Men 45+ on OLD: are they all broke?

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The best men that age are married, period.

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Anonymous wrote:The best men that age are married, period.

Just listen to all the wives here on DCUM for proof of that.

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Can't you ladies ever enjoy -some- downscaled experiences? Less elaborate, expensive travel. Less costly entertainment. No one is flexible?

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Well, if they aren't broke they wouldn't have to be on OLD.

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Anonymous wrote:The best men that age are married, period.

Just listen to all the wives here on DCUM for proof of that.

You think the ones that are happy are complaining about their husbands?

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I finally met a lovely man. I think he runs deficit of about $700 every month. He works his tail off and didn't buy anything outrages. It's temporary and I will gladly help him fix it. I would even help him if we weren't together.

Really? You would financially help a single adult man? Mega turn off.

Yeah, nope. I’ve established my life independently and am not tying myself to just another dead weight.

So what kind of income/wealth do you expect a man to have?

Enough disposable income to match mine. Enough free time to match mine.

Sure, but what constitutes matching yours?

I'm a woman make about 300K a year. My average weekend outing is about $150; I take one large vacation a year at about $20K, couple small trips in the range of $5k. So it's about $15,000 on travel and $3600 on dates that a BF would need to match my expenses on entertainment and travel only. If we move in together, we would be saving on mortgage/rent so not a bad deal for him overall

I’m similar to you financially as are most of my friends. We’ve all come to realize that we are the ones that can afford our lifestyle. It means we don’t date and while we miss it, we don’t miss the drama that goes along with being in a relationship. We go out together on the weekends and always have a good time. And we travel together. I haven’t met a man in a similar financial situation yet.

Yea, because if he makes less he will resent the woman for making more, will be emasculated causing all the relationship drama. I tried to subsidize men financially, it didn't work out well either (these were professional men making about 200K but with CS obligtions which I don't have). So I guess single wealthy women should prepare for solitude entering elderly years

You want the older widowers. The ones I know were happily married, have adult children, and now have substantial assets but no one to share their lives with. We’re talking 60s and 70s.

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Anonymous wrote:So, you were lucky enough to meet several of them. You are are doing well yourself. Why not help them out with ideas how to fix their situation.
I finally met a lovely man. I think he runs deficit of about $700 every month. He works his tail off and didn't buy anything outrages. It's temporary and I will gladly help him fix it. I would even help him if we weren't together.
I have met so many losers. There is no way I'm not hanging out with him because of money. He works so hard, which is extremely hot.

If you have a mommy kink, good for you for finding someone who enjoys being taken care of.

Most women (of any age) do not want to finance nearly a thousand dollars a month for a boyfriend (or rather a sugarbaby or is it sugargeriatric?)

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Anonymous wrote:No, they are not all broke. I personally know a very, very wealthy, very successful man who did on line dating after his divorce. (His ex cheated on him.) He ended up meeting and marrying a woman through friends, but for about a year, he was out there on-line. I was a little surprised to be honest, but it happened.

Yea, I dated a law partner who was making couple million/year, a VP of a large consulting company ($500k/year) and a Fed with good GS-15 salary plus military pension, so probably at 350K annual income. OP is just not attractive to these types

LOL. SES is like 170 and a platinum pension is maybe 75k so far from 300k sweetie. Keep trollin.

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I finally met a lovely man. I think he runs deficit of about $700 every month. He works his tail off and didn't buy anything outrages. It's temporary and I will gladly help him fix it. I would even help him if we weren't together.

Really? You would financially help a single adult man? Mega turn off.

Yeah, nope. I’ve established my life independently and am not tying myself to just another dead weight.

So what kind of income/wealth do you expect a man to have?

Enough disposable income to match mine. Enough free time to match mine.

Sure, but what constitutes matching yours?

I'm a woman make about 300K a year. My average weekend outing is about $150; I take one large vacation a year at about $20K, couple small trips in the range of $5k. So it's about $15,000 on travel and $3600 on dates that a BF would need to match my expenses on entertainment and travel only. If we move in together, we would be saving on mortgage/rent so not a bad deal for him overall

I’m similar to you financially as are most of my friends. We’ve all come to realize that we are the ones that can afford our lifestyle. It means we don’t date and while we miss it, we don’t miss the drama that goes along with being in a relationship. We go out together on the weekends and always have a good time. And we travel together. I haven’t met a man in a similar financial situation yet.

Sincere question: are you Black? All of the details in the previous 2 posts ring true for my Black professional female acquaintances. I''m not so sure they actually clear >$300K (unless they have some small biz side gig?) but they live life on IG as if they do.

And they don't date, for the most part. In Maryland, fwiw

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I finally met a lovely man. I think he runs deficit of about $700 every month. He works his tail off and didn't buy anything outrages. It's temporary and I will gladly help him fix it. I would even help him if we weren't together.

Really? You would financially help a single adult man? Mega turn off.

Yeah, nope. I’ve established my life independently and am not tying myself to just another dead weight.

So what kind of income/wealth do you expect a man to have?

Enough disposable income to match mine. Enough free time to match mine.

Sure, but what constitutes matching yours?

I'm a woman make about 300K a year. My average weekend outing is about $150; I take one large vacation a year at about $20K, couple small trips in the range of $5k. So it's about $15,000 on travel and $3600 on dates that a BF would need to match my expenses on entertainment and travel only. If we move in together, we would be saving on mortgage/rent so not a bad deal for him overall

Unless you are thin and 25 years old, no deal lady.

Married 45yo here. Whenever I think about getting divorced, I come on here and feel grateful to have DH. I can’t imagine being single and meeting a man who doesn’t have bare minimum what pp is requesting. I would think the guy should be taking me away but to not even be able to afford his half for the date and trips??? No thanks.

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Anonymous wrote:Can't you ladies ever enjoy -some- downscaled experiences? Less elaborate, expensive travel. Less costly entertainment. No one is flexible?

It wears thin. I’m able to expand my world as my kids go off to college- not willing to restrict my options because of limited finances in a partner.

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I finally met a lovely man. I think he runs deficit of about $700 every month. He works his tail off and didn't buy anything outrages. It's temporary and I will gladly help him fix it. I would even help him if we weren't together.

Really? You would financially help a single adult man? Mega turn off.

Yeah, nope. I’ve established my life independently and am not tying myself to just another dead weight.

So what kind of income/wealth do you expect a man to have?

Enough disposable income to match mine. Enough free time to match mine.

Sure, but what constitutes matching yours?

I'm a woman make about 300K a year. My average weekend outing is about $150; I take one large vacation a year at about $20K, couple small trips in the range of $5k. So it's about $15,000 on travel and $3600 on dates that a BF would need to match my expenses on entertainment and travel only. If we move in together, we would be saving on mortgage/rent so not a bad deal for him overall

I’m similar to you financially as are most of my friends. We’ve all come to realize that we are the ones that can afford our lifestyle. It means we don’t date and while we miss it, we don’t miss the drama that goes along with being in a relationship. We go out together on the weekends and always have a good time. And we travel together. I haven’t met a man in a similar financial situation yet.

Sincere question: are you Black? All of the details in the previous 2 posts ring true for my Black professional female acquaintances. I''m not so sure they actually clear >$300K (unless they have some small biz side gig?) but they live life on IG as if they do.

And they don't date, for the most part. In Maryland, fwiw

I'm white. In MD as well. My old college friends are also in similar situations in CA, Fla, and NY.

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I have plenty in the bank but many women I've dated tell me that I'm above average but nothing specialz financially speaking, because there are many other men around town with millions more.

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Anonymous wrote:No, they are not all broke. I personally know a very, very wealthy, very successful man who did on line dating after his divorce. (His ex cheated on him.) He ended up meeting and marrying a woman through friends, but for about a year, he was out there on-line. I was a little surprised to be honest, but it happened.

Yea, I dated a law partner who was making couple million/year, a VP of a large consulting company ($500k/year) and a Fed with good GS-15 salary plus military pension, so probably at 350K annual income. OP is just not attractive to these types

LOL. SES is like 170 and a platinum pension is maybe 75k so far from 300k sweetie. Keep trollin.

I would not consider a divorced fed with likely kids a guy who is well off financially. I’m sure he could afford to take you to Shake shack.

[Anonymous]

Not sure where the single men in this area are that are not broke. if someone knows help me out. haha tired of running into divorced 40 year olds who have shit jobs but yet want a perfect 10 that looks like they are 25.