice. It's great. Lean into what is great about it. The stuff that's harder, look for help and hire it if you need to. But at the end of the day, I wouldn't not go back and have children earlier. Obviously I'm lucky to have been able to have a child later in life, but if it works out, I think it's secretly better than having them younger, especially as your kids get older and gain the benefit of older, wiser, more established parents. |
Anonymous
Great bit on the gap lifestyle for that first kid and the later kids... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yl793YI9E88 |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
| 50's tend to open pandora's box of health issues for a significant percentage of population so its a bigger risk, however if both parents are healthy and affluent, it may work. Baldwin had like half a dozen, he must be in his 60's? |
Anonymous
| Have you noticed that OP has given absolutely no additional details? We don’t even know if OP is the 40 year old mom or 50 year old dad. |
Anonymous
No it's not. |