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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You know what, OP? It's freaking awesome.

Being an older parent is great. I'm calmer, more patient, and I understand more about myself and others. My marriage is in a mature, understanding place. I think it's harder to be older when kids are little (under 5 is hard on older parents with older bodies and older energy levels). But you outsource what you can. Also, we only had one kid, and that was a huge help.

But then as your kid gets older (ours is 8) I think the extra age and wisdom, and greater financial stability, only helps. I'd much rather parent a tween in my late 40s than my late 30s (or, as my parents did, their late 20s -- what a mess). I look forward to being a mom in her 50s during my child's teenage years. I feel like we don't stress so much about college as other parents seem to, whether it's paying for it or getting into the "right" college or whatever. DH and I both have college degrees and I have a professional degree, but we've been around long enough to know people from all kinds of schools and educational backgrounds who did well in life, and to understand it's not about going to the best school or even getting the best grades. It's about understanding yourself and what you want, and living intentionally with your goals and values in mind. I did not understand that in my younger iterations.

So that's my advice. It's great. Lean into what is great about it. The stuff that's harder, look for help and hire it if you need to. But at the end of the day, I wouldn't not go back and have children earlier. Obviously I'm lucky to have been able to have a child later in life, but if it works out, I think it's secretly better than having them younger, especially as your kids get older and gain the benefit of older, wiser, more established parents.[/quote]

Great bit on the gap lifestyle for that first kid and the later kids...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yl793YI9E88[/quote]

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