Things that embarrass you about your spouse

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DH goes to sleep around 750pm every day. He does have to wake up early, but it seems like he can’t stay awake past 8pm to save his life. Then I have to listen to his loud and scary snoring for hours. He wears clothes from Costco.

Over the last few years he has let his teeth deteriorate and will not go to the dentist. I think he’s embarrassed.

But I’m reaching a boiling point on these things (among others). He is a very good father and provider, but I feel like that’s all he is to me now. I’ve tried to talk to him about these things and it goes no where.

Your DH has sleep apnea, get him to the doctor. That is absolutely text book signs.

isn't sleep apnea waking yourself up with a start?

Not all the time. He absolutely needs to ask for a sleep apnea consultation. He's shaving years off his lifespan right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH goes to sleep around 750pm every day. He does have to wake up early, but it seems like he can’t stay awake past 8pm to save his life. Then I have to listen to his loud and scary snoring for hours. He wears clothes from Costco.

Over the last few years he has let his teeth deteriorate and will not go to the dentist. I think he’s embarrassed.

But I’m reaching a boiling point on these things (among others). He is a very good father and provider, but I feel like that’s all he is to me now. I’ve tried to talk to him about these things and it goes no where.

Your DH has sleep apnea, get him to the doctor. That is absolutely text book signs.

isn't sleep apnea waking yourself up with a start?

Not all the time. He absolutely needs to ask for a sleep apnea consultation. He's shaving years off his lifespan right now.

so all snoring indicates sleep apnea?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think we all have things about our spouse that are a bit cringe. My spouse talks - a lot. Not about himself but if you mention a vacation he will ask you 20 questions about it. Not in a creepy way, he is just genuinely interested. He barely drinks alcohol and yet we’re often the ones to close down a party. Sometimes I worry people are trapped in a conversation with him. When we’re hosting, I worry he doesn’t circulate and spends an entire party talking to 1 or 2 people.

Here is what I do. Nothing. If we’re at a wedding or other long event with appetizers, I will bring him a small plate of food or a drink every once in a while to help him recognize the passage of time. He will literally start talking 15 feet inside the door and not move for 2 hours otherwise. The people he is talking to are adults. They can end the conversation and move on if they want to. He is my spouse, but his behavior does not reflect on me. Also it’s 90% my hang up as a more shy, introverted person. People often go out of their way to tell me how nice and interesting he is.

This is my husband, but he DOES talk about himself. People have remarked to me on it. But like you, PP, I don't view it as a reflection on me; I'll smile and say, yeah, he can really get going on that topic. I try to avoid him at gatherings for this very reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH goes to sleep around 750pm every day. He does have to wake up early, but it seems like he can’t stay awake past 8pm to save his life. Then I have to listen to his loud and scary snoring for hours. He wears clothes from Costco.

Over the last few years he has let his teeth deteriorate and will not go to the dentist. I think he’s embarrassed.

But I’m reaching a boiling point on these things (among others). He is a very good father and provider, but I feel like that’s all he is to me now. I’ve tried to talk to him about these things and it goes no where.

This must be very hard on your marital love-life (Ie sex).

[Anonymous]

I had to tell my husband to change out of his hole in the bum, flapping ripped pocket, ripped kneed pajama pants because he was going to work and "not going to be on camera from the waist up"

I can't hang out socially with him so that eliminates a lot of the embarassment and friction.

[Anonymous]

My ex constantly fronted about money.

This belied the fact that I had a trust fund and was actually supporting our lifestyle, which he couldn’t afford.

[Anonymous]

All of these DH have untreated mental illnesses. Don't know if it's anxiety or depression or what but these folks need help

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi gut and his table manners. I probably wouldn't be so disgusted by his table manners if I didn't connect it with his weight gain.

+1
I'm constantly telling DH to get his feet off the dining table WHILE WE ARE EATING

He's already banished from family vacations and eating out with us. But he's this close to being unwelcome at the table. Who knows maybe that's his evil genius plan all along

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of these DH have untreated mental illnesses. Don't know if it's anxiety or depression or what but these folks need help

OK, but please do not ignore the research proving:

- the overwhelming majority of women here are mentally ill.

[Anonymous]

My DH sometimes goes on uninterruptible talking streaks in front of others. It's embarrassing. He can't see that he is being inappropriate.

And he wears too-tight jeans and t-shirts. Like he is a gay sailor in the 1970s.

But if I try to bring up any of this, no matter how tactfully, he sulks for weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of these DH have untreated mental illnesses. Don't know if it's anxiety or depression or what but these folks need help

OK, but please do not ignore the research proving:

- the overwhelming majority of women here are mentally ill.

Please cite your sources

[Anonymous]

OP, if those are your biggest issues with DH, count yourself lucky.

My DH will lie to save face even when the lie is already exposed - he will call black white and not budge. He also caves to slightest social pressure from anyone - even casual friends and expects me to fall in line with whatever someone else wants. It's very tiring. I realized he does it out of some sort of inner shame and trauma conditioning, but it still sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of these DH have untreated mental illnesses. Don't know if it's anxiety or depression or what but these folks need help

OK, but please do not ignore the research proving:

- the overwhelming majority of women here are mentally ill.

Please cite your sources

You did not know this fact? Really??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of these DH have untreated mental illnesses. Don't know if it's anxiety or depression or what but these folks need help

OK, but please do not ignore the research proving:

- the overwhelming majority of women here are mentally ill.

Please cite your sources

You did not know this fact? Really??

Women in the DC area are well-over 90% democrats.

https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/over-50-percent-white-liberal-women-under-30-mental-health-condition

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of these DH have untreated mental illnesses. Don't know if it's anxiety or depression or what but these folks need help

OK, but please do not ignore the research proving:

- the overwhelming majority of women here are mentally ill.

Please cite your sources

You did not know this fact? Really??

Women in the DC area are well-over 90% democrats.

https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/over-50-percent-white-liberal-women-under-30-mental-health-condition

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